This morning I received a press release in reference to Don Lemon’s new book “Transparent”. With one eye opened & one eye closed, the only word I saw was “gay”. I stood straight up in my bed and just thought “wow, there goes my crush”. Yes, I’ve crushed on Don Lemon for years, but not as hard as my friend Danielle, aka The Black Snob, has crushed on TJ Holmes.
I guess I was a little shocked to read that Don Lemon is gay, but after a few seconds, I didn’t really care. I guess I can’t speak on behalf of someone that is either in the closet or coming out of it, because I’m heterosexual, but I can say that I commend anyone who’s willing to come out despite the backlash they may receive by doing so.
In a New York Times interview, Don Lemon stated, “It’s quite different for an African-American male. It’s about the worst thing you can be in black culture. You’re taught you have to be a man; you have to be masculine. In the black community they think you can pray the gay away.” I can’t say that I haven’t read/heard black people talking about “praying the gay away”, because it’s pretty commonplace to hear about it in church. A prime example is gospel singer & minister Donnie McClurkin. According to good ole Wikipedia:
He claims to have struggled with homosexuality during his youth for several years, but states that he is now “delivered” from the condition. McClurkin wrote that homosexuality is a spiritual issue and that one can be delivered from it but by God; “The abnormal use of my sexuality continued until I came to realize that I was broken and that homosexuality was not God’s intention […] for my masculinity.” He then describes himself as going through a process by which he became “saved and sanctified.” McClurkin has stated that homosexuality is a curse. McClurkin also speaks openly about sexual issues since becoming the biological father of a child with a woman to whom he was not married. He uses these life experiences in his concerts and speaking engagements.
So apparently according to McClurkin, God can not only turn water into wine, but he can cure your gayness as well. Other ministers such as Bishop Eddie Long, prefers to take the easy way out by paying off the men who have accused him of being gay. I guess it could be his form of tithing. Growing up, I was always told you could find a church full of sinners & hypocrites, so I guess these two situations are no different. So the black church loves Tyler Perry & Madea, but they don’t take to kindly to gay men. Who would have thunk it.
Honestly, I don’t care who’s the top or bottom.
If you’re gay or straight.
Like I told Danielle this morning on the phone, my gaydar sucks, because apparently rumors were going around for a while that Don was gay. Gay or straight, the man is fine as hell. I’m a little jealous of the man who gets his ass right about now. Wait, I didn’t mean that in the literal sense.
I do applaud those people who are in the closet and realize that it’s time to step out and speak out on behalf of themselves & others. Should people be “pulled out” of the closet? No. I truly understand why there are people in the closet, but I also, don’t understand how those people in the closet can sit back and just watch other people fight for their civil rights and see others that are pushed to the edge so badly that they end their own lives. Don Lemon dedicated his book to Tyler Clementi, the Rutgers University student that recently committed suicide because he was “outed” by people in his dorm. By Don Lemon coming out today, I do hope him being a celebrity/news figure will also give other people the courage to do the same.