Yesha Callahan

Who Knew Gigolos Still Existed?

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This past week I was talking to my friend Vickie, the woman behind Bella76 & Confessions of a Collector, about how some men seem to have it made nowadays. Forget about having their cake & eating it too, they also have their bills paid, women willing to rent out apartments for them, women buying them cell phones and the list goes on.  Once upon a time, if a woman boasted and bragged about these being done for her, she’d be labeled a gold digger and a whore. So what would you call a man who boasts and brags about it? Does the term gigolo still ring true today? And who are these women who are out there buying affection from men?

I’ve never been in the position where I needed to have a man pay my bills or co-sign for an apartment or get a cell phone in their name for me, but apparently this is what some women are doing for some men nowadays. It’s pretty sad to believe that there are actual women out there who take pleasure in doing this for men in order to keep them. Now I’m not referring to a man and a woman who are married, because that’s a whole different scenario. I’m referring to the women, who for some reason, feel that the only way to keep a man while they’re dating is to lavish them with material things even though  they know that man is out there sexing up every other Tomasina, Dickquesha & Harriet.

Now I’m not going to place all the blame on the man, because there’s the old saying  “never look a gift horse in the mouth”.  Should a man be blamed for what a woman is offering, regardless of what his true intentions are? I guess there is a difference between coercing and forcing a woman to do things. Unfortunately there are those women out there who are easily manipulated and have minds made of play-doh.

With the above said, I will also say that I don’t see anything wrong with either a man or woman extending themselves financially to help their significant other, especially in their time of need. I remember one instance in particular, I lost my debit card and had to wait days for the bank to send me a new one. I had no cash on hand. HWSRN knew what I was going on and offered me money, which I did return back to him.  I think any friend or significant other would do that. But on the other hand, I did have one person who had the audacity to ask me for an explicit amout of money because supposedly he was being evicted. All I could think of was “negro please”. Of course that person showed their true colors by not speaking to me for a while after I told them I wouldn’t be able to help them out. I guess they thought I had ‘dummy’ stamped on my forehead. I wonder if men feel less of a man, when they’re taking handouts from women? I’m sure a lot of them could careless, but I just don’t see the logic in it.

As a woman, has a man ever tried to take advantage of you financially? Men, how do you feel about men who take advantage of women financially & the women who allow it? Who’s to blame?

  1. May 18, 2009 - Reply

    There was a guy who thought his dick game was that proper, that he felt I would lend him my car & money! Hell no! Unless we're married, there will be no exchanging of cars and/or money.

    • May 25, 2009 - Reply

      @Nichole L.

      See, I will never lend my car out..that's just crazy!

  2. May 18, 2009 - Reply

    No indeed…I don't have that type of 'take all my ish as long as I can see you twice a week' personality. Is it that bad out there? Downright scary.

    • May 25, 2009 - Reply

      @Melzie

      Girl, it's ugly out here! I've heard some of the craziest stories these past few weeks! Women got to get it together!

  3. May 18, 2009 - Reply

    See, I will never lend my car out..that's just crazy!

  4. May 18, 2009 - Reply

    Girl, it's ugly out here! I've heard some of the craziest stories these past few weeks! Women got to get it together!

  5. May 18, 2009 - Reply

    I haven't stupid tax before….I got a cell phone in my name for a boyfriend. I knew it was dumb, but I had a break from reality for a small time. Sure enough, maybe 6 months later the phone was cut off. Finally got a hold of him and the lame excuses came. Two years later, I checked my credit report and $815 had been charged off. Reminder that I need more of a commitment (WAYYYYY more of a commitment) before I involve my credit or my personal belongings in my relationships.

    • May 25, 2009 - Reply

      @Sabrina97

      You better take that to the People's Court! Lol

  6. May 19, 2009 - Reply

    You better take that to the People's Court! Lol

  7. May 19, 2009 - Reply

    I've never been in that situation. All the men I've dated had their own. But that was years ago. Today there seems to be a different type of female, one who allows herself to be used and abused. I mean, come on. Why are you gonna work you butt off while homes is riding 'round in your car?? The women don't seem to think much of it, 'til homes is caught with his hands in others' cookie jar! (LMBAO)

    It's not so much the man who is at fault for this situation as the women who not only accept it, but embrace it.

