Yesha Callahan

Paul Carrick Brunson Calls Out ‘Married At First Sight’ For Excluding Black Women In Dating

The undesirable, single black woman propaganda lives on ladies and gentlemen and Paul Carrick Brunson is so not here for it.

The relationship coach took to Facebook to call out the A&E show Married at First Sight for a clear agenda pitting black men and women against each other. Brunson became aware of the issue when a follower reached out to him and asked what he thinks about black women being excluded in dating — an assertion backed up by the video below in which a white dating coach for the show claims “Many of our African-American men are not interested in dating an African-American woman.” And as this conundrum normally goes, all of the black women they screened only want to date black men (who they claim don’t want them in return).

And that’s when Brunson called B.S. in a 17-minute video telling the show to “take responsibility for your ignorance.”

“This segment shows everything that’s wrong with television when it comes to these dating shows…This is a travesty that this happened and this is why. They did it simply to get people talking; to demoralize us; and to be provocative…and it’s very irresponsible to do this. Why? Because it’s not factual. It’s not supported by any data — what they said.”

Though one expert from the show responded to Paul’s tweets about the irresponsibility of this segment and said they were listening to his concerns, another expert wasn’t nearly as open to the criticism, sending this note below.

“It should be emphasized that these comments are in reference to African-American men in our applicant pool. There were no generalizations made…however you might be interested to know that we observed this to be very clear and a specific trend not only in our matchmaking attempts in Atlanta for season 3 but also season 1 and season 2 in the New York area. We consistently had an abundance of what we consider to be rather amazing African-American women and little to no African-American men to match with them. In addition, very frequently, African-American men in our applicant pool across all three seasons expressed deal-breakers around NOT wanting to be matched with African-American women.  Whatever this might or might not represent in terms of the greater population is certainly up for debate and interpretation.”

As you can imagine, that response only angered Brunson more as he proceeded to call out statistics showing black men marry outside of their race less than American Indian women and that 88% of African-American men are married to black women. In other words three black men who don’t like black women but are silly enough to participate in a docu-series in which the participant is expected to marry someone on site after their compatibility is measured by a group of random “experts” does not a trend make.

You have to watch the entire video to truly appreciate how hard Brunson goes for black love and how he refuses to pander to anyone who tries to convince the masses it doesn’t exist. The cherry on top of all this is a black man who commented on the thread about making it to the last round of auditions and was told he couldn’t be matched with anyone. And guess who he was checking for? A sista.demecos

A&E, you got some ‘splaining to do.

  1. December 21, 2015 - Reply

    I believe that there is certainly an agenda to promote the idea that black men do not romantically desire black women and that black women are undesirable.

    It makes for easy fodder and debate with in the black community, all the while making white folk feel that much better about themselves.

    They’ll be twisted up and slanted statistics and personal experiences that would have you believe that the mast majority of black males don’t give a second or third look at black women.

    • December 21, 2015 - Reply

      @Brad

      It all hinges onto white supremacy and how white women continue to become active participants even when it comes to their own oppression. After all, what better way to appeal to women vanity than to provide the subliminal message that they are the most desired women even among other races? So when the issue of equality emerges, they can leverage their “beauty” and looks to latch onto the success of wealthy white men to secure their financial well-being.

      • December 21, 2015 - Reply

        @Tajmarie

        Taj, you just answered the questions in my post. Thank you. This is all about white supremacy. This is about upholding the so called superiority of the white woman. But my one question that still remains unanswered is why is? Why black women specifically? Why do they use US as a gauge for the worthiness. Why not Chinese women or Latinas or East Indian women. Why is so much energy put into proving us to be undesireable? Why do white people so desperately need to feel better than us if we are indeed the bottom of the barrel as they would have the world believe?

        • December 21, 2015 - Reply

          @FragranceObsessed

          FO, it all stems, like Taj said, from White supremacy. I believe Black women are the mothers of society. We are the only ones who can birth Black people. No other woman on the planet can have a Black child, so if they can stomp on us and make it appear that we are undesirable, then the brainwashed Black men can run to others, procreate, and voila…the erasure of Black people.

        • December 21, 2015 - Reply

          @FragranceObsessed

          I don’t have all of the answers, but my best guess is that it probably is a combination of projection and the theory that
          Dr. Frances Cress Welsing talked about in her work with many genes associated with White people being recessive.

          To be more precise, Black people can procreate with most races and do not have to worry about the probability of the genes not being passed down. However, there is a subconscious fear in the context of white supremacy that interracial procreation has to be kept at bay in order to maintain the existence of the white race. Also notice how the features of Black Women (on average) is the polar opposite to the features of White Women. Also, as Noriluv stated, we are essentially the mothers of society and our features (being vast and different from theirs) reminds them that they are not.

          • December 21, 2015 - Reply

            @Tajmarie

            Yes, ma’am. Keep it 100!

          • December 21, 2015 - Reply

            @Tajmarie

            Dr. Welsling is the truth!!!!

        • December 21, 2015 - Reply

          @FragranceObsessed

          Because we are the most powerful people on the planet that’s why! We are not the bottom of the barrel!

          • December 21, 2015 - Reply

            @Yvonne Chase

            thank you, please tell them although they will not believe you, thank you my good looking, pretty, wise and intelligent sister.

          • December 21, 2015 - Reply

            @Yvonne Chase

            AMEN!

