Yesha Callahan

Hair Today, Gone Tomorrow

cut hair

Let me preface this and say that I’m not a beauty blogger or natural hair blogger. I have a routine that works for me, and if people ask what that is, then fine, I’m all for sharing. Last year I wrote about my “Hair Arsenal” and from that post, I received a few emails about some of the products I mentioned. I will be the first to say, that just because I have natural hair, doesn’t mean that I stick to a strictly ‘natural’ product routine. There have been natural products, which I shall not name, that have caused me tremendous issues when it came to shedding and irritation. I remember one time several years ago, I started using on in particular, and within a week, my hair was literally falling out in clumps. Needless to say, after I stopped the product the horrible shedding stopped.

So obviously from reading the above, this post is about MY hair. Every couple of years I go through the motions when it comes to my hair, and this is one of those moments. Today I blew it out and the scissors were staring right at me. As tempting as it was, I couldn’t bring myself to start the big cut off. All I could muster up was simple trim. After I was done, I still wasn’t satisfied.

A few weeks ago I contemplated starting my quest to cultivate my hair into locs (dreadlocks but I hate using that word). When I told a few friends, they all gave me an immediate side-eye, because they knew about my commitment issues, when it comes to my hair, among other things. I figured I would test it out by having my sister put my hair into two strand twists. After she finished, I felt so naked. I was so used to having my hair loose & free flowing, that it felt weird to have it tied down. I literally felt naked. That night I had plans to go out with a few friends to see ?uestlove perform at Liv , I was so self-conscious about not having my hair out, that I had thought about not even going. But then there were people like Vicki aka Gravity508, who although joked about my head, but reassured me that it looked fine, when I saw her that night. The compliment that was even more interesting was one from a random guy who approached me, to let me know he thought it was nice as well. I blame it on the alcohol & the mere fact that I was tired & heading out of the lounge for me not engaging in conversation with him, because he was quite handsome. Anyways, the twists only lasted a few days, simply because of the product I used, that will not be named, made my hair feel like an oil slick!

So here I am, a few weeks later and I still have no idea what I want to do with my hair.

Locs?

Black?

Brown?

Honey Blond?

Straight? (with a flat iron, I don’t do lye)

Curly? (which is the norm for me 24/7)

Complete chop off?

Decisions, decisions! I have no idea what I’ll end up with, but I do know, this week I’ll start off with a new hair color. Light brown with golden blond highlights is my Spring & Summer favorite, so I’ll stick to my regular at home self-coloring routine. Whatever I decide to choose, I’m sure I’ll end up writing about that journey as well!

Has anyone else gone through hair trials & tribulations or ever get the need for a change? Men, I swear some of yall have it easy. Just walk into a barber & ask for a #1 and a shape-up!

  1. March 16, 2009 - Reply

    There is not a day that goes by that I don’t contemplate doing something with my hair. My fro is a force and most days I throw it under a hat. Next up, some tracks lol. Good luck with your hair 🙂

    • March 17, 2009 - Reply

      @Miss Cocoa Luv

      See, I wish I could wear a hat! But I hate the feel of having anything on my head…hat, scarf, etc…can’t do it!

  2. March 16, 2009 - Reply

    I have a love/hate relationship with my hair. I have searched endlessly for the perfect product that will keep my hair frizz free but not leave it crunchy feeling. It doesn’t help that my hair curls different on one side of my hair than the other side. *sigh* Well at least I have hair…

    • March 17, 2009 - Reply

      @Tam

      See I thought I was the only one with that problem! The hair on my right side has perfect curls, the curls on the left are a little less spiral, I have no idea what went wrong over there!
      One of the products I found that didn’t give me the scrunchy feeling is the Mixed Chicks Leave In Conditioner/Styling Cream, it lasts long and isn’t too costly.
      http://us.st12.yimg.com/us.st.yimg.com/I/yhst-70423349317613_2045_199440

  3. March 16, 2009 - Reply

    I completly understand ! I have zero commitment to my hair I went natural for the sole purpose of being able to have some variety. I wear so many styles. I believe hair grows back go for it! And if you don’t like it rock some weave. That’s my philosophy. And u make a great point about being natural and only using natural products, I say do what works for YOUR hair! Those hair forums can be so overwhelming with their products and concoctions, length checks and challenges… I’m not completly attached to my hair but I am attached to my mood and I adjust accordingly!

    • March 17, 2009 - Reply

      @CertifiedDiva

      I’ve tried those concoctions and amazingly the one I’ve been sticking to works (monistat). I have no time to do length checks, etc..etc.., sometimes it seems they’re obsessed with it! I am not my hair, I just get bored with it at times.

    • March 17, 2009 - Reply

      @CertifiedDiva

      Yeah those hair forums can be too much! Sometimes I just want to find a new conditioner, geesh.

