Yesha Callahan

I Have Hair Commitment Issues

This isn’t about good hair, or bad hair, it’s about my inability to commit to trying a new style with my own hair. As a black woman, hair plays a big role in my life. Since going natural in 1994, I’ve basically kept the same wash/go style over the years, and have had two big chops. Some where down the road, my hair became some what my ‘signature’ item. Whether it was black,  brown, honey blond, curly or straight, it was definitely something that drew attention to itself.

A few weeks ago, I wanted to try something different because on a day to day basis, I was growing bored with my hair.  Ever since I was a kid, I wanted to grow locs, but I was turned off by the whole ‘process’ of waiting for the locs to cultivate. I’m pretty much an impatient person, and I like immediate results.  That’s when I started to do research on loc alternatives. I remember years ago, Erykah Badu caught a lot of slack from the “neo-soul-bohemian-whatever they’re referring to themselves as n0w” community when they found out her locs were fake. Personally, I didn’t see  what the big deal was. My thing is, if your hair is neat, who cares if it’s a weave or extensions, but for the longest time, I wasn’t interested in either for myself.

Fast forward a few years later and approximately 4 weeks ago, I found a woman on Craigslist who specialized in loc extensions, and amazingly they were a reasonable price ($200). So I made my appointment and after 5 hours of sitting through every judge show on television, I had human hair loc extensions.  I’ll be the first to say, when I walked out into the cold with my head all exposed, I never realized how much my natural bushy hair kept my head warm, not so much with the new do. From that point on, I knew it would take a while to get used to.

My new style was met with a lot a compliments from my friends, even from those friends who took years to cultivate their own locs. Of course the only person who had something smart to say was HWSRN, but then again, he always has something smart to say. I was pretty much enjoying my new hair style.

Until the fucking Blizzard of  2010!

So I’m sitting on my couch watching my 20th hour of t.v. and I started playing in my hair. Next thing I knew, I had the comb & was unraveling the loc extensions one by one. Two days later, I had my own curly fro back. I never realized how much I missed my own hair. I missed twirling my curls around my fingers, I missed having someone run their fingers through my hair, I missed being able to blow dry it if I wanted to wear it straight. In retrospect, I’m glad I tested out the waters with the loc extensions.  It further proved to me, that I love my free flowing natural fro that I’ve had all of these years.

  1. February 17, 2010 - Reply

    My hair talks to me…and I listen…when it wants to grow I grow it and when it wants to be short I cut it…went natural in 1996 I always wanted to, but listened to everyone else “your hair is too soft,” “it isn't corporate,” “you'll regret this” NOT once have I regretted it..had to actually train my hair to curl again at first it was short and spiky like a porcupine. But now can't imagine going back to perms…I will run a straight comb through it but because of exercise this is only for special times when my hairs says to me go straight….I've worn wigs in the winter to keep my head warm I called them fancy hats…LOL!! But most times just let my hair grow in the winter months and pack it down. On March 21 I will be a barber saying take it down like a boy…SMILE!! Love, love, love my short natural hair…most comfortable that way for me to be me and I spend no time/energy on hair style…saw photos of me with hair and I didn't even recognize myself…asked someone who it was in the picture…then asked myself “Who was that woman?!??!” I truly do no know her anymore….LOL

  2. February 17, 2010 - Reply

    OMG I am going to get my belt out for you when I see you….lmao

    I know that ish was going to last long!! SMMFH

  3. February 17, 2010 - Reply

    Beautiful photo of you 🙂

    I was told that extensions date to as far back as to the Egyptians times under the rulership of Pharaoh.

    I love my hair naturally as is, too. I oft times think that folks that rock extensions / braids, lace front wigs, weaves, etc. have a huge advantage on saving time prepping / styling their hair everyday. Another plus can be that it allows your hair to be left alone so it can repair itself (assuming no glue involved).

    I somewhat have hair commitment issues myself so I tend to hark to pin up styles reminiscent of 50's vintage looks. It's manageable, clean, and stylish, and with a touch of some bedazzled accessory, it can help 'enhance' the look for any occasion imo.

  4. February 17, 2010 - Reply

    WOW…you paid $200 to effin EXPERIMENT? *standing in line after Soulafrodisiac*

  5. February 17, 2010 - Reply

    GIRL me too about the hair commitment!!! I love the versitility of my hair now tho…still can straighten it, wear it in a fro or whatever. I soo feel you on this

  6. February 17, 2010 - Reply

    The first time I paid a visit to the barber and had my hair cut off was in '94…my freshman yr of college..I walked out feeling as if a weight was lifted off my shoulders…and the breeze felt good against my!

    I don't think I could go back to a short cut like that..even now when I look at pics, I'm just like you, saying “Who was that..??”…but I will also never put a relaxer in it either.

  7. February 17, 2010 - Reply

    yeah yeah yeah..i'll give you one “I told you so”

  8. February 17, 2010 - Reply

    and you were told correctly…i do remember your pin-up styles…but damn if i'm always loosing bobby I had the loc extensions, I did wear them in a few pinned up styles, but even with that…I got bored…

  9. February 17, 2010 - Reply

    Occasionally I like to treat myself 🙂

  10. February 17, 2010 - Reply

    you actually saw me the 2nd day I had the
    i know locs are versatile as well…but there's just something about having my hair loose that I always love.

  11. February 18, 2010 - Reply

    Girl, I could have told you! You could have saved your money!
    I knew it wouldn't last just like the braids you got in high school which lasted… Three days?
    I agree, that was an expensive experiment.

  12. February 18, 2010 - Reply

    The first step is admitting you have a problem . . . salon dread!!!

  13. February 18, 2010 - Reply

    Shut up! You were just jealous that they looked better than yours lol

  14. February 18, 2010 - Reply

    Since I can't treat myself to HI..I might as well do something for myself lol

  15. February 18, 2010 - Reply

    ROFL! Sounds like something I'd do. Girl, you could bought one of those “Milli Vanilli” loc wigs…I kid…hehe

  16. February 18, 2010 - Reply

    ha! u know u preaching to the choir! i haven't had the same style for more than 7 days. hence never being able to committ to locks real or fake. i wouldve taken them things out snow storm or not…

  17. February 18, 2010 - Reply

    LOL, well do ya thing then…*effin Leos and their manes* LOL

  18. February 18, 2010 - Reply

    I've done the lock thing and I see why you took em out. I too switch mine up every time I feel like it. Feel free to wear it how ever you like.It's only hair.

  19. February 18, 2010 - Reply

    I think you'd rock a nice baldy myself. *gets her eagle on*

  20. February 18, 2010 - Reply

    never ever again lol

  21. February 18, 2010 - Reply

    yes i remember your locs and when you cut them i was shocked! but i see you've been having fun with your hair since!

  22. February 18, 2010 - Reply

    i think 3 weeks is the longest i've kept any different style…from what i'm wearing now…

  23. February 18, 2010 - Reply

    oh hell no! lol

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  25. February 18, 2010 - Reply

    You were shocked? really? girl this shit aint fun. I cant wait till it's long enough to do nothing to it. Pony tail everyday!

    The thing about being natural is you have to do something to your hair, or else you will look like no one loves you.

    That appearance is not for me.

  26. February 19, 2010 - Reply

    Wow! I kinda wish I had gone that route…these things are nerve wracking! Not going back yet though. It's all about what you wanna do. Love it!

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