During a conversation this evening with HWSRN, I caught myself in the middle of our conversation stating, “I’d like to be in a relationship”, and his response was, “Well you get what you put out there”. I let that comment slide, because I didn’t feel like debating the “Why I’m single”, with someone who I’ve had such a back & forth history with because it would only end up in me hanging up on him. Sure, I’ve had my fair share of relationships that ended either amicably, or because an ex was a bat shit crazy sociopath because we just didn’t ‘mesh’, so I’ve pretty much have seen both ends of the spectrum when it comes to relationships.
I’m really tired of having the “Why Black Women Are Single” bullshit shoved down my throat by white mainstream media outlets for the past couple of months, and by some black people who only want to make $$ off of the issue, and not offering any thing other than negative discourse and finger pointing.
Bring your ear a little closer to the monitor so I can whisper to you my reason why I’m single…come just a little closer…..
I’M SINGLE BECAUSE IT’S MY RIGHT..CHOICE..PREROGATIVE.. TO BE!
Basically according to the white media, not only is just about every black woman carrying the herpes virus, but we’re all single, angry, bitter bitches. In return, you have black women justifying myself included with this post apparently, pontificating, arguing, one-up’ing each other as to why they’re single and why they can’t find a good ‘man’.
I’m not single because I’m a “black” woman. I’m single because I’m a woman with free will and very high standards.
I’m single because, I know what I bring to the table, and I refuse to settle for anything less.
I’m single because Brad Pitt hasn’t come across me yet.
I’m single because John Mayer has stated that his penis is like David Duke, and I really really really used to like John Mayer.
Here’s a question:
Since when did it become wrong to be single?
Why is there all of this discourse about black women being single, and nothing about the dog ass men, who make women appreciate being single more & more each day?
Black women, if you’re single, embrace it. Be happy you’re not in some crappy ass relationship. Be appreciative of the fact that you’re not married to some man who’s out at night without his wedding ring on, still acting as if he’s single.
The “relationship” grass is not always greener. Believe that.
So to all of the white mainstream media hoopla over the single black woman crisis that is disrupting the world, I leave you with this:
What we (single black women) eat, doesn’t make you shit…mind your own business.