Yesha Callahan

Why Must Women Keep Sh*t Brewing In The Office?

 

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I tend to think that I’m able to get along with everyone, whether it’s a male or female, especially when it comes to working with people.  Because my job provides me with a lot of autonomy, I’m the type of person that gets in the office, do what I have to do & leave and that’s when I don’t decide to work from home. I wouldn’t say I was a social butterfly at work, but I try to remain cordial to everyone. Every once in a while, I’ll engage in the ‘how was your weekend’ conversation, with a few people, but most of the time you’ll find me in my office, doing my job.

Today, I realized that I hate the women, and I use the term women lightly, that I work with. Why must women constantly keep shit brewing at work? I don’t understand how some people can get any work done, while they’re worrying about the work that I’m doing or they assume not doing. I swear today I was minutes away from taking the decompressed can of air & spraying it in a few faces. My assistant today, had the audacity to come and sit down in my office and attempt to warn me about certain people who made mention about me working from home & not being in the office. I wanted to say to her: “Hello bitch? I’ve been working the same schedule for the past 3 yrs, don’t you think I know who the ‘haters’ are already? Just because you choose to socialize with them & gossip, doesn’t mean you need to come back and report to me and if you were trying to be of service, then you’d name names”.

Ugh!

Why must people try to test me. They don’t know me very well at all.

So I sat there as she went on & on, and I already knew who she was getting her information from, considering she’s bosom buddies with someone else in our office, who likes to stick her hooked nose in other people’s business. I made sure I told her that considering I’ve been here longer than her, I know the office politics, and it’s nothing that hasn’t been said before, but if she’d like to help spread even more bullshit, be my guess, but to let her little ‘birdie’ know, that as long as she’s worrying about me doing my job, obviously hers isn’t getting done.

This is prime reason why I can’t stand working with women. Someone is always playing the role of the gossip monger. How hard is it to come into work and just shut the fuck up and do your damn job? It’s not rocket science.

After I received my so-called ‘warning’ from my assistant, I called my old assistant and had a good laugh about it. It was like old times again, both of us laughing about how people who can’t perform their own duties, raising an eyebrow at mine. I knew I could count on her to calm me down, before I started firing off assault missiles via email and telling a few people about themselves.

Tomorrow when I get back into my office, my theme song will be Rockwell’s “Somebody’s Watching Me”. I already have the You Tube link ready in an email to send to the bloodhound gang members in my office. Hopefully they’ll get a good laugh out of it, because I’m definitely going to laugh as I leave work, once again at 2:15 p.m., while they’re still wondering how I manage to squeeze 8 hours of work into a 5 ½ hour day, whereas they can’t seem to get anything done within their 8 hour schedule.

 

Have you dealt with dirty office politics & people who feel the need to gossip and keep drama going?

  1. April 21, 2009 - Reply

    AMEN AMEN AMEN! It is just best to stay to yourself… because most people like to CREATE drama out of nothing…they need to be amused.

    • April 22, 2009 - Reply

      @lady kinnks

      You can’t even stay to yourself nowadays, b/c some people will keep mess going regardless!

      • April 22, 2009 - Reply

        @[fung'ke] [blak] [chik]

        When the gossip mongers come to me I keep asking them silly questions until they go away!!
        “Well what did she say about you?”
        “O nothing?”
        “Well what does she say when ur not there?”
        “O nothing…..or nobody told you?”
        “Does she know you’re in here talking about her now?”… ETC!

  2. April 21, 2009 - Reply

    I don’t know what it is with women starting ish in the office either. I am an executive assistant, and this profession is RIFE with insecure, jealous miserable hags who don’t understand you don’t want to be their BFF. I had one broad cause so much havoc in one job, a few of us who were sane consulted with a labor attorney re: harassmet charges. Unfotunately labor laws don’t cover batshit crazy so we had to deal with it.
    Re: your situation, if i were you i would not even send them any emails. People like this get even angrier when you ig them and go on your merry way at 2:15 pm. Whistle happily on your way out and make sure they hear you.

    • April 22, 2009 - Reply

      @BluTopaz

      LMAO @ ‘labor laws don’t cover batshit crazy’.
      You’re right, I’m not sending anything and I don’t plan on changing how I operate in the office, but hopefully my asst. now realizes she’s on the perm. shit list for bringing garbage to my attention.

  3. April 21, 2009 - Reply

    I know exactly what you are talking about! Females are so damn evil; always assuming and don’t know shit. Always getting full off of your name because it is always in their mouth. It is just so sad how women are so damn catty and messy. I feel for you because I have been there and done that. And it is really bad when you in a management position because they are gunning for you all the time. I always had the gun pointed at me, but I dared them to pull the trigger.
    The truth is…Bitches hate Divas and will spend their entire life trying to figure out how to become more like the Diva or pull her down to their level!
    Hi Diva!