        • December 21, 2015 - Reply

          @FragranceObsessed

          “Why black women specifically? Why do they use US as a gauge for the worthiness.” I am surprise you ask this question but the answer is for the same reason they use black men for a gauge for the worthiness they do not think much of either one of us the black women or the black man, see y’all had began to think that y’all had more value to the greater society than the black man now they are telling y’all what they thought all along and we told you so.

        • December 21, 2015 - Reply

          @FragranceObsessed

          IMO, it’s because we are the easiest target!
          Also this is just a tactic to erase our culture as a whole by using these brainwashed “men” are just pawns.
          #staywoke

        • December 22, 2015 - Reply

          @FragranceObsessed

          because we’re magic. we embody the essence of this earth and we’re more powerful that even we know. think of it this way…the mother of civilization was a black woman. do you know what power lies in that? everything flows from us. they attempted to kill us off during slavery. they stripped us of our children, our men, our family and our names and we survived. we stand tall when they want us to fail. we are not going anywhere and they cannot deal with it. it must be a very scary prospect when you look at a group of people who have so much power, innately.

      • December 21, 2015 - Reply

        @Tajmarie

        Right on point, Taj!

      • December 21, 2015 - Reply

        @Tajmarie

        You nailed it. That’s also why many white women are resentful of attractive Black women. Seeing a beautiful Black woman flies in the face of everything they’ve been taught to believe about themselves (i.e, that the white woman is the repository of all beauty and goodness). It’s a moment of true cognitive dissonance for them and they have to perform some serious mental acrobatics just so they can continue being comfortable with themselves.

        White supremacy requires an Other against and from which it derives its beauty, purity and goodness. It literally can’t exist without constructing others (non-white people) as inferior.

      • December 21, 2015 - Reply

        @Tajmarie

        Excellent Points Sister. I agree with you.

    • December 21, 2015 - Reply

      @Brad

      Nail hit on head, Brad!

  2. December 21, 2015 - Reply

    “You have no authority over our hope”. . . These are strong words. However, most television shows are propaganda. Notice how most couples on these shows showcase relationship between white people with gender of other races usually being paired interracially.

  3. December 21, 2015 - Reply

    I wonder why the white community is so determined to prove that black women are undesireable? I’ve asked this question before and will continue to ask until I get a satisfying answer. If we are so despicable why do they spend so much time trying to keep us down? What is it about us that bothers them so much. Black men, those of you who genuinely love and respect black women, please, use your voice, become more vocal and fight for us. People, start boycotting these outlets that promote this anti-black woman sentiment.

    • December 21, 2015 - Reply

      @FragranceObsessed

      Miscegenation, Fragrance Obsessed! There’s a book of the same name written in the 1800’s about that topic. They want to erase us. They want to keep us from existing so they are determined to separate us. Divide and conquer is the name of the game. They’ve been doing that since we landed here.

      • December 21, 2015 - Reply

        @Noirluv45

        I’m getting a lot of good feedback here. Thank you guys so much. It’s not that I didn’t already know this, I just needed to know that I am not the only one, that I’m not crazy or paranoid. What is it about us that scares them so? I wonder what happened centuries ago, way before slavery that have these folks hell bent on getting rid of us? There is something much deeper going on with them because the level of hate they have for us is diabolical.

        • December 21, 2015 - Reply

          @FragranceObsessed

          You are not alone FragranceObsessed, I feel the same way. I think one reason is our strength. Black people are strong and resilient. Believe it or not, they are not going to admit it but people admire us.

          • December 22, 2015 - Reply

            @mds29

            You’re right Sister.

            • December 23, 2015 - Reply

              @truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

              Thanks Truth 🙂

              • December 23, 2015 - Reply

                @mds29

                You’re Welcome Sister 🙂

                While we’re here on this Earth, we will inspire and bless others. Lord willing (since I’m young), I will continue to stand up for what is right for many decades into the future.

                • December 24, 2015 - Reply

                  @truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

                  We need more people like you Truth ☺

                  • December 24, 2015 - Reply

                    @mds29

                    Likewise. ☺

                    The struggle continues and the truth is on our side. ⛄

    • December 21, 2015 - Reply

      @FragranceObsessed

      The white community hasn’t done anything to Black women that Black MEN haven’t done first. BW are treated like shit because Black men did it first and then came in and allowed other races of men to do it. But y’all don’t want to go there. That’s too deep. Black men laid the blueprint for hatred of Black women. And last I heard, it wasn’t white people who created hip-hop, an entire musical genre dedicated to denigrated Black women while lifting up non-Black women. But keep letting Black men off the hook.

      • December 22, 2015 - Reply

        @Kels99

        Black love!!!!!!??????….Thank you@Kels99….This article is truth and easily observable. …..Anywhere you go and Black men have access to non b lack women and the non black women accept them, they will choose the non black women over Black women…..then I saw an article from Pew research about interracial marriage where it said 20 % of married Black men were married to non black women…and that’s not counting those just shacked up/ having kids with non black women….I didn’t google to see if it was true because I don’t care….but I’m shaking my head at all the Black women here going through so much mental gymnastics to explain away the truth….why can’t Black women face the truth?….that they’re the only ones talking about ‘Black love’, only ones going on about how much they love chocolate, etc….and everything Kels said….my god ,this is truly sad.

        • December 22, 2015 - Reply

          @lis

          I know it is probably because I live in the south east. But, when I am at concerts or a family get together or homecoming events or any large social gathering of black people.

