Yesha Callahan

Adam, Eve & Steve

“Being bisexual doubles your chances of getting a date on a Saturday night. Anything else is irrelevant.” ~Woody Allen, Actor, Director, Pedophile

 

 

This morning, my girl Pele, and I were having one of our usual early morning convos. She had just missed her bus in the Bay area and I was still in the bed as usual. I’m not sure how we got on this certain topic, wait, I do remember. Pele asked if my younger brother was still working in retail management because Bebe was looking for District Managers.

“Uh, Pele, I don’t think any straight guy would want to work there. I’ve only noticed really skinny gay men that like to wear women clothes working at BeBe”, is what I told her.

“You know, you’re right, or they’re bisexual…like this cat, Jose, that I know”, she says.

Here’s some background on Jose.

Pele describes Jose as being this tall, very attractive Puerto Rican guy who is trying to date her. But here’s the issue. Jose is BISEXUAL. Pele knew from the door that Jose had a little ‘extra’ something going on with him because of his mannerisms and attitude, but she didn’t want to just assume it. So of course she asked, and he told.

Now, I’m all for people choosing to participate in whatever lifestyle they choose to, but NO, I could never see myself dating a man who was bisexual, and neither could Pele. I understand how this is a novelty to some men, but I truly don’t know how many women out there would be accepting of a bisexual man.

Insert double standard.

I just can’t imagine being with a man who gets pleasure out of kissing another man (among other things). But everyone knows how much pleasure a man gets out of seeing two women kiss. Why? I don’t know. Maybe someone can explain that one to me.

My grandmother used to tell me bisexual people were greedy and that they want their cake and eat it too. Who knows, maybe the old lady has a point there. I remember having a transgender friend in high school named “Danielle” (Daniel) and I asked him, why would he take the time to dress like a woman, but also want to date men and women. He basically told me he never felt comfortable in ‘boys’ clothes but he also didn’t want to limit himself to just men. P O N D E R O U S. Confused much?

In any event, I will stick to my strictly hetero men, but being that I live in the area with the DL phenonmenon  in full swing, you can never be to sure nowadays. Staying single sounds like a better option every day. I don’t want to have to deal with the “Crying Game”.

So here’s 2 questions:

Women, could you see yourself dating a man who was bisexual?

Men, why is there so much fascination behind bisexual women?

 
 

  1. August 7, 2008 - Reply

    I cant see myself wanting to date someone who loved men like I do. I think that a lot of people are following a trend of sexual freedom and then believing they can turn it off like a faucet when they so choose…but, if you think that sex is complicated between a man and a woman ALREADY…then add a third party of EITHER sex and you have trouble.
    I will stick to hetero as well, sis…and if that becomes too problematic…abstinence will do.

    • August 7, 2008 - Reply

      @Kiwi

      I agree with you. Relationships are complicated enough between men and women. I’m not exactly sure but it seems as if bi-sexuality is becoming more common for collage kids and even high school kids.. it almost seems to be some kind of rite of passage for them.
      I’m with you I will stick to being a card carrying hetero.. and should it ever get to the point when I can’t find a non down-low man or a bi-sexual man, than B.O.B ( battery operated boyfriend) will have to be sufficient.

    • August 7, 2008 - Reply

      @Kiwi

      I’m sorry, gay is gay. I don’t care what people want to sugarcoat it as being..i.e, ‘bi’, ‘tri’..whatever..it’s all gay to me.

  2. August 7, 2008 - Reply

    I absolutely will Not date a man who is bi-sexual. Just the thought of him kissing,touching and…*hold on I just threw up a little in my mouth* I just could not do it (or him). It’s difficult enough to find a man with the whole down low issue.. now this * shaking my head* damn shame
    If you are going to be gay.. just be gay. this whole switch hitter thing is too much!

    • August 7, 2008 - Reply

      @Rena

      Yes, it’s the ‘and’ part that just turns my stomach!

  3. August 8, 2008 - Reply

    two chicks? ’cause that’s hot.

    • August 8, 2008 - Reply

      @Mark!

      ….and it’s ‘hot’ because of what? LOL
      explain yourself, por favor 🙂

  4. August 11, 2008 - Reply

    Yeah, I couldn’t do it.

