Yesha Callahan

White Meat Chasers: The Extremes of Interracial Dating

Once upon a time, there was a black woman who was fed up with the treatment she received from some black men she dated. For whatever reason, her relationships with these men never panned out. One day she reached her breaking point & vowed never to date black men again. She was on the hunt for her White knight in shining armor. She searched every interracial internet dating site like Afro-Romance.com, but also sites like J-Date (Jewish Date) because she was guaranteed that it would only be comprised of white (Jewish) men. There was no stopping her on her quest to find a white man. It didn’t matter that some of these men were just looking to experiment and have their antebellum experience. It also didn’t matter that some of these men treated her like shit, it was fine because they weren’t black.

Once upon a time, there was a black guy who was fed up with black women. He described them all as being gold diggers with nasty attitudes, even though his mother wasn’t one of those types. To hell with black women, is what he told himself one day, from here on out, White women were the way to go. His motto was, “Just Say No To Sistas”. No matter how many times a black woman approached him, she was shunned away.  His idea of making it was to have a white woman on his arm.

White Meat Chasers!

Do you see how stupid both examples of these extremes sound? The reasoning? The rationale? The sad truth is that there’s a population of  black people (sure there are white ppl who do the same exact thing, but that’s a whole ‘nother topic) out there who use this rationale, when it comes to dating. I find it odd that there are black people out there who make white people sound like the holy grail when it comes to interracial dating. It’s like they’re  on some “I have arrived” shtick , once they have that white woman or man on their arm. Hell, I’ve date white men who’ve given me the same type of hell black men have. I also have black male friends who’ve said the same thing about white women giving them hell as well. What people fail to realize, there’s no easy way out of dating bullshit. It doesn’t matter if the person on your arm is black, yellow, white, purple or a hobbit.

Honestly, these people scare me. Not because of their so-called preferences, but because these people have the potential to bring children into the world. If they can’t seem to exhibit self-love for themselves and their ethnicity and only exude self-hate,  their potential to raise children who are self-aware is slim. I’m all for people dating whomever they feel like it, I do it myself, but there’s a thin line between preferences and prejudices. Yes, you can be prejudice against the people who look the same exact way you do, and unfortunately, these people exist. If you come across a white meat chaser, give them a hug, because they desperately need it. I like all types of meat, just as long as it doesn’t give me salmonella poisoning.

  1. August 18, 2010 - Reply

    YES! I think it’s highly prejudicial to exclude a group of people when it comes to dating. Love can be found anywhere, and so can bullshit and a really bad time.

    • August 18, 2010 - Reply

      @Alicia

      “…and really bad time..”
      I got a story…like to hear..hear it goes…lol

      • August 18, 2010 - Reply

        @[flahy][blak][chik]

        LOLz

  2. August 18, 2010 - Reply

    Amen! I have noticed growing numbers of the white meat chasers and they make uncomfortable. I am a sista married to a white guy but my experience is that any man can give you shit. To elevate one group above another IMO is just asking for trouble. Great post!

    • August 18, 2010 - Reply

      @Blackgirlinmaine

      “To elevate one group above another IMO is just asking for trouble” amen!

  3. August 18, 2010 - Reply

    THANKFULLY, I don’t have any friends personally, who are white meat chasers. The whole ideology behind it is ass-backwards for lack of a better term. Relationship gratification really has no color prerequisite. The whole “white (love) flight” idea, is nothing more than a viable excuse for weak-minded individuals out of touch with themselves and their own ethnicity, to regurgitate whenever asked about their preferences.
    Color me as one of those guys that has absolutely no problem whatsoever with interracial dating. Hey do whatcha do, love who loves you and vice versa. But call a spade a spade at the same time. That’s all I ask. Don’t damn your own race and praise another, because of your own inadequacies.

    • August 18, 2010 - Reply

      @Mr. RLW

      “Don’t damn your own race and praise another, because of your own inadequacies.”…and that’s my main point.

  4. August 18, 2010 - Reply

    I found this post linked on Twitter and I had to respond.
    I am a white meat chaser. I am actually married to my white meat. However, not for the reasons you’ve stated above. Simply, I like my men with blue eyes. That’s it. I find it sexy. Some of my friends have to date a man 3 inches or more taller than them. Some need to date men with no tattoos. I have to date white guys with blue eyes.
    That does not mean that I would allow a white man to treat me poorly. anyone who does that is a fool. who ever you are with should be treating you with respect and care.

