Yesha Callahan

Computer Love

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In this age of technology and social networking, internet dating has become a very lucrative business. Every day there’s a new Match, E-Harmony, Yahoo Personals popping up on the internet. There is even ‘niche’ dating sites, if your tastes are reflected around interracial dating you can find that, or if you’re into the big & beautiful, there’s a site for you too.

Nowadays, you don’t have to leave you house to find a date or a quick hook up. You can go the free route with Craigslist, or pay the subscription fees that other sites charge. Either way, the dating world is basically at the tips of your fingertips.

But is there a quality v. quantity issue in regards to internet dating? In the DC area, it’s not uncommon to run across someone who knows someone else that you’ve met, coupled with the internet, the chances of dating someone your girlfriend or guy friend has dated, is pretty much bound to happen.  It’s like a pokemon trading game. You have to pass a photo around to a female friend and ask, “Do you know him? Have you dated him?”.

I remember years ago, I met an ex & still current friend on Black Planet.  Back then I guess I was more open to meeting people that route, but nowadays, I’m a lot hesistant to. After hearing horror story after horror story, it’s more so a turn off to me. I think I could literally write chapters from various experiences that some of my friends have had, male & female.

So, my question is, if you’ve done the internet dating thing, what is your biggest complaint? If you haven’t ventured out to find a date via the internet, what is your main reason in not doing so?

  1. April 17, 2009 - Reply

    I met my husband online. But I can say that my biggest complaint is that online dating is not monogomy friendly. Otherwise, it is okay, similar to meeting people in person you have to really take time to filter through the B.S. and get to know a person … keyword “take time.”

    • April 17, 2009 - Reply

      @Certified Diva

      Exactly, take time! You are so right, it does not favor monogomy, only b/c the same person can have the same profile on 10 different sites and have their pick of the liter.

  2. April 17, 2009 - Reply

    I’ve done internet dating. At this point, it’s a completely acceptable means of dating, no different than going on a blind date or doing speed dating. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. The problem happens, when people misrepresent themselves, saying they’re tall, dark and handsome … when in actuality, they’re short, bald and cute. I say, be who you are, trust, there’s someone out there who likes short, bald and cute. It’s just not me!

    • April 17, 2009 - Reply

      @ND McCray

      I think what the two sexes lie about are fairly similiar..
      Some men lie about their height & some women lie about their weight.

  3. April 17, 2009 - Reply

    Internet dating has been good and bad for me. Good because I’m currently dating someone who I’m seriously into and things are going very well. On the other hand, you can come across some real “duds” who aren’t worth the time AT ALL!
    One of my biggest complaints about meeting guys online would be the ones who seemed to be so hard up to be with someone!!! PROCEED WITH CAUTION because those are the crazys!!!

    • April 17, 2009 - Reply

      @Iesha

      well u for one know my story..need I say brooklyn? LMAO!

  4. April 17, 2009 - Reply

    Internet dating scares the beJesus out of me! Simply because you never really know what you’re getting. I meet enough crazy people in person, I don’t need to add the internet crazies to my list! LOL

    • April 17, 2009 - Reply

      @Mimi

      LOL! The same crazies you meet in person, are definitely on the internet!

      • April 17, 2009 - Reply

        @[fung'ke] [blak] [chik]

        And sometimes, they’re even CRAZIER while they’re OFF the INTERNET.

  5. April 17, 2009 - Reply

    I’m done. No other man can come at me over the Internet. Between distance and people lying about their appearance, its more than I can stand. I’ve had more than one dude talk smack about what I meant to him and how we were gonna be this or that…all for him to flake out based on the distance. WELL DUH!! When you talk to nothing but chicks who live out of state that’s what tends to happen ASS!
    Ultimately, If I can’t bump into it at Wal-Mart, the gas station, supermarket, party, chuuch, bus stop…then it’s not meant for me. PERIOD!

  6. April 18, 2009 - Reply

    my biggest complaint is that the overwhelming majority want to showcase who they really truly are, and that is not just online, you also find that in traditional dating with the difference being it is so much easier to sustain a prolonged deception in cyber-space. which is why i don’t do online dating anymore, and don’t even meet anyone from my online life. online stays online. there are enough folks ‘out there’ waiting to F me over (((haha)))

  7. April 18, 2009 - Reply

    Great Post!!! I’ve always been apprehesive about trying internet dating. I do realize that it’s becoming the best way to find someone to date as many people are spending more time at home in front of their PCs lol I wish it was like the old days when people still had get togethers at they home where you bring your friend’s friend and love connections can happen. But I digress lol
    I think that people aren’t taking the time to really see if the person they meet is really right for them. Just because you weren’t feeling the person on the 1st date doesn’t mean you should go back on Match and log on to get the next hit on your list. However, there are some people who misrepresent themselves online which overall makes the whole thing a gamble! Some people get lucky in love.

  8. April 20, 2009 - Reply

    LOL not craigslist

  9. April 22, 2009 - Reply

    *sigh* Yes, I have done the internet dating thing, My ex husband and I met online in 1998 and were married in 2000. I don’t look down at Internet dating at all, it is pretty much the commonplace. But I do find that NOW on the Internet, people trump up lives and falsehoods to make them appear grander than they really are. I think people are less honest about their economic situations or lifestyles. I’ve busted a few brothers who were perpatrating. I guess it just comes with the territory.

  10. January 22, 2010 - Reply

    craigslist sucks … i cant imagine opening a site today that even looks remotely like that
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