Yesha Callahan

Helen Keller Syndrome


It’s typically well known through my circle of friends that I have very few female friends. The few that I do have consist mainly of friends from elementary school, a few from college  I’ve kept in contact with over the years.  I would never say that I don’t get along with with women, but I will say that I have a low tolerance for some of them. I usually characterize  the ones I have low tolerance for as the “Helen Keller’s” of the world, those women who walk around  and are not  able to see the truth that is so blatantly in front of them or even listening/hearing other people’s opinions that may be beneficial to them.

I’ve suffered from the Helen Keller syndrome several times in my life and I’m sure that I’ll go through it again, so I definitely know how it feels. In my case I always had that friend who would bring me back to reality. Sometimes those the closest to you can always offer the most candid, no holds barred advice, but some women still choose not to listen.

Some people need to take the blindfolds off & stop pretending to be blind to what’s going on around them. Take the ear plugs out, if people are giving you advice, listen to it, it may be beneficial to you. If someone is telling you your man may be cheating, don’t just assume they’re ‘hating’ on your relationship or that they want what you have, maybe he is just a dog and they’re trying to look out for your best interests. If someone tells you that your attitude sucks, well don’t assume that they’re ‘hating’ on you, maybe you do have a garbage attitude. Also, if you solicit advice, take a minute to listen what’s offered to you and absorb it, it may come in handy later.

Many of use our eyes to see, but, don’t focus long enough to see the bigger picture. Yes, we have ears to hear with, but how often do we listen? We are given the sense of sight & hearing for a reason, how about we make a good use of it?

 

  1. March 27, 2009 - Reply

    Whew, this is so true. Sometimes ya wanna shake folks and say “wake the hell up!” I consider myself to be a pretty good judge of character, although I’ve incorrectly assessed a few. I had to learn to give my two cents and let ppl use or lose. Trips me out when they come back months later saying the exact thing I told them as if it’s the first time they heard or thought it. Some ppl choose to ignore, others get caught up in the moment and then there’s the plain ol’ ignorant ones. Great post!

    • March 27, 2009 - Reply

      @curvygurl

      Everyone has incorrectly assessed others, but it’s the lesson you take away from that & being able to use it in the future, not just keep on making the same mistakes.

  2. March 27, 2009 - Reply

    more folks need to do such but we too selfish

    • March 27, 2009 - Reply

      @rawdawgbuffalo

      you have a point there! but where does self-preservation & being selfish, begin & end?

  3. March 27, 2009 - Reply

    I agree. I believe some people are truly oblivious and some people opt to act oblivious because they feel it is easier than facing reality.

    • March 27, 2009 - Reply

      @Certified Diva

      Oblivious to the obvious….so many people are!

  4. March 27, 2009 - Reply

    My bf is experiencing Helen Keller Syndrome right now as it relates to his kids….but this too shall pass!

    • March 27, 2009 - Reply

      @Ohsoluvlee1

      Ohh are the kids acting out?

      • March 27, 2009 - Reply

        @[fung'ke] [blak] [chik]

        The description “acting out” doesnt even begin to cover it. And this is nothing compared to the drama related to the ex wife. So um er ahh.. Let me just say this…If you hear of any single guys in Memphis, let a sista know!

  5. March 27, 2009 - Reply

    Helen Keller Syndrome…I like that term lol. I have a friend that is suffering from HKS. After a while I had to just walk away because I figured out that it didn’t bother her as much as it botherd me. No sense in driving myself crazy trying to help someone that didn’t want help.

    • March 27, 2009 - Reply

      @faithw/anE

      Yup, a lot of times I shake my head & just walk away. I don’t have the energy to deal with O.P.P (other peoples problems) any more.

  6. March 29, 2009 - Reply

    And the church says…AMEN!

  7. March 30, 2009 - Reply

    Great blog, keep up the work. I have just started my own blog and I love checking out others to see what can be done.

  8. July 22, 2009 - Reply

    Ughh. I feel you on this one. I have a friend who is dating a cheater and we all know he's cheating. There is more than enough evidence and the warning signs were there from day one. But she still refuses to leave. This is what I think, if you're cool with being with a cheater, do you, but don't keep calling me crying about him cuz you already know what I'm gonna say “LEAVE”!

  9. July 23, 2009 - Reply

    Ughh. I feel you on this one. I have a friend who is dating a cheater and we all know he's cheating. There is more than enough evidence and the warning signs were there from day one. But she still refuses to leave. This is what I think, if you're cool with being with a cheater, do you, but don't keep calling me crying about him cuz you already know what I'm gonna say “LEAVE”!

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