  5. August 12, 2008 - Reply

    Hey, FBC!! Anyhoo, no I couldn’t see myself with a bisexual guy. Just ain’t happening (knowingly). I have this friend who I think is bi, but he swears he’s straight (I KNOW otherwise). He is an upstanding young man, handsome, in school (and well on his way) to become a doctor, he comes from a Christian home, and he is VERY musically talented, OH and he can COOK!! Sounds like the perfect guy, and in a perfect world, he would have women all over him…
    *sigh* He may play more for the left than I think, but I sincerely think he is confused/bi…this situation upsets me, because that is one less otherwise good black man taken out of the number of available good black men.

  6. August 12, 2008 - Reply

    I work in the HIV/AIDs/STD field and although everyone on is all “sexuality is fluid” and so on i must say OH NO i could not date a guy who likes guys!! If that is what others want then fine but not for me NO WAY!! i just hope all these ppl are PROTECTN themselves.
    As for the guys they are okay seeing two “PRETTY” chicks get it on not two “MANLY” chicks it all the social climate we live in

    • August 13, 2008 - Reply

      @SHARITA

      Oh I’m sure they’d think two butch chicks being together would be disgusting! With HIV/AIDS on the rise, I would hope that people are protecting themselves, but statistics show otherwise.

  7. August 12, 2008 - Reply

    I feel like I want to throw up a little in my mouth when I think about two men together. Lord knows I don’t understand why they do it. So I could never do a bisexual man. Although, in general, I believe men are a whole lot more sexual than women (AGAIN, I SAID IN GENERAL), it is about having control and limits…so if a guy finds himself with another guy, then he is not for me (n*gga, u do u!).
    That being said, I would have no problem being with a guy who like to see two women together (although I am not going to do it) or who has been with two (or more women) at the same time!

    • August 13, 2008 - Reply

      @ToniATL

      I have an ex who’s thing was being with two women at one time…hence, why he’s an ex, b/c I didn’t/don’t get down like that.
      I definitely agree w/you on the whole ‘men are more sexual than women’, supposedly the average man thinks about sex once every minute.

      • August 14, 2008 - Reply

        @[fung'ke] [blak] [chik]

        If a guy has been involved in a threesome, does it become a necessity for him in his future relationships? I hope not! But then again, I’m not a man….they are a very different type of folk!

  8. August 16, 2008 - Reply

    Us men are easily stimulated visually. The sight of seeing two women going at it sexually is good for the balls. Two heads are better than one is the motto!

  9. November 12, 2008 - Reply

    to answer for about 99% of the straight male population. the fascination with bi women is the fact that your chances of having a 3some shoot thru the roof. why lie?

  10. July 26, 2009 - Reply

    I would have no problem dating a bisexual guy, prob because the thought of him with another guy a) isn't disgusting and b) is irrelevant if he's dating me. And @Rena, being bisexual isn't a stopover from being homosexual, nor is it a cop-out. Just sayin'

  11. September 29, 2009 - Reply

    Hmmmm, why do men like watching two women kiss……….or indulge in otherwise sexual behavior…….because it's hot!!!!!

    I honestly don't believe that there are as many bisexual women out there as the perception would have us believe. While I don't hate on anyone's sexual desires; I believe that there are a slew of women out there that are willing to perform the bisexual role for the pleasure of their men. And no, we men aren't willing to return the favor. It's kinda ironic that I read this today, because I was contemplating blogging on the phenomena of women doing this for their men……….I probably still will.

    I refuse to hate on a woman's desire for other women. How can I hate on something that I like doing? Who am I to deny a woman the pleasures and tastes of pussy when I like doing that………I'm not a hypocrite. I eat it just for the taste or it, why shouldn't she be able to?!?

  12. September 29, 2009 - Reply

    Hmmmm, why do men like watching two women kiss……….or indulge in otherwise sexual behavior…….because it's hot!!!!!

    I honestly don't believe that there are as many bisexual women out there as the perception would have us believe. While I don't hate on anyone's sexual desires; I believe that there are a slew of women out there that are willing to perform the bisexual role for the pleasure of their men. And no, we men aren't willing to return the favor. It's kinda ironic that I read this today, because I was contemplating blogging on the phenomena of women doing this for their men……….I probably still will.

    I refuse to hate on a woman's desire for other women. How can I hate on something that I like doing? Who am I to deny a woman the pleasures and tastes of pussy when I like doing that………I'm not a hypocrite. I eat it just for the taste or it, why shouldn't she be able to?!?

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