      • March 17, 2009 - Reply

        @Prosechild

        YES!!! LOL I would peruse the forums looking for product suggestions and end up getting lost in long threads and googling other products I don’t even need. Then I find myself in somebody’s FOTKI or on some YouTube Tutorial *sigh* thats all day. But I have never tried a growth aid like monistat or MegaTek and people RAVE about them… I may give one or two concotions a try!

        • March 17, 2009 - Reply

          @Certified Diva

          I don’t know anything about MegaTek, but monistat works pretty well…When I tell ppl that they look at me like I’m crazy..lol

      • March 17, 2009 - Reply

        @Prosechild

        That’s why I just find a few and try them out on my own! I can’t deal with all of that reading lol

  4. March 16, 2009 - Reply

    I feel ya. I’m ready for a change to so I’ve been cutting a little each week. My hair was shoulder length, but didn’t have a real style. I’m aiming for a curly ‘do with a nice color. I don’t think I can do locs although they look good on some folks.

    • March 17, 2009 - Reply

      @curvygurl

      That’s where I am right now, no style! When I wear it curly it’s fine to ‘freestyle’, but when I get the urge to blow dry it, it’s just long for no reason, with no style. I’ve always wanted locs, and this may be the time.

  5. March 16, 2009 - Reply

    I’m in that exact position right now. I just took out some kinky twists and I’m thinking of hacking it off for the summer…decisions, decisions…

    • March 17, 2009 - Reply

      @Sabrina

      I’ve had two big chop offs, and I mean barber cuts! But I don’t think I want to go that extreme again!

  6. March 17, 2009 - Reply

    Talk about hair commitment issues – I was natural twice, and have been relaxed again for about 4 yrs. Every time I have more than an inch of new growth, I think about going natural again. But natural hair is not for me. I have too MUCH hair. But I still go back and forth.. I’ve been wearing quick weaves I make at home for a few months now. It seems like the approach of spring always heralds a new hair attitude.

    • March 17, 2009 - Reply

      @Prosechild

      I haven’t had a relaxer in about 16 yrs now! I doubt that I’ll ever go that route again, I try to do my best with a flat iron and some Chi Silk hair styling gel. My sister just had a weave done a few weeks ago, but I don’t feel comfortable doing that either. What I have in my closet are a few half pieces, for when I just want something quick. My coworkers all look at me crazy and want to know why I would wear them, when my own hair is longer, but it’s all about having those lazy day options, I suppose and a quick new style.

      • March 17, 2009 - Reply

        @[fung'ke] [blak] [chik]

        That’s what mine are like, instead of the half pieces they’re more like wigs. The combs in half pieces hurt my scalp. And my hair is long too, I just don’t want to comb it everyday. I hate the misconception that only people with short hair wear weaves.
        I had no idea about flatirons to straighten hair when I was natural! I tried with an old-fashioned straightening comb but could never get the ends straight. I might have kept it natural had I known.

        • March 17, 2009 - Reply

          @Prosechild

          Yea I’m rockin wigs now, I try to keep 3 on rotation (1 for work, 1 for shopping or day activities and 1 for clubbin) and I love it! I can have really short hair or a modest mid length look… I just stay away from the flat iron until I trim my ends because when I flat iron my ends look crazy. So when I get out of my wig phase I will be looking into trimming the bush a bit.

  7. March 17, 2009 - Reply

    I feel your pain, I have been natural amost 10 years and loced almost 5. Yet in the past 6 mos I keep having the urge to just cut it all off. For years I wanted long hair, now its long and honestly at times its a PITA. Just washing my hair is a production these days. I look back fondly on the days I had a low natural, could just wash and go. LOL
    I also want to color my hair but really like the gray streak in the front so I am in a hair funk. Hope you can come up with something you like.

    • March 25, 2009 - Reply

      @Blackgirlinnmaine

      I would love to say one day that i’ve been loced for 5 yrs! I hear so many ppl with locs going through the the same thing and I’m just so jealous!

  8. March 17, 2009 - Reply

    I go through trials and tribulations myself , my biggest issue is not wanting to over fry it with chemicals but the texture of my hair is so unbalanced I need to have a lil something to get it all on the same wavelength, I do have that wet it and roll type hair, with just a lil oil and it looks fine, but that type of hairstyle doesn’t go with all events and sometimes seems kiddy.
    Even when it is straight it only takes a drop of sweat or 1 drop of rain before it looks retarded. I hate putting gel or hair spray in my hair I hate sticky hair it grosses me out.
    Any way that’s my blahblah, I fight daily wit with, oh the drama. Oh and the other thing is, Hubbs plays in my hair, head massages are some awesome things so wrapping it up at night is a lost cause, he will unwrap it unless I forbid him, but then I miss out on the feel goodness of having my hair played in, so I give in and let em, it puts me to sleep, lolol.

    • March 25, 2009 - Reply

      @Jazz

      All it takes for me is one drop of sweat & any work I’ve done on it to blow dry it or flat iron it, is just a waste! So usually I wear my hair straight more so in the winter or spring when there’s no humidity.

