Yesha Callahan

The Women Who Hate Women Club

A while back my cousin and I were having a discussion about why we don’t have to many female friends, outside of our own friendship and the other handful of women that we associate with. We were joking around and said that we should start a club aptly named, “The Women Who Hate Women Club”. Typically, misogyny is a term thrown around in reference to men who hate women. I don’t think there is a term out there to describe the fact that there are women who hate women as well (if there is, please let me know).

Now, let me first say, that I don’t hate ‘all’ women and maybe HATE is a strong word. I just have a strong distaste for certain personality traits that ALOT of women have, even some that I may have possessed way back when!

Typically, I surround myself with women who are independent, low-maintenance, eclectic, educated and grounded. Their topics of discussion won’t be that new pair of Manolo’s they bought from Saks or who’s man they’re trying to flirt with or sleep with knowing that he’s already taken. I love being around women who don’t fit the status quo and aren’t afraid to try new things or are worried about breaking a nail or sweating out their perms. They don’t have to put on airs about who they are and what they stand for. They wouldn’t dare infringe or cross the line when it comes respect, be it themselves or their other female friends. There’s no hidden agenda, WYSIWYG (what you see is what you get).

I think alot of women have genetically flawed personalities and they don’t even realize it. They can’t help being the conniving, superficial, materialistic, victimized, backstabbing bitches that the world has painted women to be. Chances are, their mother, grandmother, aunts were/are the same way, so they really wouldn’t know any better. Some women have no sense of self. They don’t know if they’re coming or going half the time. They feel the need to become whatever is ‘in style’ at the time. They have no clue as to what they want out of life, they’d prefer someone to show them what they should have or be able to give it to them. Some feel that they’re entitled to certain things without having to put in the hard work. God forbid these type of women have children. You know the saying, stupid people have stupid kids, it’s sad but true.

In any event, the few female friends that I do have, have proved to be loyal and have withstood the test of time, growth, distance & life changes. Recently I have came across a few females who are definitely cool people and have reconnected with a few from my past. Maybe one day my cousin and I will not need a club called, “The Women Who Hate Women Club”, in the words of Rodney King, “…can’t we all just get along”…LMAO! Great concept, but I don’t see it happening!

  1. May 27, 2009 - Reply

    I know this an old post, but just stumbled upon it and have to say: I feel the same way!
    I've never been able to eloquently describe why I hate women and now with your help I can. I just usually blurt out, "I hate girls." Many of my friends are guys and my one girl friend looked at me weird when I told her, but she later understood what I meant when she had a group assignment with a group of women once.

    • June 2, 2009 - Reply

      @Lady_M

      Thanks for stopping by! I had to refresh this post, totally forgot about it!

  2. June 2, 2009 - Reply

    i agree, and would add that there are exact parallels to men, 2, so what is a good word for 'people that hate women and men'? oh, yea, misanthrope, lol.

    • June 2, 2009 - Reply

      @boozhetto

      LMAO @ misanthrope…funny, I used to have a site called "Miss Anthropic" LMAO!

  3. June 2, 2009 - Reply

    Women, especially Black women, can be catty and cruel and have the whole Mean Girls thing going on. Some women find it hard to compliment another woman thinking that in doing so, it makes them look weak or insecure. I think a real woman who is secure and has confidence and compliment other women and maintain friendships because she feels good about HERSELF.

    • June 2, 2009 - Reply

      @Dannigyrl

      Don\\'t I know it! A few years ago I had a time when I was one of the \\"mean girls\\" and it was all over some dude..but after I realized that he was probably sitting back laughing at the situation, I changed my ways. I have no problems in giving a woman a compliment, but the odd thing is, is that some women don\\'t seem to know how to react when complimented by another woman, unless you throw a \\'no homo\\' (*lmao*) comment right after it. Online, offline, you can\\'t escape the cattiness….

  4. June 2, 2009 - Reply

    Proud WYSIWYG.

    • June 2, 2009 - Reply

      @Carla

      LMAO! You of all people…remember you used to hate me and harrass me on a daily basis b/c of \\"jack the pumpkin head\\'? LMAO!

  5. June 2, 2009 - Reply

    Yea I've just spent most of my life hanging with males. Besides a more drama-free environment, I seem to learn more about myself when I interact with my male friends. I just like to chill, and be myself. Women seem to find that hard.

    • June 2, 2009 - Reply

      @MyLIfes_Architect

      I was also the type to hang out with a lot of guys, and still do, I think in total I have maybe 4 women that I can truly call friends…

  6. June 2, 2009 - Reply

    I get this completely!

    • June 2, 2009 - Reply

      @Sabrina

      🙂

  7. June 2, 2009 - Reply

    I am just like you in regards of how i choose friendships, I am definitely not the chick who sits around dredging up drama and waxing stupid all day about trends and man-hating… no time for that, life is hectic enough!