          I see a mast majority of black couples. In fact at best 1 in 20 of the couples I see are mixed couples.

          Maybe every body didn’t get the message but, trust there are plenty of us out here who are fully participating in black love.

          • December 22, 2015 - Reply

            @Brad

            If Black love is so real, why the 72 percent out of wedlock birth rate? How do Black men claim to love Black women and children, but refuse to provide them the social and LEGAL protection of marriage. “Love” my ass. That ain’t love. Y’all love Black women? Then stop making Black women a bunch of unprotected cum dumpsters. And while you’re at it, if you love Black women, clean up our neighborhoods so we can be as safe as Becky over in suburbia. “Love” ain’t shit without action. And Black men fail at the act of loving Black women on a massive scale.

            • December 22, 2015 - Reply

              @Kels99

              Sounds like you are unloading some personal issues in the comment section about a black man actively defending black love and black women.

              There are those who will for ever choose to discredit and attack black love and those who choose to embrace.

              Good luck in trying to define black love as something that is fantasy or a fallacy.

              • December 22, 2015 - Reply

                @Brad

                Explain how you love Black women but make black women unprotected baby mamas at the rate of 72 percent? Explain how y’all love Black women but so many Black neighborhoods are plagued with crime and poverty. Explain that.

                • December 22, 2015 - Reply

                  @Kels99

                  Simple it is a two way street, black men and women have to be accountable for some of the issues in the black community.

                  Just like black men and women are accountable for the many great things of the black community.

                  You see, I don’t look at my people and my community as trash and something to be discarded. I also choose to surround myself with positive, productive and uplifting black people.

                  • December 22, 2015 - Reply

                    @Brad

                    No, it’s not a two way street. Black men have a 92 percent out of wedlock birth rate with non-Black women. The problem is Black men. Y’all stay spreading your seed but won’t put down roots with marriage. Y’all have done it to Black women for decades and blamed the problem on us, claiming we weren’t suitable wives and ran men off. But now you’re doing it to non-Black women as well, at a rate of 92 percent, and everyone sees exactly who the real problem is now.

                    • December 23, 2015 - Reply

                      @Kels99

                      Two people make a baby and one person decides to not only carry the baby but, with todays technology actually decides to be impregnated.

                • December 23, 2015 - Reply

                  @Kels99

                  Save your breath Kels…As long as Black women remain Black, most of these Black males will never assume the responsibility of MEN…like the other races of MEN!…Black women and children are on their own!!!…so the answer is to get young Black women to SEE this before they become baby mamas….and RUN the he’ll away from the socalled Black community.

                  • December 23, 2015 - Reply

                    @lis

                    well that said it all!

            • December 22, 2015 - Reply

              @Kels99

              That 72% was actually just talking about children born to black fathers.Some of the mothers are non black.They also did a study that says that 92% of children born to black fathers and non black women are born out of wedlock.Contrary to popular Becky,Maria and Ming Lee are getting treated like queens by some black men either.These kind of men are bums.

              • December 22, 2015 - Reply

                @Mrs.JPart2

                No, it’s 72 percent of Black black babies (two black parents) who are born out of wedlock. And 92 percent of mixed babies with a black father. Black men don’t want to create stable families and the facts back this up. But the black community has spent decades claiming that the out of wedlock rate is so high because Black women are a problem and not worthy of marriage. Well, we see that’s not true since now Black men are spreading their seed and abandoning their seed with non-Black women. So the common denominator is them. The Black man is the problem and the cause of the high out of wedlock rate.

                • December 22, 2015 - Reply

                  @Kels99

                  No the 92% was combined with the 72% on purpose by the media to make all black women look bad.A black baby is considered black even if one of their parents are non black.All of the articles and findings read 72% of black babies are born to unwed mothers.They never told us if the mom was black or non black.You’re the race of your father.Anyway both statistics make black men look bad but it was meant to make black women look bad.I do agree with your statement.

                  • December 22, 2015 - Reply

                    @Mrs.JPart2

                    No, it’s 72 percent for black children and 92 percent for mixed children with black fathers. That is the fact. It’s not 72 percent combined.

                    • December 22, 2015 - Reply

                      @Kels99

                      I think you are wrong you should go look that up.My boyfriend is mixed mother white,Native American father black.His birth certificate says black.I’m not going to go back and forth with you though.I believe they did combine those numbers and made it seem like those were all unwed black women giving birth to black babies to attack black women.The study reads 72% of black babies are born out of wedlock.I’m not going to go back and forth with you because maybe I’m wrong but I doubt it.They skewed that study to make black women look bad when in fact all of those black babies don’t have black mothers.

            • December 26, 2015 - Reply

              @Kels99

              Are u white? I know a lot of white people come onto black sites and pretend they’re black.

        • December 22, 2015 - Reply

          @lis

          Black women are forever lying to themselves when it comes to Black men. It’s embarrassing.

          • December 23, 2015 - Reply

            @Kels99

            It really is embarrassing and I don’t understand why…I know what I see and what I hear from other Black women but people here are trying to make it seem like there is this over abundance of Black men who just loves Black women soooo much…..even though they do not marry Black women… the murder, domestic violence, and rape rates for Black women are so high that any other country it would be considered an epidemic….c-rap music/hiphop is hate music directed at ONLY Black women…..they are second only to Asian women at the rate they date and marry out…. I wont even mention those males on youtube and other social media dehumanizing and degrading Black women in the attempt, imo, to have Black women hated, humiliated, and brutalized…I could go on and on….but they’re trying to convince us that there are so many Black men who just love them some Black women…it’s crazy making.

