Yesha Callahan

Insert Obligatory Black Hair Post


Every black female blogger & their mother (myself included) has probably written about their hair and/or other people’s hair ad nauseam. Oh well, get prepared for another obligatory hair post.Most people who follow this blog and my tweets, know that I’ve been natural since 1994. When I say natural, I mean relaxer free. There is no lye in my hair, at all. Period. Now, I will be the first to say that I do color my hair. Often. At this point, I can’t even tell you when was the last time I saw my original hair color. It was probably sometime around 1993.Well, I take that back, I have about 3 inches of dark brown roots that are present, because I haven’t decided on my fall/winter color as of yet.

A few weeks ago, I went to a screening of Chris Rock’s, “Good Hair” documentary, courtesy of The Root and I wish I could say that I was surprised at what was discussed during the documentary, but I wasn’t. If you didn’t know hair was a hot commodity, especially with black women, I’m not sure which boulder you’ve been living underneath. If you didn’t know that Asians, basically ran the fake hair industry, then that boulder must be mighty heavy. If you didn’t realize how much people spend on relaxers, and that  some people even relax their children hair at a young age, wake up and smell the lye.


Ironically in “Good Hair”, the one hair community that wasn’t put underneath the microscope so heavily is the natural hair community.  Sure, we know some women spend countless dollars and time on their weaves & relaxers, but I hate to burst a lot of people’s bubbles, but so do women with natural hair and I was one of them. How do you think companies like Carol’s Daughter, Miss Jessies, etc. manage to stay in business? Have you seen the prices of some of their hair products?  I remember way back when, I would spend a lot of my money trying out Carol Daughter’s and Miss Jessies products.  I can’t remember how many countless products I’ve purchased that promised shiny, bouncy & frizz free curls, and these products were expensive.

Sure, nowadays you don’t even have to rush to these stores to buy their products, if you have the time and patience you can make them at home. But guess what? Ingredients cost money also.  So not only are you spending money on these ‘natural’ hair products, you’re also spending time mixing and finding the best ones that work well for your hair.

There also seems to be a lot of tension among some people who choose to wear their hair natural and others who don’t. Believe me, I’ve come across my fair share of natural headed snobs, who tend to look down at woman who choose not to wear their hair natural and opt for weaves and/or relaxers. Then you have the chemically treated women, who walk around with the negative connotation of natural hair.  Basically, you’re damned if you do, and damned if you don’t, in certain groups of people.

Personally, I could give a damn how a woman wears their hair. I don’t care if you wear the god given texture you’re born with, or if you decide to weave or relax it. It’s your hair, do what you want to. What I do have a problem with are the individuals from each group who side-eye each other because of the choices made by another. One of my favorite Jay-Z lines will always be, “What you eat, don’t make me shit”, and what a person chooses to do with their hair, shouldn’t have an affect on anyone. I’m proud to say that I’m natural, but I don’t criticize those who aren’t.

  1. October 6, 2009 - Reply

    I hear ya…I just wrote one of these joints. I don't care about what people do with their LIVES let alone their hair. I know and love a buncha folk who have all kinds of hair textures and I don't care. My girl who is natural told me she wanted to go back to perm and I told her NO, don't! She could find other ways to straighten her hair without damaging the hard work she put into going natural in the 1st place. I support whatever you wanna do, just quit making it out to be some big line drawn between who we are on the inside. HALLER LEEZY to your blog. LOL

  2. October 6, 2009 - Reply

    Personally, I'll never put a relaxer in my hair again. Like you said, if I wanted to straighten my curls, I already know how (like the pic I used in the blog). Do I straighten my hair often? Not at all, b/c I don't want to do a lot of heat damage. I've even heard other natural ppl say b/c I may blow out my hair & flat iron it, that it's not natural. GTFOH. Hair snobs are the worst, in my opinion.

  3. October 6, 2009 - Reply

    See, that's some dumbness…b/c you style your own hair with different tools? GTFOHWTS! lol Do they clown white girls for getting weaves and perms? B***!

    I did go natural for 7yrs and it was like…outta control SON…so yea, I back slid. LOL

  4. October 6, 2009 - Reply

    Some folks just ALWAYS got some shit to say. FUCK EM' ALL!!..oh, and I wonder what they'll say about MY black ass, soon. I'm shavin' my damn hair off (So far, my Mother is the only objection..well, if you include some family members I don't fuck with ANYWAY). $15 every 2 weeks for the Barber is killin' my black ass. The most I gotta pay for is the damn shaving cream and Razors. I CAN'T GET WITH THAT!!

  5. October 6, 2009 - Reply

    Please take a moment to check out my documentary film BLACK HAIR

    It is free at youtube. 6 parts including an update from London, England.

    It explores the Korean Take-over of the Black Beauty Supply and Hair biz..

    The current situation makes it hard to believe that Madame C.J. Walker once ran the whole thing.

    I am not a hater, I am a motivator.

    Plus I am a White guy who stumbled upon this, and felt it was so wrong I had to make a film about it.

    self-funded film, made from the heart.