    • August 18, 2010 - Reply

      @Irene

      You “had to date white guys with blue eyes”?
      How about black men w/blue eyes?
      I know several…

      • August 18, 2010 - Reply

        @[flahy][blak][chik]

        Really? You know what, I’ve never seen any. Plenty with green eyes, but never blue. That would be interesting to see.

      • August 18, 2010 - Reply

        @[flahy][blak][chik]

        You know…I’ve been thinking…I need to scratch my previous statement. It’s not the blue eyes (yes, that’s what attracted me to my hubby, but that’s not what attracts me these days).
        I look at all the guys I think are hot in media – all of them are white. What it is that attracts me to them, I honestly don’t know. But there is a physical attraction I have for them that I don’t have for black men. Even when I dated a few many years ago, I had no attraction to them whatsoever. And no, they didn’t treat me poorly. They were sweet and we could be the best of friends. But the attraction was not there and still isn’t. I don’t have an explanation as to the reason why. It just is what it is.

        • August 18, 2010 - Reply

          @Irene

          Denzel?
          Michael Ealy?
          Morris Chestnut?
          The news anchor on Channel 7?
          Boris Kodjoe?
          Not that these are just regular men walking the streets, but if not for their professions they would be, you don’t find these black men attractive?
          Granted you did say you’ve dated some, I’m not coming down on your “preferences”, but you’re from Bklyn..I can’t fathom that a black woman from Bklyn, doesn’t find black men attractive…How about Latino men? Dark Latino men? I’m just confused. But thank you for your honesty.
          I’m just trying to understand the rationale…is it the color of their skin? I don’t get it.

          • August 18, 2010 - Reply

            @[flahy][blak][chik]

            Eh, he’s alright.
            NO! Even though he has beautiful eyes.
            Nope.
            Who?
            NO!
            I think all of these men are attractive, but there’s no appeal. Now, if you throw in Brad Pitt, or Mark Whalberg (short as he is), I’d be jumping all over that like I had lost my mind and was single.
            Hmm, yeah, I got nuthin. I don’t get it much either. I love the color of my skin – rich and chocolatey – so it is odd that my preference is for the pale. LOL!
            The truth is, while I don’t feel it consciously, maybe it’s due to my upbringing. My 2nd stepfather beat me and my mother to a pulp over the course of 7 years, and he was black. And my grandmother hates black men, even though she had 2 children with one. Maybe that’s all just an excuse though. Or maybe its nothing more than a physical preference. I don’t know.

            • August 18, 2010 - Reply

              @Irene

              I’m pretty sure your last sentences sums up why you feel this way about black men…and reaches beyond just it being a physical preferences…Post traumatic stress syndrome manifests itself in different ways…

              • August 19, 2010 - Reply

                @[flahy][blak][chik]

                You’re might be right.
                But in the end, I have a husband who loves me and takes really good care of us. And THAT is what matters most in relationships.

                • August 21, 2010 - Reply

                  @Irene

                  AMEN

            • August 21, 2010 - Reply

              @Irene

              Irene, you are not alone. I have dated the rainbow, but I love White men. I have not had bad experiences with BM, my Daddy was around, so no Black Daddy issues. I don’t understand why someone can’t have a preference without having something against men of their own race?? I have never bashed BM in my life, I just don’t feel attracted to them at all. As far back as I can remember,90% of my crushes have been White. Many BM have approached me, and I am not rude to them, I have no reason to be as long as they are respectful about it. They just don’t turn me on at all….

            • March 14, 2014 - Reply

              @Irene

              mark whalberg is a insane piece of boston shit. cant stand him. he should still be in jail/prison

  5. August 18, 2010 - Reply

    Another great article. some ppl are so into physical aspects of another human being that they forget to look into ppl’s hearts and minds. i think its shallow to judge ppl by dick size, eye color, etc. what does that have to do with the price of tea in china.
    it’s funny bcuz alot of the white folks being chased for their skin color know that they are being chased for that reason. of they dont question, then all those black & white shallow mofo’s belong together~

    • August 18, 2010 - Reply

      @Lisa Ford

      If I was a white dude, and I knew a black woman ONLY dated white men, I’d look at her like she was crazy & run in the other direction.