  9. March 17, 2009 - Reply

    As long as you handle those grays!! lol

    • March 18, 2009 - Reply

      @Anthony Taurus

      Ok, Mr. Smart Ass! lol

  10. March 17, 2009 - Reply

    Monistat for h air growth?!? How come no one told me about this?! Im going to try this one out!
    L

    • March 18, 2009 - Reply

      @lola gets

      I was just as surprised when I read about it…and for me, it worked..I used it about 3xs a week on my scalp.

  11. March 18, 2009 - Reply

    new to the spot…diggin it…i definitely have hair issues…from going natural to permingto growing it to cutting it all off…it just depends on what type of mood i am i am currently growing it out right now since its wedding season…but after that i am cuttin it all OFF…lol

    • March 18, 2009 - Reply

      @TC

      I’m trying not stay away from the scissors..lol

  12. March 18, 2009 - Reply

    I too am at a crossroads as it relates to my hair. I dont know if you’ve seen my pics but I rock a short short short blonde natural. I see so many other fat chicks with my ‘do now that I seriously “dont” anymore. I want locs too but I keep my hair cut close enough to form cute lil curls close to my head and the in between phase is agonizing. When my hair grows out the least little bit I feel like my head looks wild and unkept. So everytime I get close to letting it grow out enough to start off some locs I cut it all off again. I thought about getting it braided or wearing wigs (uuugh!) but then again maybe I will just try to grow several inches of hair because I’ve decided that I dont even like the “initial” phase of locks where they look like little twigs sprouting out from your head…
    *long sip of coffee*
    Tell me this…is it me or do you find that you buy more products with natural hair than you did with relaxed hair? I spend so much more money now its ridiculous. A few of the websites that have some of my pocket change are Kinky-curly.com, MissJessies.com, Carolsdaughter.com, Kimble products (now sold at Target), myriad others. Its crazy the money I spend on my nappy headed self…and now I cant wait to try this Monistat…lol.

    • March 18, 2009 - Reply

      @Ohsoluvlee1

      Yes, I’ve seen your short blond natural! It looks cute on you! The money I used to spend on products was ridiculous! Esp. Miss Jessies, and only to get mediocre results. Kinky-curly made my hair feel so crunchy, didn’t like it..and Carols Daughter…well that’s a whole ‘nother story! Ugh!

  13. March 18, 2009 - Reply

    I’m confused about the Monistat…is this the same Monistat used for other female issues? If so, how exactly is it used on the hair. I’m up for trying just about anything if it will help my hair grow.
    Can someone help me understand?

    • March 18, 2009 - Reply

      @Tam

      Yup it’s the same one…or any generic version…I put it on my scalp about 3xs a week…it’s that simple.

  14. March 18, 2009 - Reply

    Being as though I’m wearing a hat today, I can say that I feel your pain when it comes to the indecisiveness about hairstyles! I have an appt on Friday; I will be cutting it – AGAIN – because I definitely want to start with small twists. I can’t wait!!! Only a few more trips left!

    • March 18, 2009 - Reply

      @Iesha

      I’ve seen the length you have now, you cant’ start twists with that? Or are you trying to trim off the relaxed hair gradually?

  15. March 18, 2009 - Reply

    Relaxer’s been gone…I keep cutting it now cause I want to start with the same length all over. What color would look good on me with twists?

    • March 18, 2009 - Reply

      @Iesha

      hmm..maybe a lighter brown? with some highlights?

  16. March 19, 2009 - Reply

    I got a head full of coochie cream mixed with tea trea oil ret neh… *giggles*

    • March 25, 2009 - Reply

      @Ohsoluvlee1

      you have to tell me how it works out for you!

  17. April 24, 2009 - Reply

    Before chemo, I couldn't stand my hair – now I wish I had it back. Right before it fell out, I was trying to outgrow the relaxer and go the natural route. I didn't want to do the big chop but as we know, the joke was on me. Now, my hair is growing back but it's coming in gray.

    I understand always wanting a new look – that's why I traumatized my hair trying to always whip it into (what I thought) perfect shape.

    All I can say is: be thankful you have hair! If you feel naked with it twisted then let it flow! Do what YOU feel comfortable with.

    P.S. Personally, I like the wild and curly look with highlights.

    P.S.S. I found out there is a “green” salon here in NH. Maybe try a similiar place if you want to be kinder to your hair.

  18. April 24, 2009 - Reply

    Before chemo, I couldn't stand my hair – now I wish I had it back. Right before it fell out, I was trying to outgrow the relaxer and go the natural route. I didn't want to do the big chop but as we know, the joke was on me. Now, my hair is growing back but it's coming in gray.

    I understand always wanting a new look – that's why I traumatized my hair trying to always whip it into (what I thought) perfect shape.

    All I can say is: be thankful you have hair! If you feel naked with it twisted then let it flow! Do what YOU feel comfortable with.

    P.S. Personally, I like the wild and curly look with highlights.

    P.S.S. I found out there is a “green” salon here in NH. Maybe try a similiar place if you want to be kinder to your hair.

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