Bitch, bossy, these are just some of the words women have taken ownership of in the past few years and flipped into powerful descriptors of a woman about her business. But when it comes to our romantic lives, maybe it’s time to reclaim another term that often conjures up a negative connotation: jaded.
Jaded is an adjective meaning “tired, bored, or lacking enthusiasm, typically after having had too much of something.” It’s a perfect term to describe how most women feel after kissing one too many frogs and fearing they’ll never find the prince. But instead of looking at jaded as a synonym for bitter, which is how most women who experience one too many f-ck boys and live to tell about it get labeled, what if we embraced jaded in its truest, definitive form?
Tired. Is it not accurate that women are tired of having their time wasted by men with disingenuous intentions? See the #Wastehistime2016 hashtag if you doubt the truth of that.
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when he tells you to send nudes #WasteHisTime2016 pic.twitter.com/juHVhE3jDU
— lauren (@laurenlovich) January 7, 2016
let him take u out on constant dates & when he tries to determine the relationship tell him u thought u were just friends #WasteHisTime2016
— SALINA (@REDSEASHAWTY) January 6, 2016
When he leans in to kiss you, dab. #wastehistime2016 😂😂😂
— Hadjaaaa (@CamsAlert) January 7, 2016
when you see guys gettin sensitive over the #WasteHisTime2016 tweets but its things they've done to every other girl pic.twitter.com/YjM3iwWA3M
— no. (@tbhdontknow) January 7, 2016
Get him pregnant, tell him you gotta run to the store for some milk real quick & never come back #WasteHisTime2016 pic.twitter.com/38xqCRHctN
— RN (@DopeEthiopian) January 6, 2016
Bored. We all make jokes about Netflix & Chill, but when one too many men offer that activity up as a viable date option, women genuinely become bored with the dating scene and prefer to watch Netflix and chill by their damn selves.
Lacking enthusiasm. See description of bored. It’s hard to get excited about a man coming over and pretending he really wants to watch Narcos with you for all of 15 minutes before he tries to have sex.
Come across these types of experience one too many times and there is a high probability of becoming jaded. But instead of jaded being this negative place women should never get to on their quest for love, why can’t women just say, “heck yeah, I’m jaded” and the embarrassment around that fall on the shoulders of men who drove them to that place rather than blaming women for not remaining hopeless romantics after being repeatedly treated like replaceable crap?
Perhaps if more women were honest about being jaded, rather than ashamed, and conveyed that lack of enthusiasm, men would actually step up their efforts and reignite excitement in the opposite sex about being in their presence and establishing enjoyable relationships.
Just a thought.
January 13, 2016 -
My word was disenchanted because that is exactly where my experiences lead me.
January 13, 2016 -
When the relationship ends post his texts all over the internet and mock how crazy and soppy he is being ##WasteHisTime2016
January 13, 2016 -
I read some of them on twitter last week and i couldn’t stop laughing.
January 13, 2016 -
The nudes one was hilarious
January 13, 2016 -
This was funny and true. Its crazy how dudes want to trip over women who treat them like they are treating others. Or there are the men who trip because women know what they want and go after it instead of playing games whether thats in the bedroom or in determining what type of relationship they want or expressing their want or lack of want for marriage.