    • May 25, 2009 - Reply

      @rainwriter jones

      Reminds me of the movie "Baby Boy". Here she is working and Tyrese's character is off in HER car doing his dirt..lol! I wish a negro would! You are exactly right, a man will do whatever a woman allows him to do.

  8. May 19, 2009 - Reply

    Reminds me of the movie “Baby Boy”. Here she is working and Tyrese's character is off in HER car doing his dirt..lol! I wish a negro would! You are exactly right, a man will do whatever a woman allows him to do.

  9. May 19, 2009 - Reply

    I have had men ask me for all kindsa thangs, ever since I got my first inheritance when I was 24. Cars, dinners, trips, places to live, you name it, theyve asked for it. NO ONE has ever gotten “it” lol.

    Now, if I want to go out to dinner and I feel like taking dude, Ill take them. Ive let two male friends use my car before, too, but I wasnt “involved” with them, we were strictly paltonic and it was for specific reasons. NO ONE got cars or places to live, though, lol.

    I think that if a person wants to do something for another, and they want to do it of their own volition, than thats ok. But doing the things youve mentioned, nah, that aint cool. No piece is good enough for that, okay??

    L

    • May 25, 2009 - Reply

      @lola gets

      I definitely don't have a problem taking a guy out, I think it's only fair, especially if they've done it for me.
      LMAO @ 'no piece', you can say that again!

  10. May 19, 2009 - Reply

    Now you KNOW Judge Judy would dismiss my case on the grounds of being stupid! 🙂

    • May 26, 2009 - Reply

      @Sabrina97

      LMAO, you may have a point there!;)

  11. May 20, 2009 - Reply

    It seems that I meet that type quite often. They become appropriately disinterested once they realize that I am not Western Union. I don't pay bills! In fact, I told one dude to keep the little girl had on the side because I would NEVER give him money, free shelter, and my car (to use to visit other women)…I only wanted the dick…and I told him so. He was shocked.

    http://www.4badgirlzonly.wordpress.com

    • May 26, 2009 - Reply

      @4badgirlzonly

      He obviously couldn't handle the truth!

  12. May 20, 2009 - Reply

    I definitely don't have a problem taking a guy out, I think it's only fair, especially if they've done it for me.

    LMAO @ 'no piece', you can say that again!

  13. May 20, 2009 - Reply

    He obviously couldn't handle the truth..lol

  14. May 22, 2009 - Reply

    Yes! Men should be blamed! No dude should allow himself to be a Gigg A Hoe! I mean, gigolo. Any Woman, a real Woman, knows she's blessed with something that will never go out of style, Hint, Hint, The Holy of Holies! What she is paying for is time. She is assuring herself that That particular dude is availiable to her for whatever. He's selling himself cheap! She's getting him cheap! And just for the record, there is a difference between a Gigolo and just a dude gettin a few trinkets from a Girl. The Gigolo is a professional and provides quality product for his services. The Women who procure his service know what they are getting. The Dude just having a bill paid by some female is just leeching off a girl with a low self image who trying to buy her way into his heart. To that girl I would say Grow up and realize he's not worth that. You can't sexxx or buy your way into someone's heart. To the dude. Stop doing it. You are being a leech, she likes you dude. Grow some and do right!

    • May 26, 2009 - Reply

      @Jaycee

      I couldn't agree with you more!

  15. September 30, 2009 - Reply

    It's wrong, regardless.

    I've had a few people attempt to take advantage of me over the years. Had I given into it, for whatever reason, the fault would have been mine and mine alone.

    People can't take advantage of you, unless you allow them to.

  16. September 30, 2009 - Reply

    It's wrong, regardless.

    I've had a few people attempt to take advantage of me over the years. Had I given into it, for whatever reason, the fault would have been mine and mine alone.

    People can't take advantage of you, unless you allow them to.

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