Yesha Callahan

Mr. Inter-Office Male



Last week I had an unexpected run in with my organization’s “Inter-Office Male”. You know, that one guy who’s managed to date/sleep with/relationshiptize several women in the company/organization/office. Usually I try to keep my distance from said man, because of his reputation. Emails to him are kept to a minimum. If I have an issue that involves him helping me, I usually contact someone else in his office first. Basically I avoid him like the plaque.

From my HR/EEO background there are a few things I raise my eyebrow to, and that’s inter-office romances/relationships. To me, it’s a known rule of thumb not to have them and I’ve even worked for corporations/organizations that had policies on them. So when I heard about his reputation, the scarlet letter was immediately thrown on his forehead.

Now, I try to be cordial to everyone in my immediate office and throughout the organization, but on this day in particular my cordialness was tested. Mr. Inter-office Male managed to push all of my wrong buttons within a 20 minute conversation. I don’t know if he thought just because I was a ‘sista’ that he could get away with the overt flirting or because of his good looks, but during the hours of 8-2pm (yeah I love my schedule) I am professional at all times, and if by chance there’s an after-hours work function, I still keep a certain amount of professionalism as well.

So he tried to pull a few of my cards and asked a few personal questions in regards to dating, etc..etc…I managed to redirect his attention to the subject matters that were at hand for the most part. That was until the subject matter turned to an issue I noticed about our organizations benefit coverage in regards to breast exams and that we were only covering women over 35 yrs of age.

I’m not sure if he was doing his best impersonation of Pavlov’s dog, but upon hearing the word “BREASTS”, he practically started drooling and looking at mine and decided to be a smart-ass and say, “Well, yeah, you definitely need to get those checked out”.

(insert the WHAT THE FUCK FACE??)
Everyone that was around us went silent. You could hear a pin drop. My assistant gave me a look as to say, “Please, (insert gov’t name), don’t hurt him!”.
Toooo late!
I shot him a look, and basically told him, because other women may find his overt flirting and the fact that he’s just about slept with every woman in the organization or the fact that men have come to the job threatening him b/c he’s slept with their girlfriend/wife some sort of perverse form of attraction, but I don’t and if he wants to keep his job at our organization and still be able to pay his hefty child support payments on time, that he needs to back-off. End of conversation.
Yes, my neck was going. Yes, I had my finger pointed in his face and he’s lucky I didn’t stab him in his foot with my 3 inch stiletto heel. Hopefully I’ve managed to make my point clear with Mr. Inter-Office Male, because I’d hate to have to follow through on my promises to him.
In any event, being an Inter-Office Male is nothing any man should be proud about, especially if other women find out how you really are. Yes, we whisper about you in the ladies room, we laugh when we find out about the major drama behind your office courtships, and we’re smart enough to stay away.

With that said, how do you, the readers, feel about “inter-office relationships”? Yay or nay?




  1. May 6, 2008 - Reply

    Damn, stilletos to work! I’m scared of you girl! But yeah, It’s good you put his ass in place!

  2. May 6, 2008 - Reply

    Girrrrrrrrrllll… HANDLE THAT FOOL! I think people should do their best to keep personal and work completely separate.

    As for my disappearing, it’s a lot of long stories.

  3. May 6, 2008 - Reply

    I had always made a rule to stay away from such males and never mix work and fun. But there is always an exception…My sons father! I met him at work. I also got layed off from work! So I don’t regret my man but I don’t think I will ever pick a coworker again if I had to find a man.

  4. May 7, 2008 - Reply

    yeah he was totally out of place to make that comment……I mean damn he is supposed to make comments like that outside of the work office like at a bar or something lol….just joking

  5. May 7, 2008 - Reply

    Nay to the inter-office male. It’s not a good look for reasons we know all too well. As for this loser and his sorted history, one would think he’d know better.


  6. May 8, 2008 - Reply

    I’ll take “Hell To The Naw” for 800, Alex.

  7. May 8, 2008 - Reply

    Oh i knew from the moment I started reading where this one was going and I knew you would end up going off. GO GIRL!

    We have those guys here and the girls who grin and giggle in their direction, egging them on are just as bad as they are. We have a couple of these guys here who are known manwhores and it is common knowledge that they are VERY MUCH MARRIED. One of these muckers is so bold that he will introduce wifey to you at the company picnic while standing behind her licking their lips in a seductive way at YOU!

    I go out of my way to tell these modernday office versions of the oldskool “Pretty Boy Floyd” that they are too light, too short, too whatever it is that takes that ego down a notch…or three.

  8. May 8, 2008 - Reply

    YURI: Girl, I love my heels!

    Jasmine: My sentiments exactly! Well make those stories into a 2-3 min blog read, it’ll be good therapy!

    asuka: I can’t say that I’ve ever had an inkling of interest in any coworkers, past or present. But being that I’ve always held HR positions, it’s never a good look.

    devone: see, this is why I don’t drive all the way out to Woodbridge to hang out! I don’t see how you know who put up with u all these years!

    JaBe: As long as certain women in our organization laugh and smile when he says stupid shit, he’ll keep on doing it!

    HeavenLeiBlu: Double Jeopardy? lol

    Ohsoluvlee: Some people have no shame at all!

  9. May 8, 2008 - Reply

    That statement he made to you was a bit much. He was tripping.

  10. November 12, 2008 - Reply

    did it once. ugly ending. never will do it again…well then again i do have this 1 coworker lemme stop lol

  11. March 9, 2009 - Reply

    First of all, He was totally inappropriate.
    Nay to inter office romance, although I am a hopeless romantic at heart and do believe people can fall in love anytime and anywhere so I will say that if the sparks are there don’t smother them! However I don’t think the office should be ones “breeding ground.” If you can avoid it… avoid it, it is just bad business.

  12. March 9, 2009 - Reply

    Oh to be a fly on that wall dear woman!!
    I honestly dated someone in the office who wasn’t a Manwhore and it is something I would not care to get into again. It is hard to see and work with that person on a daily basis, without wanting to drive that said 3 inch heel (pen, pencil, paperclips made into a dart), into the middle of their eyes, if they ended up becoming a tool after the whole ordeal. Not an easy situation at all – so I obviously say NAY.

  13. April 15, 2009 - Reply

    rules is rules and ‘don’t screw the crew’ is one of my highest held work ones…
    well done you… i would have had human resources on him in a minute – other women would come out of the woodwork….. teach that weak lothario a lesson…
    i reserve and preserve the right to go about my daily toil free from harassment…
    it’s bad enough on the street for christ’s sake..
    damn him and all those like him..

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