A while back my cousin and I were having a discussion about why we don’t have to many female friends, outside of our own friendship and the other handful of women that we associate with. We were joking around and said that we should start a club aptly named, “The Women Who Hate Women Club”. Typically, misogyny is a term thrown around in reference to men who hate women. I don’t think there is a term out there to describe the fact that there are women who hate women as well (if there is, please let me know).
Now, let me first say, that I don’t hate ‘all’ women and maybe HATE is a strong word. I just have a strong distaste for certain personality traits that ALOT of women have, even some that I may have possessed way back when!
Typically, I surround myself with women who are independent, low-maintenance, eclectic, educated and grounded. Their topics of discussion won’t be that new pair of Manolo’s they bought from Saks or who’s man they’re trying to flirt with or sleep with knowing that he’s already taken. I love being around women who don’t fit the status quo and aren’t afraid to try new things or are worried about breaking a nail or sweating out their perms. They don’t have to put on airs about who they are and what they stand for. They wouldn’t dare infringe or cross the line when it comes respect, be it themselves or their other female friends. There’s no hidden agenda, WYSIWYG (what you see is what you get).
I think alot of women have genetically flawed personalities and they don’t even realize it. They can’t help being the conniving, superficial, materialistic, victimized, backstabbing bitches that the world has painted women to be. Chances are, their mother, grandmother, aunts were/are the same way, so they really wouldn’t know any better. Some women have no sense of self. They don’t know if they’re coming or going half the time. They feel the need to become whatever is ‘in style’ at the time. They have no clue as to what they want out of life, they’d prefer someone to show them what they should have or be able to give it to them. Some feel that they’re entitled to certain things without having to put in the hard work. God forbid these type of women have children. You know the saying, stupid people have stupid kids, it’s sad but true.
In any event, the few female friends that I do have, have proved to be loyal and have withstood the test of time, growth, distance & life changes. Recently I have came across a few females who are definitely cool people and have reconnected with a few from my past. Maybe one day my cousin and I will not need a club called, “The Women Who Hate Women Club”, in the words of Rodney King, “…can’t we all just get along”…LMAO! Great concept, but I don’t see it happening!