    • April 22, 2009 - Reply

      @Nubeauti

      Evil is an understatement. I’ve had my own bouts with being evil, but I learned that it’s not even worth the effort. Crabs in a barrel! But what they fail to realize is that, nothing that they’re doing hasn’t been done before. I mean seriously the schtick gets old after a while!

  4. April 22, 2009 - Reply

    I think it’s a vagina thing. Yeah, its vagina envy; yup, thats it. Women get jealous of other women and what they are able to get away with because they don’t have any idea just how tight the vagina is. See, the perception is that you’re able to get away with working from home because obviously you do Kegels and have a tight vagina. The beef is that they just don’t know how tight it is, and your ability to make grown men cry.
    Damn, I gotta write about that one…
    Haha

    • April 22, 2009 - Reply

      @RiPPa

      OMG!!! Why must you put me in tears so early in the morning! LMAO!!!

  5. April 22, 2009 - Reply

    This is why I am so glad I am a one woman office. As a property manager of 150 units, I have an entire office to myself. I have four maintenance and groundskeeping staff under me, all whom are men and keep their minds on work and away from pettiness. I enjoy not having to detail with the pettiness and childishness that occurs officing with other women.
    At my job before this one, it was constant gossip that caused me to get involved in several instances that I had no business being in. It was horrid. Women love to tear other women down. There is no sisterhood. It’s jealous and petty.

  6. April 22, 2009 - Reply

    I’ve said it time and time again…I prefer to work with men. Some women can be catty, so friggin’ indecisive, and the list goes on. Much to my chagrin, I’m in a female dominated field. It’s situations like this that make me grateful for being able to work at home full-time.

  7. April 23, 2009 - Reply

    I miss those days when I worked alone! I'm so jealous!

  8. April 23, 2009 - Reply

    Full-time working from home is my next move! I can't deal with office politics & rhetoric much longer.

  9. April 23, 2009 - Reply

    i figured you'd get a kick outta that. i'm still gonna blog it tho…

  10. April 23, 2009 - Reply

    dont you already work fulltime from home?

    lol

  11. April 23, 2009 - Reply

    It will never END because women don't know how to uplift one another. Most bitches, yup, bitches are to concerned with the next woman's business, etc.. I smile, look cute and keeps it moving.

    I just make sure I'm not bringing a bone so think I'm carrying one back.

  12. April 23, 2009 - Reply

    I've haven't experienced office gossip directed towards me, thank God. But I have seen it in action. I've learned to stay away from those gossip mongers, CUZ..I.DON'T.HAVE.TIME! LOL.

    That mess is just not healthy. :/

  13. April 24, 2009 - Reply

    Oh yeah it's really hard trying to stay above the mess and do your work! It really is part of the game now because the same ones who start mess are the word travelers to the bosses ears and they are the ones putting the word out against you! Stay strong!

    http://www.kimdom-come.blogspot.com/

  14. April 25, 2009 - Reply

    I fried a couple of synapses in my brain trying to figure this out a long time ago…but the bottom line is that there is always going to be that one woman or group of women that like to start ish at work. As an up and coming corporate raider, the strategy I employed was this (now I'm a director of a major HR function in a company of 18K employees):

    1) Align yourself with the right people, your boss and your boss' boss. Also develop/nurture relationships with other individuals in strategic roles. Build a “team” of cheerleaders and make time to help them on special projects. Build a mini-portfolio of successful endeavors. MAKE SURE YOU ARE ALWAYS SEEN AS SEPARATE FROM THE BS.

    2) Continue to be cordial/polite to the haters, but not friendly…key decision makers KNOW who the problem children are. If the problem children are your peers and you must work with them, be a team player! But COVER YOUR ASS with e-mail, status reports and statistics…bosses love stats, even if they don't understand them!

    3) MAKE YOUR BOSS AND DEPARTMENT LOOK GOOD! Then you can work from home FT like me! When you've established credibility, you can make “demands” so to speak…then your company will make life for you fairly easier…like telecommuting days, flexible work hours or even an increased expense account.

    4) Seek out likeminded individuals to have coffee or lunch with-especially the “golden haired” employees…the ones who the decision-makers favor. You know that adage, “birds of a feather flock together”? Put that in use…

    Haters are always going to be around…just because they are haters doesn't mean that they don't have a skill or talent that's necessary for a department to function. They just haven't mastered the “go to work, bang out a good product, be friendly/approachable and go home” philosophy.

    Don't even bother responding to anyone about the dumb shit because you don't want to be caught up in it. Your career is more important than what some hater thinks of your schedule. If that person has no influence on your schedule, your merit increase, promotion or anything that will influence your career, forget them! You do you and shake the hate!

    I've already said a lot, but I can also tell you how to deal with your assistant…

  15. April 26, 2009 - Reply

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  16. May 1, 2009 - Reply

    Waaaeeeelllll!! {rocking in seat, fanning self with paper fan on a stick}

  17. May 2, 2009 - Reply

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