Yesha Callahan

Breaking News: Men, You Are Not God’s Gift To Women

Men, some of you have some shit going on with yall, which makes me believe that most single women should appreciate the fact that they are indeed single and don’t have to put up with it.  Sometimes I sit back and think about the type of parents (often times mainly women) who could have possibly raised some of the men that are out there.  Recently, some of the misogynistic views that I’ve heard from men, if I didn’t know any better, would lead me to believe that there is a generation of men out there who were raised by cave men.

Ironically, these are the same men who consider themselves to be a “prize” to women.  They are delusional enough to believe that any woman would/should be grateful to be in their presence and appreciate that they’re giving them the time of day. These are the same men who believe that because there are plenty of fish in the sea, why should they have to settle on being with just one, because after all it’s supply versus demand. Oddly enough, once this type of man meets the female version of himself, they’re easily to dismiss this woman as being a “slut” because it’s not “natural” for women to behave in such a manner. Go figure. Apparently, these gifts with penises don’t believe in the old saying, “what’s good for the goose is good for the gander”.

Who’s to blame for these arrogant gifts walking around? Unfortunately, it’s either the woman who raised them, or the women who’ve put up with the nonsense from them.  By the time these men reach adulthood it’s too hard to wrap them back up and return to sender, so until other women learn to put their foot down  and stop accepting their behavior and even rationalizing it,  it’s going to continue.

Men, you are not god’s gift to women, and unfortunately you don’t come with receipts, but best believe, when you’re old and no one wants to put up with your bullshit, the only gift a woman is going to give you is a bottle filled with little blue pills.

  1. August 16, 2010 - Reply

    booooooooooooooooooooo

    • August 16, 2010 - Reply

      @zillz

      ha! where’s your receipt??

  2. August 16, 2010 - Reply

    Right on!

  3. August 16, 2010 - Reply

    LMAO! Even with the receipt, you can’t return some after 30 days! they will only give you store credit…but i want MY MONEY BACK! Lol!

    • September 22, 2012 - Reply

      @Lisa Ford

      The heonsty of your posting is there for all to see

  4. August 16, 2010 - Reply

    It sounds like you’re talking about Black men here (maybe not exclusively, but they’re definitely being talked about). We’ve gotten enough complaints to know when someone’s talking about us 🙂 I’m joking.
    –But, not really.
    I’ll offer this. I don’t think you’re mad at “men”, in general. Well, you ARE. But, not really. It’s more the power dynamics that has you upset. Frustrated. But, it’s understandable. You mention that these men are arrogant. It’s probably not because that’s the way they are, but because of the fact that he can get others who are pining for him elsewhere… if YOU, Fly Black Chick, aren’t willing to “play ball” (let’s say).
    But, this issue can be circumvented by “women”. If women decided amongst themselves that they should demand to be treated with common civility …men would start to change. Why? Because there’d be no “elsewhere” to go to. The woman two houses over won’t put up with my arrogance, just as much as Fly Black Chick wouldn’t. So, what choice would I have other than to change or to lose a really great potential relationship (and wasting a LOT of time, trying to find another good thing)?
    Women benefit by having this united front much more than having only their individual efforts. They really do.
    But, maybe you should address “women” about this topic? I can tell you, “men” aren’t going to change because they’re being called arrogant. Some might even like it that people are calling them arrogant…
    –Because they’re arrogant.

    • August 16, 2010 - Reply

      @K. Michel

      I’m not sure why you’ve assumed I was addressing black men, my post was pretty generic in regards to the ‘race’ of men, b/c it applies to ALL men. Black/white/yellow/purple/gold…I’ve dated & been in relationships with all types…one is no better than the other…
      Also, I’ve previously addressed my issues with SOME women ad nausea as well…both they both go hand in hand…like the saying goes, you can’t teach an old dog new tricks, whether that dog is a bitch or male…

      • August 16, 2010 - Reply

        @[flahy][blak][chik]

        I’ve read your other posts, and I do get the impression that you’re an equal opportunity dater. I truly believe that you are.
        But, this particular post just spells out the situation going on with a lot of Black men and women right now. Maybe that’s just me being the stereotypical “narcissistic Black man”… however it is my thought. I don’t mind being wrong.
        I do appreciate the fact that you wanted to keep race out of this post. Also, I have a question.
        “These are the same men who believe that because there are plenty of fish in the sea, why should they have to settle on being with just one, because after all it’s supply versus demand.” – [flahy][blak][chik]
        Is it this bad even for equal opportunity daters, too?

        • August 17, 2010 - Reply

          @K. Michel

          I too automatically thought you were talking about Black men, even though you clearly stated that you were talking about men, not Black men, White men, etc. They are all equally ‘guilty’ (for lack of a better word). I think I automatically assumed you were talking about Black men because that’s what Black women are inundated with on a daily basis. It doesn’t matter whether we read the traditional ‘Women’s Magazines’ (which lament the plight of women everywhere), when it comes from a Black woman, it’s just easier to assume Black man. Good job on the post, thanks for making me think!

