Growing up there was always a male presence in my life. Whether it was my father or one of my 6 uncles, there was never a time when I wasn’t around testosterone. Even with my one aunt that I grew up around, I thought she was more manly than most women, but that was also because she grew up around all of my uncles too, her brothers. Till this day, I still have a strong bond with my uncles. By being around them when I was younger, I learned a lot and took mental notes.
As I grew older, for some reason it was a lot easier for me to form friendships with guys. I guess because back then, in my formative years, I was some what of a tomboy. I was always the only girl running around with my guy friends on their skateboards, or riding our bikes around our neighborhood. In high school, the same pattern existed, even though I did form a few friendships with females. I was actively involved in sports, so most of my time was spent in the weight room, joking around with the boys, when I was supposed to be working out. I can’t say that I’ve ever had a problem with any of them attempting to ‘cross the line’ between a platonic friendship and flirting/sexual innuendos.
When I entered college, I still had guy friends around constantly. I was known as the girl who could beat about any guy in pool or video games, so some guy was always challenging me. Yet again, those friendships were formed out of a common bond.
With all of that said, still, even in my adulthood, I believe men and women can be platonic friends. Now, I’m not talking about men & women who have dated or been in a relationship with each other previously, I’m referring to Mark meets Tracey and they form a friendship. Nothing less, nothing more. Just two people enjoying each other’s conversation and activities together, as would a Male/Male or Female/Female friendship.
Two of my closest guy friends in this area happen to be men. I can call my friend Donovan up at any time of the night and spill my guts to him. I’ve met his fiance, I’ve been invited to trips/dinners/etc..etc. with them. There has never been any flirting or innuendo between us and there never will be. Some of you are problem thinking, “Well he must be ugly..something has to be wrong with him or her..”. Wrong. He’s actually quite handsome, but I have never been attracted to him and never will be. He’s a friend, and one of my best ones.
Personally, I think there has to somewhat of a greater level of maturity for a man & woman to be platonic friends. When you meet someone of the opposite sex, it doesn’t always have to be based purely on whether or not you’re going to have sex with that person. It could just be based simply on common interests and just clicking with that person.
So, you’ve read my opinion, what’s yours?
Do you feel that men & women can be strictly platonic friends? Why/why not?