        • December 22, 2015 - Reply

          @lis

          The truth is that not all black men are like that.Lots of black men that hate black women have mommy issues and other issues.Some of them just don’t like black women.Many black men are married to black women and that’s the truth.

          • December 25, 2015 - Reply

            @Mrs.JPart2

            Mrs.JPart2 says:

            “Many black men are married to black women and that’s the truth.”

            It depends on how loosely one defines “many.”

            35.8% of black men are married, and 25℅ of those few married black men are married interracially.

            • December 28, 2015 - Reply

              @Felina Femenina

              Among black men that have college degrees 85% are married to black women.Among black athletes 72% are married to black women.The media always has some lie to tell about us.Other races of women aren’t getting the best of the best black men.Asian women and white men marry each other more but no one talks about it.

              • January 17, 2016 - Reply

                @Mrs.JPart2

                Actually, my point was that most black men in the U.S. aren’t married to anyone at all. Only 35% are married. Are you really saying that at least 85% of black men with degrees are married to anyone? Or did you mean that 85% of the few married, degreed black men are married to black women? My impression is that black men in the U.S. rarely choose to marry anyone, because marriage as an institution isn’t highly valued among them as a collective.

      • December 22, 2015 - Reply

        @Kels99

        “The white community hasn’t done anything to Black women that Black MEN haven’t done first.”

        Black men laid the blue print of the white supremacy concept that the white female will for ever be the standard of beauty?

        Black men arriving along side black women as slaves in this country laid the blue print of black women as sexual objects to be raped?

        Black men laid the blue print for the national media to marginalize black women as angry, hostile and unapproachable?

        Black men have certainly been culpable in much of the negative portrayals of the black female but in some cases, so have black women themselves. In fact some argue that black people have been culpable in some of the negative portrayals of ourselves.

        As far as I am concerned I think we should share some of the blame but, I just ain’t here to give white men and women a pass. I ain’t here to keep letting white folks off the hook.

        • December 22, 2015 - Reply

          @Brad

          Yes, the Black man laid the blue print for all of that. Before he’d ever laid eyes on a white man, the Black man was selling his own women and children as slaves to Arabs for liquor and silks and other material things.

          It was the Black man who made the white woman the standard of beauty. When the Moors conquered Europe and loved white women so much that they literally bred themselves out of existence and power, they told the world the white woman was worth breeding yourself out of existence for. And today with rap music, the Black man is still telling the world the white woman is the standard of beauty.

          Yeah, all of this shit goes back to the Black man. Absolutely.

          • December 22, 2015 - Reply

            @Kels99

            Yea, sell that to someone who will fall for it, cause I am not the one.

            The white man created, maintains and benefits from white supremacy period. Because the moors slept with and bred with white woman did not make them proponents of white woman as the standard of beauty. No more than when the Greeks came into Egypt or the Arabs or the Asians all over Africa who did the same with black woman in Africa. Did they make black woman the standard of beauty.

            Yea, I own a library card myself you see.

            These things took place in a world where race did not play such a pivotal part. In fact if you were African from what ever African people there were, you were supreme. That included the black queens and rulers of many of those civilizations. I mean woman like Amina, Queen of Zaria, Candace, Empress of Ethiopia, Makeba, Queen of Sheba,
            Nefertiti, Queen of Kemet and Yaa Asantewa, of Ghana

            Then along came the white man and corrupted it all. He invented and today he benefits from white world supremacy. He may not sing on the rap album but, he damn sure produces it!!!

            • December 22, 2015 - Reply

              @Brad

              Yeah, ok, dear. As I said, the black man laid the foundation for all of this shit Black women are dealing with today.
              That’s the truth Black folks refuse to accept.

              And Black women were not queens in Africa. We were work horses for black men. Which is why the Black man had no problem selling us to Arabs and White men for alcohol and fine fabrics. The Black woman was never cherished and protected by the Black man. And this goes back to ancient Africa.

              • December 22, 2015 - Reply

                @Kels99

                Well, all I can do is tell you the information. I literally gave you five(5) names of actual queens in Africa. These women were leaders among the greatest leaders in the history of human kind.

                Those were but, a few of the women who were cherished in Africa. As well as the many black women who were cherished and are cherished since by black men since.

                Black people were sold and stolen by Arabs, black men and women.

                • December 22, 2015 - Reply

                  @Brad

                  Five queens do not represent hundreds and hundreds of millions of African women. The African woman was made a workhorse by the Black man. She was never cherished or protected. And this is why the Black man had no qualms selling her off into slavery. Black men were abusing and selling Black women and children into Arab slavery before the white man ever stepped foot on the continent.

                  • December 23, 2015 - Reply

                    @Kels99

                    Does that cape you wear to protect the honor of the white race ever get heavy(lol).

                    Cause you are going 100mph with your protection of white men and women as if you are a member of the KKK.

                    I hope people can plainly read where your energy lies, it lies with protecting and sheltering white folks. I mean listening to you, it would seem that there is no white supremacy and black men were responsible for slavery. White men and women are not even accountable for any of the atrocities they have done in history.