    • June 2, 2009 - Reply

      @Naturally Alise

      Yup, it definitely is hectic enough!

  8. June 2, 2009 - Reply

    Great post. I think it's a shame though. Social skills are so rare these days. We ALL need a big hug.

    • June 2, 2009 - Reply

      @craigjc

      LOL @ hug..some more than others!

  9. June 2, 2009 - Reply

    I think I told you about the awful woman at the grocery store who HATES me! I don't know why as I was always friendly towards her. But for some reason she's gotten in her head that she hates me…quite nasty lil' b*tch, I must say. Well, it might be because I called her a b*tch once when she wouldn't let me check out in her 15 items or less aisle. It was a really bad day. (LMBAO)

    • June 2, 2009 - Reply

      @rainwriter jones

      Uh…Korky..that might be the reason why she hates u…I\\'m just saying…you did have 20 items! lol

  10. June 2, 2009 - Reply

    I think that I would have had to agree with you two or three years ago. I didn't have too many female friends-maybe three to be exact. I discovered in that time that maybe it wasn't them-maybe it was me. I agree that sometimes it seems that women, I should say 'we' because I am a woman, get the idea that we must be copycats or robots set on one function-bitch. Then I wondered why every single woman in the world was unoriginal, hard to talk to, and downright unethical. I realized that sometimes it was them, and mostly, it was me. I hadn't had a close relationship with a woman because I was afraid that they would be what I thought they'd be. Even the women who, surface-wise, appeared shallow and idiotic were good women with a few bad habits-like me.
    To wrap it up, I agree, but I caution you to give women a chance before you completely disregard them. It almost seems like this situation is set up to give guys an advantage-women who hate women have no choice but to absolutely love men and be easily divided by them.
    These are just my thoughts. Let me know what you think.

  11. June 2, 2009 - Reply

    Don\\'t get me wrong, I\\'ve seen the same \\'issues\\' in myself that I no longer have or let take control over me…which is why I separate myself from a certain type of person. I don\\'t immediately disregard anyone, I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, but once I see a person\\'s true colors (man/or woman), I quickly separate myself from them. Also, I definitely agree with men love to see women divided, especially when it pretains to them having a vested interest in both women.

  12. June 3, 2009 - Reply

    (LOL) My comment disappeared! Are you in cohoots with the check out lady? (LMBAO) Yeah, she's still up at the store and according to my husband, she treats him very nicely. Then when I get there…snarl! Ol' heifer! She'll turn up to be some shriveled up prune at the end of it.

  13. June 8, 2009 - Reply

    I have to agree with Thoughtful.
    Although I understand your sentiments, I couldn't help but to wonder what makes you so different while reading your post. I do not intend to be offensive, however to me your post seems a little hypocritical. It's easy to bash, degrade, and belittle others, however when one can learn to accept the fact that people are different and have had different experiences which have shaped who they become, then to me, that is when one can say that they are truly secure with themselves, and they don't have to look at/for flaws in others.
    It's one thing to surround yourself with like minded people. But it's another to bash those who are not like you. The truth is that you don't know what others have been through, and because chances are you have judged them prior to getting to know them, you never will, which in turn will close you off to the rest of the world…
    But who knows… maybe I'm way off… Your post was interesting nonetheless… and provided some food for thought…. That was just my humble opinion.

    • June 8, 2009 - Reply

      @TSH

      to quote myself, " I just have a strong distaste for certain personality traits that ALOT of women have, even some that I may have possessed way back when!"…
      As far as bashing and being judgemental, the beauty of writing & having a blog and also reading other's people's blogs is that you're able to express your own opinion, and the reality of it all, is that some may agree, some may not…
      Volataire has a quote, "I detest what you write, but I would give my life to make it possible for you to continue to write", which basically means that, not everyone is going to agree with what they read, but everyone still has the freedom to voice their opinion.
      Also, in regards to being judgemental, judging me as being judgemental is some what an oxymoron 🙂
      Another one of my favorite sayings is, "You pick your friends, but you can't pick your family".

  14. July 12, 2009 - Reply

    I don't know if the fact that this crap crosses racial boundaries makes me feel better or worse. I've completely given up on women after having girlfriends cheat on me, a wife cheat on me, and dating women who say things like “I just got out of a five-and-a-half year relationship with a married man.”

    No mas and never again.

  15. July 22, 2009 - Reply

    Ugh I dislike those kind of women too && feel bad for them.

  16. July 22, 2009 - Reply

    Aw, sorry to hear that. Hopefully you will be blessed with a woman who will treat you right.

  17. July 23, 2009 - Reply

    Ugh I dislike those kind of women too && feel bad for them.

  18. July 23, 2009 - Reply

    Aw, sorry to hear that. Hopefully you will be blessed with a woman who will treat you right.

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