  5. August 17, 2010 - Reply

    I think that you are right, there are a group of men who think they are God’s gift to women and they are playing with the ratio that works in their favor. You asked where the blame rests. Well, blame is too strong a word. Let’s use the word “reason”. There are 3 possible reasons.
    1. Upbringing: Of course environment plays a part in how a person behaves. But frankly, some mothers do the best they can and still raise idiots because their idiot friends have a stronger influence.
    2. Women Who Put Up With Them: This is one of the biggest reasons. I don’t know if women knew this, but if women STOPPED dealing with idiots, men would figure out how NOT to be an idiot in order to have a woman. It always baffled me why women would date thugs and bad boys and yet complain about it being no good men. Then you got songs where women talk about how they need a “soldier” and “thug”. They should trying chorusing about a man who can read, loves God and treats women right. Men change to what women like. Put your stilleto’d foot down!
    3. Self: No matter if he was raised right or not, or have a woman who puts up with his crap, he is ultimately responsible for himself. Regardless of the traceable origin of our behavior we are still responsible for what we do.

    • August 17, 2010 - Reply

      @David Patrick

      Well said. In the argument over nature vs. nurture I’ve always believed that a mixture of the two will determine how a person turns out. I happen to understand and believe that there are good Black men out there…I was raised by one. I grew up around good, solid Black men who treated me with respect and as a result I learned to respect myself and not accept anything less from a young age. When my husband and I do have children we plan them to be raised the same way we were raised: to respect others and not put up with the BS.

  6. August 18, 2010 - Reply

    Breaking News: Women are god’s gift to men. The gift that keeps on giving.
    Hi! My name is Loco…and I’m a recovering misogynist / philanderer/ cave man.
    I haven’t called a woman the “B” word, the “L” word (when told to “F” off on my approach), cheated, abused, mistreated, cussed at, asked for a threesome with her cute well-endowed friend, told “it’s not you, it’s me”, or even “I can’t stop you from doing other guys…” in several weeks.
    I don’t blame anyone but Loco Jr. (my companion in pleasure and tribulation) for my misbehavior. My mother hated men but that’s not breaking news. My father was a philanderer but I don’t envy the results (early death, three wives at the funeral, kids in several time zones…)nah, he wasn’t my role model. All I know is, though it is considered abberant behavior, it feels totally natural to have more than one woman.
    My vice tells me “you’re the man!” “You’re the envy of your brethren” “you only live once so make it count” “if God didn’t want you to do this why would he curse you, and your brethren, with this instinct that requires constant repression?” and the likes.
    But I know, because every woman tells me so, that to feel this way is sick. Loco Jr. doesn’t think so, but today, Thank God, Loco senior has the wheel, and God help me, I’m gonna stay on this wagon…one day at a time.
    Nice post Fly chick. Dig your blog! What you doing this weekend?? We should get…Oh damnnnnn, Jr! Shut up!
    (-;

  7. August 18, 2010 - Reply

    LOL this is great!

  8. September 22, 2010 - Reply

    Is this not misandrist?
    Why is a misandrist talking down the misogynists?

    • September 22, 2010 - Reply

      @Stanley

      why is it when a woman calls a man out on their bullshit..it’s misanthropy? you may want to look it up for a clearer definition of the concept…besides the fact that i’m known for calling both men & women out for the bs..i guess I just hate everyone? lmao!

  9. October 21, 2010 - Reply

    Your completely wrong. You think all men are like this? That is complete utter bull shit. There a nice men out there, me being 1 of them. Maybe you should start choosing your men more wisely, because a nice dude is hardly ever the dream man wearing the suit with a wod of cash. Maybe the nice guy is at the corner of the bar, to scared to talk to you but would treat you like a princess if he had the chance. It’s women like you who fall for the assholes (leaving us nice guys hanging) and then bitch about it later and then accuse all men of doing this!. I was always taught that nice guys always win, it’s hardly the case nowadays.

    • October 21, 2010 - Reply

      @Elliot

      Obviously, this post was not directed towards the “nice men” out there.

    • January 14, 2014 - Reply

      @Elliot

      What’s what’s with the “all” and the “completely”? You write as if she was talking about YOU. If you are what you so you are then she is not talking to you or men like you. Nowhere does she say ALL men so you need to chill out, read the post again and pass it on to the men/women you know who can benefit from it. Men like this exist and so do good and emotionally healthy men like you. However this particular post is not about men like YOU. Get over yourself and try to read this from the perspective of the author and what she and so other women out there have to deal with at least once in their lives. This is not an argument but a testimony. Be constructive and she a testimony of how more women can avoid the scum that mistreat women and the mature and caring men like you.

  10. February 17, 2012 - Reply

    Right on and those with the most serious symptom of this condition are the so-called “nice guys”. They don’t know how to approach a woman and when they muster some courage to do it, they don’t know how to handle rejection. And why do I think that their whole reasoning is one of a person who thinks he was God’s gift? Not once, did they even think that you could said NO to them and being entitled to that decision. Do men even stop to consider what a woman might want in a man or should it just happy that he’s got a job and can put food on a table? This is the 21st century. Women are allowed to think, to express and to aspire what they desire. Why don’t you try to inquire about whatever that encompasses, you know, just for the sake of acknowledging that the woman you’re hitting on, is another human being whose needs are as valid as yours? Yeah, men grow up thinking they’re God’s gift to women.

    • January 14, 2014 - Reply

      @Anna

      It’s funny that men who behave this way think that they are God’s gift to to woman. God created woman to be a companion for man so that man did not have to be alone. Women and the children we birth are God’s gift to man not the other way around.

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