      • August 18, 2010 - Reply

        @[flahy][blak][chik]

        I agree with this. I think the problem is that in some our minds, dating interracially means “dating white” by default. There’s more to interracial dating than black and white–there’s a whole spectrum in between. Instead of running to another race for validation and because of self-hatred, people–especially black women–should feel free to date a rainbow, as black men feel free to do the same. Many black women are single because they swear they’d never date out of their race meanwhile our counterparts have no trouble at all dating Becky, Su Lin, Maria or Harnisha.
        This is a parody, but hey! There’s a whole lot of truth in humor! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LeCaO6UWPiY&feature=related

        • August 18, 2010 - Reply

          @Christelyn Karazin

          You are def. right…there’s a whole rainbow of men out there…that video was hilarious btw!

        • August 30, 2010 - Reply

          @Christelyn Karazin

          My sentiments exactly!

      • August 20, 2010 - Reply

        @[flahy][blak][chik]

        You know, this is something I tell people ALL THE TIME, and usually they DO NOT UNDERSTAND! Well, no, let me rephrase that… white people do not understand and (some) Black men do not understand. I date Black men. I am white. HOWEVER, I WILL NOT date a man who I consider a “white woman chaser”. If I meet a man and he tells me he only dates white women, I move on. Simply because I do not want someone dating me BECAUSE of my race, I would rather have someone who dates me DESPITE my race. I am no big fan of white folks. About the only ones I associate with are immediate family. When I meet a man who is a “white woman chaser”, eventually he ends up saying some rude, uncalled for crap about Black women, and I WILL NOT put up with that. How could I? My best friends throughout my entire life have been Black females. Now, often people say, well aren’t you doing the same thing, by putting down white men? Not really, because white men are almost all racists, and I cannot deal with a racist man.

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  7. August 18, 2010 - Reply

    “black, yellow, white, purple or a hobbit” You’re killing me! I agree. Love who you love but don’t use crappy experiences to condemn entire ethnic groups especially those that look like you. Work out whatever attracted you to them hurtful apples in the first place.

    • August 18, 2010 - Reply

      @Tessism

      Yes Tess..hobitts…they’re every where.

  8. August 18, 2010 - Reply

    The worst “white meat chasers” I know are Black women who say they want to marry a white (or Asian) man, just so their children can have “good hair.” I knew one such woman who openly pitied a mixed girl’s “bad hair.” Hurts my soul

    • August 18, 2010 - Reply

      @I Am Your People

      Oh I know a couple of those..they’re pathetic.

    • September 3, 2010 - Reply

      @I Am Your People

      That’s just wrong! For a long time I thought that was just a running joke among Black women until, as I got older, I started to meet women who thought like that.

  9. August 18, 2010 - Reply

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  10. August 18, 2010 - Reply

    Every time I come across a site that advertises that Afro Romance, I don’t visit again. It makes me mad.
    The blue eye comment killed my soul.
    So happy I’m not out on the market. Blah!

  11. August 18, 2010 - Reply

    I love me some women of all races though I prefer my sisters of color. However, I cannot understand why a person of color would seek out a Caucasian partner STRICTLY because they had some bad experiences with the opposite sex in their own race. These people need more than a hug. Somebody needs to take a history course & get a clue.

  12. August 20, 2010 - Reply

    Yes, there is a thin line between preference and prejudice. But one thing is for sure. I have never understood why we make it our business to analyze why someone chooses who they choose to date. Even if it’s for a stupid reason, that’s no one’s business but their own. All of a sudden we’re our brother’s keeper? Where is that concern any other time. Seems like there is rather a more serious underlying issue to analyze and address. That’s my thought.

    • August 22, 2010 - Reply

      @David Patrick

      My concern comes in when I have friends who make senseless comments, and usually my blog posts stem from those. I could give a damn about who a person dates, but I do have an issue when they feel the need to negate their own race. Hell, the same thing I tell my black friends, are the same things I tell my Asian friends who’ve made similar comments.