                    Hmmmm, ok good luck selling that to the masses of black people out there.

                    Good day and good luck to you, no sense in debating a racist.

                    • December 23, 2015 - Reply

                      @Brad

                      Brad, this woman HATES black men and is using the Clutch comment section to express that hatred. She has repeatedly mentioned a bogus 92% statistic that was directly linked to the white supremacist site Stormfront. She is using this site to spread white supremacist propaganda because she knows she can get away with it.

                  • December 24, 2015 - Reply

                    @Kels99

                    Kels are you serious with your comments? You are going in way too deep.

              • December 23, 2015 - Reply

                @Kels99

                You are absolutely correct and this is why they are not respected by anyone and no matter where they are in the world they are a mess…..because it all goes back to the BLACK WOMAN! And they will always lose until they know this FACT!!!…but I believe like I’ve heard it said by wise Black women. …In order to protect ourselves physically, mentally, spiritually, psychologically,financially, and emotionally,Black women will HAVE TO leave MOST Black men behind us……Their hatred/scapegoating/unproductiveness/violence has gone too damn far for too damn long and they leave us no choice.

                • December 23, 2015 - Reply

                  @lis

                  Black people don’t want to hear this truth. The Black man created and perfected and outsourced the hatred of Black women. And he did this before he’d ever laid on a white man.

      • December 22, 2015 - Reply

        @Kels99

        That’s the truth but the white people have done way more to black women than the black man.

        • December 22, 2015 - Reply

          @Mrs.JPart2

          Actually this is not true, but I know this is what most Black folks want to believe. The past and the present tell a different story.

          • December 22, 2015 - Reply

            @Kels99

            I disagree.White supremacy has done lots of damage to blacks and people of color worldwide.We as blacks do need to do better as far as education,parenting and cleaning up our communities.

      • December 26, 2015 - Reply

        @Kels99

        BM created hip-hop as an expression of their struggles. White executives helped turn it into a modern day blackface. Which was also their idea, btw. They love to tear down. Just look at white history and you see that’s nothing new.

  4. December 21, 2015 - Reply

    The type of black men who apply for this show have no interest in black women.

    • December 21, 2015 - Reply

      @Sparger

      True

      But, they did have a black couple first season and they have a black couple this season. So even with the propaganda they appear to be able to find black men looking to marry black women “at first site”

      I would imagine that is a rarity for anyone in itself to marry a person with out seeing or knowing them at all.

      • December 21, 2015 - Reply

        @Brad

        you are right Brad I have watched every episode from the beginning up until now and the first black couple Monique and Vaughan out of the three couples I thought they had the best chance of making it but to my surprises they choose to divorce because they thought a marriage was suppose to be something perfect from the very beginning at that time the show became suspect to me because by all measure they should have made it except they argued all the times and I kinder thought that was programming.

    • December 21, 2015 - Reply

      @Sparger

      Good! We don’t want them.

      • December 21, 2015 - Reply

        @Noirluv45

        Anyone who is silly enough to go on a show where they have to make a snap shot judgment to wed on the spot is either narcissistic, crazy, or both.

        • December 21, 2015 - Reply

          @Tajmarie

          ?? Girl, say that again!

          • December 21, 2015 - Reply

            @Noirluv45

            I can’t stand that At First Sight show. My older brother loves that show. I can’t be part of any show like that.

        • December 21, 2015 - Reply

          @Tajmarie

          You’re killin’ it in this thread. Nothing but the truth!

          • December 21, 2015 - Reply

            @Adebisi's Hat

            Yes, Tajmarie is known for dropping great jewels.

            • December 21, 2015 - Reply

              @truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

              Her comments are giving me life!

              • December 21, 2015 - Reply

                @Adebisi's Hat

                I agree with you Sister. Her comments are on point.

            • December 21, 2015 - Reply

              @truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

              Thanks, Truth !!

              • December 21, 2015 - Reply

                @Tajmarie

                You’re Welcome Sister Tajmarie.

        • December 21, 2015 - Reply

          @Tajmarie

          Exactly.

  5. December 21, 2015 - Reply

    This brother in the video broke it all the way down!

  6. December 21, 2015 - Reply

    White people continue to spread their propaganda

  7. December 21, 2015 - Reply

    Another reason why I refuse to pay for cable tv.

    • December 21, 2015 - Reply

      @vintage3000

      Vintage, it’s a trip because remember when cable was supposed to be for free and that there were not supposed to be advertisements either. Well, you aren’t missing much. The programming isn’t worth the money.

    • December 21, 2015 - Reply

      @vintage3000

      It is what it is Sister.

  8. December 21, 2015 - Reply

    He went all the way in! I watched most of the video yesterday. He was easy to listen to even with that long video. I watch MAFS but I still side eye their so called applicant pool and when I seen that clip, I was pissed off. It tried to make it look like all AA men want a white girl and that all AA women ONLY want an AA man. That’s simply not true. I think many people are open to different races and aren’t as exclusionary as “they” want us to think.

    • December 21, 2015 - Reply

      @yoda

      That show is totally off the chain. Complete strangers being married off the bat is totally wild. I have never seen a show like that.

      • December 21, 2015 - Reply

        @truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

        It is wild but I like that show and other shows on the FYI network.

        • December 21, 2015 - Reply

          @yoda

          To each its own Sister. It’s very popular.