    Can it be taken back?


  6. October 6, 2009 - Reply

    OMG…Hair snobs are terrible. I have a co-worker who is natural & when we talk about our hair she becomes the “One-Upper”. If I tell her what my hair stylist did to my hair, then she'll tell me what she did to her own hair…NATURALLY w/ no chemicals. She is the WORST. She tried to convince me that I got my long hair by cheating? How the f*** am I cheating if my long hair doesn't consist of weave? My hair is mine. I've never worn a weave, but according to this chick my long hair isn't as natural as her fro because I relax it. lol

  7. October 6, 2009 - Reply

    Ah, ye olde hair debate. My only beef is with grown sistahs whose hair looks tore up. By this I mean that whatever you have: weave, fro, natural, twists, dreads, fried, died, laid to the side, make it work. As long as it's clean, neat and compliments you, I say get to it.

    And yes, the hair nazis (on both side of the natural/not natural) debate are rough!

  8. October 7, 2009 - Reply

    But how'd you like the movie, and was it funny?

  9. October 7, 2009 - Reply

    The movie definitely had it's funny moments, especially with some of the commentary offered by Nia Long.

  10. October 7, 2009 - Reply

    Keep it neat, regardless of how you wear it. If you have a weave, I don't want to see tracks sticking out or 3 different hair textures..if you wear it natural, dont walk around looking like tumbleweed!

  11. October 7, 2009 - Reply

    That's the biggest hair turn off ever..when ppl try to force their opinions about their own hair on to another person. Sure, like the movie stated, the chemicals in a relaxer (sodium hydroxide) can literally melt an aluminum can, but if that's what you want to use, that's not my concern. Shit, I've had so called 'natural' hair products make my hair shed & broke out my scalp, so it's not only the chemicals that can do damage.

  12. October 7, 2009 - Reply

    I've actually seen that video, from a previous (albeit same) comment you left on my page 🙂

  13. October 7, 2009 - Reply

    Ppl don't make a big deal about a man's hair as much as a woman's, but I guess in your family it's

  14. October 7, 2009 - Reply

    There definitely can be a lot of drama around this issue for many of us Black women. I generally opt out of the conversations, because I just feel that non-strongly about it personally. But one time I did have to call out a natural loc wearer who was going on and on, noting that I wondered if her long, luscious, flippable hair was just as much a remnant of her Black self-hatred as my short permed hair?

  15. October 7, 2009 - Reply

    To each his or her own when it comes to hair. I know I can;t wait to see the chris rock movie LOL

  16. October 7, 2009 - Reply

    Girl, I just wrote a blog because Whoopi pissed your girl off but I agree with you. Hair snobs are the worst! I haven't encountered too many natural hair snobs but I know they exist. I unfortunately get the, “WHY DON'T YOU JUST STRAIGHTEN YOUR HAIR? IT'D BE SO PRETTY…” snobs. STFU. I like my hair. Do you, I'll do me.

  17. October 8, 2009 - Reply

    yeah I hate hair nazi's too. I have had weaves, wigs, braid extensions, naturally curly, pressed, flat ironed and roller set. WHO CARES. just dont knock what I DO ..I won't knock what YOU DO.

    Oh..and im like baffled as to why he didn't touch on the natural hair where were his people.

  18. October 8, 2009 - Reply

    omg, its so funny that you blogged this today cause i'm gonna do a hair blog today also. i've been natural for six years and i'm going to get my hair cut. i'm gonna bc again! i've had my feelings hurt more than once by natural sisters about my natural hair. i'm with you. i could care less what you do with your head. just don't be embarrassing me or the black community.

  19. October 8, 2009 - Reply

    Don't believe that for ONE minute dudes don't get their hair talked about. It's TERRIBLE.

  20. October 10, 2009 - Reply

    The great hair debate. I have done it all, currently doing the braids thing now. I haven't relaxed my hair in 7 months and that is by choice. I am not proclaiming on doing that forever, just until I get tired (which I will say before the summer rolls around I will be in relaxer mode again). That's just me though cause I like do to different things. What some of these hair haters don't understand is regardless of wearing a relaxer, weaves, braids, natural, whatever, you still got to take care of your hair. I had a discussion with a co-worker yesterday on this same subject and I told her, going natural is a difficult thing if you are not ready to do the proper care. You just can't roll around thinking all you got to do is grow your hair out and call it a day. Do you and be proud of what you do.

  21. October 15, 2009 - Reply

    I think that as long as your hair is neat and it looks good on you , then whats the problem ? I like my relaxer , I love the manageability it gives me and the ease of care . If I went natural , it would not be the same thing for me . It would take a lot more time in the mornings to do my hair , and frankly I'd rather sleep in .

  22. October 28, 2009 - Reply

    I'm late to this post…but I feel the same way you do and I love Hova! I'm natural…(just look at my about page) and my sister wears weaves and I love her to death…

    And you mention a good point…I have choked after seeing the prices at Mrs. Jesse's hair Salon…I still want to sit in their chair and get the Royal treatment tho…

  23. December 11, 2009 - Reply

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