Yesha Callahan

Are You A Married Man Magnet?

According to the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy, approximately 50 percent of married women and 60 percent of married men will cheat at some point in their marriage. I don’t think anyone goes into a marriage without having some history of cheating on a girlfriend or boyfriend. My question is, what’s the point in getting married, if you are already have a pattern of behavior that you really don’t expect to change.

Since it’s a 50/60 split, I think I’d rather discuss the 60% of men who cheat, because basically because I’m a woman and that’s the only population that could possibly affect me.

I’m not even going to delve into the possible reasons why men cheat, but a few that quickly come to mind are:

  • Greed
  • Greed
  • Greed
  • Internet
  • Greed

I also think there is a small, minuscule population of men who feel “stuck” in a bad relationship, and who choose not to break up their home. But like I said. Minuscule. Even then, it’s still called cheating. There’s really no way to sugar coat it.

Unfortunately, there are a lot of women who prefer married men, so cheating makes it just that easier for them. Why? Well apparently they’ve suffered severe brain trauma sometime during their life and are just that dumb.  These women will actively seek out married men, and always use the rationale, “Well I can just send them home to their wives”.  Bitch. Please.  There’s a psychiatrist waiting to take your co-pay and help you get over these issues.

Then there are the single women, who don’t actively seek out married men, but seem to be a magnet for them. I’m pretty much convinced married men are quite possibly the best liars to walk the face of the earth.  I truly don’t understand the rationale of  married men who cheat, and at this point in life, it’s probably not worth understanding. Once again, why even bothered getting married, if you have a history of not being able to stay monogamous.

A word of advice, married men, it’s probably best that you stick to the population of women who want to deal with you. It’s pretty easy to figure out who they are with a simple question, “Hey, I’m married. Do you care?”. Typically if you run across a woman who doesn’t care, she’ll simply respond with a, “No, can you buy me a drink?”. It’s that simple. It is not rocket science. You don’t need to know derivatives to figure out who they are. Hell, if you wear your wedding band out in public and women still approach you, they’ve made it that much easier for you to figure out who they are.  On the flip-side, if by chance, a woman responds with a “Yes”, they do care if you’re married. Walk away. Leave it at that.  That’s easier than being on the next episode of Cheaters with Joey Greco. An even easier solution…how about staying single and if you happen to get married, get yourself a sisters-wife, move to Utah and have all of the women you want.

  1. October 25, 2010 - Reply

    I can never understand the women who actively seek married men…they’re enablers.

    • October 25, 2010 - Reply


      they’re another group of ppl i try not to figure out

  2. October 25, 2010 - Reply

    makes me sick. -_-

    • October 25, 2010 - Reply


      tis a shame.

  3. October 25, 2010 - Reply

    “I was gon’ take you on a cruise next week.”

    • October 25, 2010 - Reply

      @Miss Dimples

      Is that what that man told u!?!? OMG *dead*

      • October 25, 2010 - Reply


        LOL @ your edits!

        • October 25, 2010 - Reply

          @Miss Dimples

          i’m just is your own phrat..going to rat you out…esp if I tell you, “hey i know such & such from your chapter”

  4. October 25, 2010 - Reply

    Wow…just had this conversation last night, well sort of…I have a friend whose mother had a child by a married man, which of course equals issues. Anywhoo, I had a few drinks and I thought I quietly said,” Don’t have kids by married men.” My bad. My husband heard me and said very loudly, “So basically what you’re saying is don’t have kids by a married man?” Silence.
    I know women that have said many times, “…go home to your wife…” UGH.
    This women are enablers and the men are just dumbasses.
    Sorry if I’m rambling, its just that I know too many people that have been affected by the cheating that happens by married men…
    Love your site, been reading for a while, first time commenting.

    • October 26, 2010 - Reply


      Thanks for commenting! That’s exactly what they are..enablers..and then those same men, expect other women to treat their situation the same way…

  5. October 26, 2010 - Reply

    Assholes. Period.

  6. October 26, 2010 - Reply

    Cheating is always due to a case of misplaced entitlement and it’s so sad because the fallout is always so much bigger than the initial thrill/release/fantasy – not to mention it affects so many people.
    Life would be so much easier if all the selfish men and women who like to cheat would find each other; keep your destructive behaviour to your damn selves.
    And for the minuscule amount that are unhappy but want to keep things together – find the strength to stick it out or the courage to leave, the so called altruism is pathetic.

    • October 27, 2010 - Reply

      @Sweet Chic Geek

      “Cheating is always due to..”
      You should write a book and save us all.
      I used to walk up and down Waikiki beach scoring girls from all around the world who wanted a fantasy. No strings. No promises. No “I love you” No expectations other than being completely if just for a moment, mentally and physically satisfied.
      They were sometimes married and I couldn’t have cared less. They came all the way to Hawaii and sat on the beach watching the sunset alone pondering things and reflecting on others.
      I was what they wanted. They taught me a lot. Not a lot of hesitation for a stranger to a stranger.
      I learned it was all about listening, laughing and loving. Ignore any one of those and your girl might being getting picked up on a beach sometime soon.
      Judging people…..Hmmm. I’d rather listen to them.

  7. October 31, 2010 - Reply

    Yeah married men are really great liars. I have met my share and was amazed at the lengths they would go to prevent the other from finding out that they are married.
    Peace, Love and Chocolate

  8. December 1, 2010 - Reply

    Good God i’m glad i don’t cheat. I’d get slayed up in here.

  9. January 25, 2011 - Reply

    ”* I am very thankful to this topic because it really gives useful information ~’.

  10. May 16, 2015 - Reply

    I just so happento be the single woman who is in her early 40’s who is a married man magnet. Not out of pursuing married men at all. It might be because I am attractive but a single mom to a disabled 14 year old child. Not a lot of guys want to take that on. I swear I don’t get into relationships at all with married men but they are the only men that actively pursue me.

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