        • December 21, 2015 - Reply

          @yoda

          My other Brother loves the show. There are great, creative shows on the FYI network. I like Encore Black too.

    • December 21, 2015 - Reply

      @yoda

      I agree. You mean to tell me that in Atlanta, a city with a large black population, you can’t find any black men interested in dating/marrying black women?!

      [pushes the wrong answer buzzer] Try again MAFS!

  9. December 21, 2015 - Reply

    This issue deals with many diverse subjects. I can’t make a commentary without delving into many issues. First, any show on mainstream TV has an agenda. No show just exists by happenstance. It is no secret that many shows either abhor Black Love or mock people who believe in Black Love. That should be established off the bat. As for relationships, voluntary relationships are relationships that are none of my business. Who a grown man or a grown woman dates or marries is not my business. There are many shows that tries to show tensions, and dysfunction among black men and black women (which is very disturbing). That’s obvious. The deal is that we want more healthy, voluntary relationships to exist on this Earth.

    There is nothing wrong with Black Love either. Black Love doesn’t just deal with romance, dating, marriage, or sex. Black Love deals also with friendships, love among relatives, and respect among black co-workers too. So, Black Love is diverse and it can be displayed in many different ways. The vast majority of black people who are married or are dating, marry or date black people. In America, Asians date outside of their race more than any other people of color. We will always refute the great lie that black women are undesirable when black women are loved and cherished by people of many backgrounds. The other great lie is that every Brother wants to marry or date a non-black woman. Both lies are insults to both black men and black women. Black is Beautiful. It is better to allow relationships to flourish in more progressive ways than forcibly marrying people in a reality TV show. People who do it signed a contract and they have the right to do it, but I can’t be part of a show where I’m married with someone immediately without dates, etc. That’s not my thing. I don’t get down like that. So, I understand where the Brother is coming from. The Brother Paul Carrick Brunson broke down the science. We have to not just promote Black Love (I will promote Black Love for life). We have to stand up against misogynoir, we have to call out sellouts who are color struck or hate black people, and we have to be living examples of defending our black communities.

    Therefore, Bless Black Love.

    • December 21, 2015 - Reply

      @truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

      Eloquently stated as always, truth!

      • December 21, 2015 - Reply

        @yoda

        Thank you Sister.

  10. December 21, 2015 - Reply

    Most black people have no idea how powerful the entertainment industry can be when it comes to teaching us who is most desirable as a mate. Anyone who sees the latest Star Wars will know exactly what I’m talking about.

    • December 21, 2015 - Reply

      @joe

      ” Anyone who sees the latest Star Wars will know exactly what I’m talking about.”

      Explain pls.?

      • December 21, 2015 - Reply

        @Staci Elle

        Although I have yet to see the movie I assume Joe’s statement has something to do with the fact that the leads are a white female and a black male…and Star Wars usually has some sappy B-plot love story.

        • December 21, 2015 - Reply

          @Jae Bee

          Exactly!

        • December 21, 2015 - Reply

          @Jae Bee

          understood

      • December 21, 2015 - Reply

        @Staci Elle

        There is a love story in the film. It’s subtle but impossible to not see.

        • December 21, 2015 - Reply

          @joe

          thank you.

    • December 21, 2015 - Reply

      @joe

      THANK YOU! It was so up in our face (Star Wars reference) I don’t want to drop any spoilers, but THANK YOU. I feel better knowing others noticed.

      • December 21, 2015 - Reply

        @Sagehen

        It was impossible not to notice. Millions of young black boys, around the world, will see this film and be influenced by it.

        • December 27, 2015 - Reply

          @joe

          Speaking of the latest Star Wars movie, I was initially thrilled that an authentic, dark skinned Black actress, Lupita Nyong’o would be playing a leading role in the film. All during the previews, her identity was closely kept under wraps in secret. As a HUGE Star Wars fan since the original trilogy, I thought that finally there would be a Black female Jedi with a significant speaking role in which that feat in an of itself is long overdue. At the start of a new Chapter with a new director in charge, there was an open door to right the wrongs of the past. And unfortunately, my hope quickly faded as the only Black female character with a speaking role in one the largest movie franchises in film history was revealed (and disguised) in CGI character, Maz Kanata–therefore she got no face time at all. My thoughts? Black women erased yet again….

  11. December 21, 2015 - Reply

    One of my wife and I favorite TV show, I must admit I didn’t see this coming although I did hear that comment but didn’t think much of it because I hear it all the time, but one thing I do fine strange is that many who criticize this show but at the same time love the way shows like Scandal and Empire displays black love or the lack of black love, I just fine this strange!

    • December 22, 2015 - Reply

      @trueletterson*vwfone@gmail.com

      Your type would….cause you’re full of it.

  12. December 21, 2015 - Reply

    I don’t care about this show….white supremacy is going to do what it always does. I’m just waiting to see black men hold each other accountable for their fetishes for “redbones”, “yellow bones”, “mutts”, “good hair”, and “the blackest girl I can get that ain’t black”.

    Not only are Black boys are learning that their own features are undesirable in their sisters, they are learning this on the knee of their fathers, uncles, cousins, and grandfathers.

    • December 22, 2015 - Reply

      @PurpNGold1

      It is sad what are young boys are being taught but one day they will wake up hopefully.

