Yesha Callahan

I’m Here About The Blow Job

Let me set up the scenario.

I have a friend and three years ago I introduced him to a female coworker of mine. I wouldn’t say that this particular coworker and I were close friends outside of work, but we did hang out occasionally. Throughout my moving & travelling, I always kept in touch with him over emails & random phone calls, but I lost contact with her, or received a ‘hi’ through him from her.

Yesterday, he happened to catch me online via Instant Messenger, he tells me he has some bad news. I ask him, “OK, well what is it?”.

D: It’s your girl, yo.

Me: What about her?

D: I think I might have to break it off with her?

Me: ?

D: It’s boring in the bedroom.

Me: Well have you told her this?

D: We talk about it all the time and its frustrating?

Me: So what do you mean boring?

D: She doesn’t want to try new things?

Me: Ok, well a lot of women aren’t into anal? Yuck!

D: Yo, I’m not talking about that shit!

Me: Well then, what else is left to try?

D: She doesn’t like BJs!

Me: Whoaaaaaa! Are you serious?

D: We’ve been together for three years, and she’s never done it to me! So I’ve recently stopped going down on her!

Me: Wow…well yall just need to talk about it..and I don’t think this is something you should break up with someone over.

D: She’s a germ-a-phobe! She even makes me take a shower before. No spontaneity at all!

I’m not going to get into the whole convo, but my thing is, how important is a BJ? I told him maybe she’s saving that aspect of sex for marriage or maybe she’s had a bad experience. Also, I asked him if he dealt with it for 3 years, then what’s making it more of an issue now?

So, if you were in this situation….What would you do? Do you leave a relationship because your partner doesn’t partake in Oral sex? Feel free to chime in (that goes for the lurkers as well).

  1. January 5, 2008 - Reply

    Poor him!
    Is he still with her?

  2. January 5, 2008 - Reply

    Wow, that sucks.

    Pun intended! Now a woman would be pretty pissed off if a man didn’t give her head!

  3. January 7, 2008 - Reply

    That’s funny…

  4. January 8, 2008 - Reply

    I was married to a woman for 20 yrs who would only gently hold it in her mouth on holidays only.
    I was devastated when she left me, but then I found out that most women not only hold it in their mouth, but swallow!
    Man did life get exponentially better!
    Ignorance is bliss, knowledge is power!

    Nice blog. Stop by my place sometime.

  5. January 14, 2008 - Reply

    Oh she’s saving head for “marriage” but is more than willing to receive? lol. Just like black women.. selfish, deluded, bunch of entitled bitches. OK just kidding but for the most part, yall know I’m right. If this guy isn’t cheating on her boring ass already, he’s either a liar or the second coming.

  6. January 22, 2008 - Reply

    To the one dude calling us black women, “selfish, deluded, bunch of entitled bitches”, go get a real life!

    So sad to hear about your friend NOT receiving head. Wow! Makes me wanna call my man just to give him some head. tee hee hee…

  7. February 20, 2008 - Reply

    what about now has he left her or still getting bored?

  8. September 18, 2008 - Reply

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  9. September 18, 2008 - Reply

    Do you leave a relationship because your partner doesn’t partake in Oral sex?
    Yes.

  10. September 18, 2008 - Reply

    hmmm sounds a lil suspect that she can get and not give but I’m not gunna lie, I’m not really into oral that much either. Maybe BEFORE i ever had sex that was just the thing to do, now its like kind of a task. But when its PART of forplay I think then its not such an ordeal.

  11. February 19, 2009 - Reply

    I have no idea why and how this blog came up in my feeds today. But I’m glad that it did. I missed this one, and its some funny shit. I’ve been toying with the idea of fellatio etiquette for a while now.
    LOL
    You have once again inspired me!

  12. April 9, 2009 - Reply

    I’m in a similar situation. I used to get head all the time, but then I guess once we moved under the same roof, she didn’t want to anymore. So instead of saying ‘I don’t want to give you blowjobs anymore’ (by the way – she gets is regularly and isn’t afraid to ask for it even MORE frequently) instead what she did was traumatize me by scraping the head with her teeth while going full speed.
    OUCH!
    And it’s happened more than once.
    To make a long story short – I don’t look forward to getting head from her anymore.

  13. December 6, 2009 - Reply

    You can beat an egg and a drum, but you can't beat a good blowjob.

  14. December 7, 2009 - Reply

    You can beat an egg and a drum, but you can't beat a good blowjob.

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