Yesha Callahan

What Do You Do When The Man Who Didn’t Want More Kids With You Impregnates Someone Else?

Source: Twitter

Source: Twitter

We’ve all had one of those perplexing “on to the next” conversations with our girlfriends, pondering how a man who said he wasn’t ready for a relationship with us suddenly finds himself in a relationship with someone else. You may have even experienced a higher level of inquisition when a man who told you he didn’t believe in marriage is suddenly skipping down the aisle with a blushing bride who isn’t you. But what is the course of recuperation when a man who said he doesn’t want more kids impregnates another woman — after you’ve been rendered barren.

That question was the first thing that came to mind when Ne-Yo announced to the world that he is not only engaged (again) he is also expecting (again) but not with the mother of his two children, Monyetta Shaw, who’s since had her tubes tied, but with his new lady, Crystal Renay.

Though Ne-Yo insisted Monyetta’s tubal ligation is reversible and he isn’t some brute who forced her to undergo the procedure to begin with, I still can’t imagine what it feels like to have made that decision with a man whom you thought you would marry, only for him to be planning to marry someone else whom he’s already made a baby with.

A post on Monyetta’s Instagram yesterday hints that she might not be taking the news so well and while it’s easy to say “you made your bed, now you’ve got to lie in it” what exactly does that look like when that bed is now empty and the man who once occupied it is building a new family with someone else?

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A photo posted by Monyetta Shaw (@monyettashaw) on

What do you say Clutchettes, how would you move on in Monyetta’s situation?

  1. September 1, 2015 - Reply

    It must be hard for entertainers to date. My go to move is to erase all evidence of that man’s existence from my life to avoid these unnecessary heartaches, but that would be hard if we’re both the talk of the town and random articles show up debating you & your ex. I think the issue most folks have with finding this kinda news out is that their ex moved on FIRST. Otherwise it wouldn’t matter where the wind blows him after y’all break up. There may have been and may still be reasons why the two of you shouldn’t have anymore kids together or get married, but that doesn’t apply to whether you or he should have kids with or get married to someone else. Know your limits. You won’t necessarily be able to weather all storms with all people. So be grateful for what you have, limit your exposure to their online profile, and come up with a game plan for the rest of your own life because what’s done is done.

  2. September 1, 2015 - Reply

    Move on. She was a fool to tie her tubes in the first place. If HE, Ne-yo doesn’t/didn’t want any more children, HE Ne-yo should’ve had a vasectomy. What does him not wanting more kids have to do with her?

    • September 1, 2015 - Reply

      @Yvonne Chase

      Good point! My cousin fell for the same line and got a hysterectomy after her second child, and if you say “y’all” can’t have anymore kids around her husband, he definitely cracks jokes about “y’all” meaning “she”.

      • September 1, 2015 - Reply

        @Me

        SMH!

    • September 1, 2015 - Reply

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  3. September 1, 2015 - Reply

    Realize he was never the one for you, learn from your mistakes and move on.

  4. September 1, 2015 - Reply

    Where is Christelyn when you need her? Ne-Yo is a dirtbag.

  5. September 1, 2015 - Reply

    Unless she was lying during her stint on the show “Atlanta Exes”, Monyetta claims to have had her tubes “burned”—so, no Neyo, that can’t be reversed!
    That said, I can’t lay full blame on him for Monyetta’s circumstances. Yes, he’s a dog, but she allowed him to dog her. Where were Monyetta’s friends and family during that period of time to smack some sense into her?!

    If they didn’t want to have any more kids as a couple they could’ve used birth control. If they wanted to do something more assured there should’ve been a mutual (legal) agreement that both parties would undergo such procedures to prevent them from having children with each other, or anyone else. Monyetta really wasn’t using her brain when this all happened and now she has to sit back and watch another woman have the family she thought she was going to have.

  6. September 2, 2015 - Reply

    It seems the worst of this (the knife in the back) is that it’s public and playing out in social media. I believe it’s in Monyetta’s best interest and the best interest of her children to make no comments, avoid the media, allow herself to mourn/grieve the relationship “she believed” she had with Ne-NOOOOO!, get professional counseling to help with healing and put her energy into raising her children to live their BEST Lives. Monyetta and Ne-yo are “co-parents” so their feelings about each other can’t be allowed to affect parenting their children. Ne-yo, new child DOES NOT excuse you from parenting the previous children.

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