  13. December 21, 2015 - Reply

    There is an industry out there to get single black women to believe in the notion that most black men don’t want to date black women. It’s an industry that has made money with books on “swirling” and tips on how black women can find and date a white man. Beware of some of these so called “empowered sistas” who propagate these myths. They are dangerous. They have an agenda and it’s to create wedges between black men and black women.

    • December 21, 2015 - Reply

      @ctrldwn

      Thank you I have been saying this for a very long time now but it fall on deaf ears, they just won’t believe it but thank you maybe they will listen to you. Thank you.

    • December 21, 2015 - Reply

      @ctrldwn

      LOL, but why is it considered a divide when black women are told to expand their dating pool? Why not acknowledge how black men tend to date/marry women of other races at higher rate than black women? This wedge you speak of was there way before more black women started to say black women have other options.

    • December 22, 2015 - Reply

      @ctrldwn

      So these wedges weren’t created when black males are calling Black women bitches and hoes and thot and on and on FOR DECADES but only when Black women come out and say you don’t have to put up with Black men hatred and abuse you have options and have always had options if you choose to pursue them…ok….

    • December 22, 2015 - Reply

      @ctrldwn

      Just a quick question: I know that this is practically seen as blasphemous and FORBODDEN in many Black circles…but what if that black woman simply WANTS to date a non black man? What if she is simply attracted to them? Why would reading something concerning that be “dangerous”? Are black women only ever to date or marry black men? What about those that wish to also include the other 91% of the male population in this country in her dating pool? I just want to understand what the hell is so wrong with dating a good MAN…regardless of their level of melanin?

      • December 22, 2015 - Reply

        @Aria Whitaker

        I understand your point Sister. Fundamentally, human beings have the right to date who they want. If a black woman does that (or date a person irrespective of race), then she should live in peace without harassment and without oppression. Just like when a black person wants to date a black person, that black person should live in peace as well. We live in a generation where Black Love has been slandered and lied about by racists and extremists who want the black community to be extinct. We have a problem in this world where black people are shamed just because they love Black Love, but society doesn’t condemn white people saying that their preference is white people alone. Anyone who wants the black community to be extinct is a traitor. Anyone that wants the black community to not thrive in the future is a traitor. Anyone who views white people as infallible is a traitor. Anyone that slanders black people unfairly with anti-black stereotypes is a traitor. Some ignorant people view Black Love as equated to restricting the dating choices of black people. That’s a lie. Black Love is about the respect and love shown among black people. That’s Black Love. Black Love is about promoting voluntarily, healthy relationships among black people. Black Love is the first human love. Black Love is voluntary and Black Love is beautiful.

        Have a Good Day Sister.

        • December 22, 2015 - Reply

          @truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

          “Black Love is the first human love”

          Booooom!!!

          • December 22, 2015 - Reply

            @Brad

            Indeed Brother.

        • December 22, 2015 - Reply

          @truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

          Agreed 100%Truth…and that is where my question was getting at…it is not ” dangerous” to assist black women who have an interest in finding a good man, regardless of the skin color, in doing so… the “danger” comes from uplifting those men as pargons of honor or belittling our own race of men in the process. So many seem to think because a woman doesn’t give a flip about a man’s skin color when it comes to dating, that she is automatically “anti-black love” . Which is hogwash. Black women aren’t unlovable and there are many races of men who are capable of loving a black woman. I just hate to see people do the “swirl black women are DANGEROUS!!!11!!” bologna…makes it seem like any black woman allowing a non black man to love her is somehow defective, or that black women can’t be loved by any other race.

          • December 22, 2015 - Reply

            @Aria Whitaker

            The old lie that black woman are unlovable must be refuted. There are tons of people who cherish and love black women. Also, black women ought to be treated with dignity and respect irrespective of who she dates. That point must always be emphasized. I agree with you.

  14. December 21, 2015 - Reply

    First, this show would never be on my radar. Secondly, what makes the lady think she is the expert on Black women and men dating habits? She and this show deserves to get called out on there board assumption and stereotype. Lastly, the propaganda and agenda IS real concerning Black women, especially concerning our dating and love lives but anything to keep the trope of the lonely, undesirable, or lowly Black woman in comparison to other women…side eye.

  15. December 21, 2015 - Reply

    marrying a black man in 3 days. all of my friends are married to black men. my brother is marrying a black woman next fall. i literally cannot think of one black man i know who isn’t married to a black woman.

    Also, obviously, any black man who applies to this show wont be looking for a black woman. buffoonery at best.

    • December 21, 2015 - Reply

      @realestsoul

      Congrats! Enjoy your wedding and your marriage.

    • December 21, 2015 - Reply

      @realestsoul

      Congratulations to you Sister.

    • December 22, 2015 - Reply

      @realestsoul

      good luck in you marriage buy remember what Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. said about marriage he said two people standing before the alter saying “I Do” think they are married but they are not that’s just a legal procedural, he said the definition of marriage is “Two People Coming Together As One” and that takes time perhaps years working together on a marriage relationship, have patient and understanding, good luck in your marriage.

  16. December 21, 2015 - Reply

    The only thing we ever have to ask ourselves is who benefits from these messeges being put out there? Black men who marry marry BW 80% of the time. If they cant find BM who are interested in BW, then they need to ask themselves why that is.

  17. December 21, 2015 - Reply

    Portnoy’s Complaint, a gross book by Philip Roth, just refuses to die. It was a book from the 1960s about a Jewish guy who was insecure about his racial identity because he didn’t like his mom, so he became obsessed with WASP girls, especially blonde WASP girls.

