I can’t say that I was always a fan of Neyo. I’m truly not into R&B/Pop music crooners. Give me some old school Marivn Gaye or even some D’angelo and I’m set. A few months ago I caught Neyo’s performace when he opened for Alicia Keys and I guess after actually seeing him in person, I started to appreciate his talent even more. Yesterday afternoon, HWSRN (he who shall remain nameless) and I were heading back from the Black Family Reunion that was held on the Washington Mall. As he was flipping through radio stations, Neyo’s song, “Miss Independent”, came on. Being that I hardly ever listen to the radio, this was my first time hearing it. After listening to the first few minutes of it, I couldn’t help but to love the song immediately!
What a breath of fresh air!
WOW, a man actually giving props to independent women! Isn’t that a first? Instead of the usual complaints about how women are too independent? Personally, If I was a man, I’d prefer to be with an independent woman. Someone who could carry their own weight and not rely on the man to take care of everything.
Is there a such thing as being too independent? Why/how can a woman’s independence be a turn off to some men? There are women out there who feel that they don’t ‘need’ a man for certain things, and that’s all well and good. But what a lot of women fail to realize is that verbalizing that to men is a complete turn off to some. Where does one draw the line from being independent to being down right arrogant about themselves?
Independently needy is a term I like to use to describe myself. Yes, I’m independent, but, I’m also needy at the same time. I need and crave affection, attention and support from a significant other. No, I don’t need financial support, yes, I have my own career, house, car, etc., etc., but there is more to life than that. Most women will say that they’re looking for a man to complete them, but I need one to compliment me.
In Neyo’s song, “Make Me Better”, he said, “I’m a movement by myself But I’m a force when we’re together“. He’s also making a statement about his own independence, but when coupled with someone else that compliments him, he’s making himself a better man. I think if more women took this attitude to heart, their independence wouldn’t be looked down upon so much by SOME men.