    • September 3, 2010 - Reply

      @David Patrick

      It becomes my business when couples and individuals come to me with their relationship problems, distortion perceptions of themselves and others and just can’t figure out why they’re unhappy. They ‘can’t git right’ so they pay me to talk about it. The bottom line is usually their rigid dating standards (holding out for ONLY a Black man/woman, White man/woman instead of holding out for love and loving themselves), past traumas or low-self-esteem. A preference (without being rude) is one thing, hell, I prefer bald men 😉 But to refuse to date a person based on race could be detrimental to a person’s happiness. They could be passing up Mr. or Mrs. Right but because they don’t come in another color they’ll never know. Then they show up in my office, crying on my damn couch (yes, I have a couch 😉

  13. August 22, 2010 - Reply

    Who knew a blog post would get a dissertation in my honor. Rule of thumb, if you’re going to piss on someone’s opinion, you may not want to provide traffic to their website.
    Make note, I didn’t make mention of YOUR site 🙂

  14. August 23, 2010 - Reply

    Like this

  15. August 25, 2010 - Reply

    Sorry getting off the topic of the story but that pic of the turkey looks yummy lol I am petite in case anyone is wondering but getting back to the topic, I love men..of all colors..I’m like skittles and I definitely love tasting the rainbow lol esp. puerto rican men 🙂

  16. August 26, 2010 - Reply

    I’m going out to get myself a white man….RIGHT now.

  17. August 27, 2010 - Reply

    Think I’m about to find myself a female Hobbit and only deal with them LOL … Good Post …

  18. August 29, 2010 - Reply

    That’s is some wild ish! Love is color blind unfortunately self love is not! I’ve dated across the spectrum before I got married and I enjoyed it but I am glad I married the Sista I married.
    Funnie thang about self hate, we as Black Folks tend to get color struck even when dating our own. It’s still part of the same sick cycle. You don’t date a White Girl but you only date light skinned or bi racial Sistas with Long hair, light eyes or a certain hair texture. Sick! These Sistas are beautiful but they are not appreciated for that beauty in it’s correct sense, that being that the God (IAM) is amazing at what he does.
    Jaycee

    • September 3, 2010 - Reply

      @Mista Jaycee

      Well said!

    • September 3, 2010 - Reply

      @Mista Jaycee

      Amen!

  19. August 30, 2010 - Reply

    I have been meaning to stop by & read this… because this is an issue/topic that I am VERY vocal about.
    “These” ppl sicken me. There really are men/women black & white who choose to only date the opposite race because they’ve been hurt before. I have been approached by MANY black men like this. They expect me to be a certain “type” or way & I tell them to GTFOH I REFUSE to be your stereotypical white anythang….
    You’ve hit a good point… These ppl have issues w/ their own race & they sometimes bring children into this world… To continue on w/ the cycle.

  20. September 3, 2010 - Reply

    i wanna date whichever woman is cooking that turkey. im hungry.

  21. September 3, 2010 - Reply

    So true! I get shade all the time (usually from Black men) when I’m out with my husband. Most people just assume I only dated white men because I am married to one, lumping me in with these strange, scary characters. I patiently explain (to whoever will listen) that no, I didn’t date only white men, in fact the boyfriend before the husband was about as ‘Black as you can get’ when it comes to Black men. I have a cousin who refuses to date Black men and then couldn’t understand why she as suddenly shunned by an Israeli man for not being Jewish. God created man and woman, regardless of color and we should be free to taste the rainbow like skittles says, but when it goes to the extreme of believing that you won’t have the same problems as dating a Black man or woman, that borders on pathological. Self-hate at one of its lowest points. Let’s do better y’all.

  22. September 10, 2013 - Reply

    Basically Christelyn is a dumb chick who got burned and feels like white men are the answer. I’m so through with her retarded website. There is this one chick on there who wrote an “article” about black women should not go to school, but rather should just try to get married. Yeah, as if being an uneducated housewife works so well for women. Ironically, the crony who wrote that is a single mother herself with a throwaway college degree in “liberal studies.” And Christelyn was write behind her looking stupid, probably because she was stupid enough to sleep with a man in college who didn’t even want her ass.

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