    I guess producers want to recycle this trope until it’s run its course. Roth’s books suck, they’re like those comedians that keep telling racist jokes because they feel that racial issues are automatically humorous. He also had a book about a black guy passing for white.

    • December 22, 2015 - Reply

      @Myra Esoteric

      WHAT?.

    • December 22, 2015 - Reply

      @Myra Esoteric

      I threw that book on the floor upon finishing it. Sadly that archetype is not rare amongst Black folks.

  18. December 21, 2015 - Reply

    We can blame white supremacy for this f*ckery, but we also need to lay alot of the blame on self-hating black men as well. Their insistence on dating non-black women while putting down black women is a huge reason why other races feel comfortable “pointing out” how “undesirable” we supposedly are. When you have black men co-signing the “black women ain’t sh*t” myth, this is the result.

    If I had a dollar for every time a white co-worker or acquaintance offered to set me up with a brother they know, only to come back sheepishly and tell me he doesn’t date black women, or a dollar for each time a non-black woman very confidently told me that black men prefer anyone but us, I’d be a millionaire.

    Sure, white racists seek to divide us, but they wouldn’t have a chance if self-hating black men didn’t publicize how much they don’t like us and what “problems” we are. Asian women date white men by a high percentage and I still don’t hear their men dog them out the way our men do us. It hurts the soul.

    • December 22, 2015 - Reply

      @shybookworm

      Those black men usually have some other issues and suffer from self hate which is a whole other thing.I don’t care or acknowledge black men who suffer from self hate.It’s one thing for black to want to date outside of their race but they don’t have to demean us.
      As far as your white co workers setting you up with people,well they are just using you for laughs.They know these black men that are their so called friends just like non black women.Trust me they do but they just want to see your reaction to it all.Lie and tell them you have a man so they will leave you alone.They don’t have your best interest at heart.

      • December 22, 2015 - Reply

        @Mrs.JPart2

        I don’t know about that, to be honest. Usually it’s a situation where I’m at a new job or at some kind of gathering, and some well-meaning white person will be like, “You’d be perfect for so-and-so.” It’s usually the only black man they know.On the other hand, I’ve had black women or men be like, “Man, you’d be great for so-and-so, but that fool only likes white girls,” (or Asians or Latinas). So, I don’t think I’m personally being set up for laughs. When they tell me I’m not someone’s cup of tea, I just thank them for the attempted set up and keep it moving. Then they try find out in some roundabout way if I date outside my race, which I’ve done.

        • December 22, 2015 - Reply

          @shybookworm

          I think you’re being naive but it’s ok I don’t know you like that.Why are people you hardly know trying to set you up?Weird in my opinion.They wouldn’t like me I would brush them off.

          • December 23, 2015 - Reply

            @Mrs.JPart2

            you can tell these people [female or male] are young and naive and are like prey among these white people I just hope their minds won’t get too messed up before they wake up and mature.

            • December 24, 2015 - Reply

              @trueletterson*vwfone@gmail.com

              This isn’t a case of being young and naive. I know what time it is for black people in the U.S., esp. black women. In many professional settings, I am one of a handful of WOC–and I’m single. Partnered or married couples like to set single people up. As I’ve mentioned in a previous comment, a white acquaintance or even a black one, upon hearing that I’m single, will try to set me up with a friend. If they’re white, it’s usually the one black man they know.

              I don’t have time to play games with people, white or otherwise. If I got that vibe that someone was knowingly trying to set me up with a black man who didn’t like black women to get some laughs, I think I’d know. Anyway, if they have, that says more about them than me. I have gone on fix ups with Asian, Hispanic and white men. My point in posting a remark to this story at all in the first place was to emphasize that self-hating black men are partially to blame for non-blacks acting like experts on our dating lives, i.e. black women can’t get a date with their own men. If these men didn’t publicize their dislike of us in favor of other races to other races, stories like this wouldn’t make the press.

              Negative stories make the press, and when you’re black, it’s even worse–esp if black people, in this case black men, are co-signing the tomfoolery. As I’ve stated before, I don’t see Asian men putting down Asian women who partner with white men in droves. They don’t paint them all with the same brush. Unfortunately, self-hating black men do. They’ve not only drunk the white supremacy Kool-Aid, but spiked it with some self-hatred as well.

              • December 24, 2015 - Reply

                @shybookworm

                I feel you and apreciate you and your comment and somewhat agree with you however you as a women can not understand the mind of men just as it’s sometime difficult for men to understand the mind of women now by saying that you mention Asian men don’t put down Asian women who partner with white men but they do they might not put them on blast in public like black men and women do but they have a big problem with it they ever have kill some for that reason, men are men no matter the race and all race of men see their race of women as their women [I don’t know no other way of saying it but that’s the way it is], the white man have the same problem black men have when they see white women with black men [I know because for over 35 years I worked primarily with white men and they say it], the only different between black men and other men is we came here different from any other race of men and they will never forget it and we will never forget it.

  19. December 21, 2015 - Reply

    This brother here? Broke.It.All.The.Way.Down., we need more voices like his, especially Black men in the media and social media–pushing back against the nonsense on a regular basis.

  20. December 22, 2015 - Reply

    Always something to keep confusion in the black community.

  21. December 28, 2015 - Reply

    They hand picked Toms.

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