Every now & then I like to feature a post by some of my fellow bloggers that I personally enjoy reading & being friends with. Below is a post written by my good friend, Kali. Check out her blog, Kween’s Kaleidoscope when you have a chance.
It’s sad…not too long ago I heard Common Sense died (not the rapper). Then I saw in the most recent months, another friend of ours…Accountability…was dying a slow death.
If you DON’T know me…it’s my favorite word. I think far too many people deny Accountability his due. He gets NO shine, NO light, NO love…just shoved to the back of the closet with all the other unlikeable human traits.
I think its quite sad…to walk through life feeling entitled to all the respect, love and consideration in the world, but not have an ounce of that for anyone else. To be abusive in word and action towards people and then cringe like a victim at any kind of returned anger or frustration.
What takes place in a person’s life that makes them believe or feel that everything someone does is a personal attack…unprovoked and undeserved? I fully believe that when things take place in our lives, something WE did along the way (or didn’t do) is part of the reason why we suffer. Which is why I find it hard to grasp, when a person who blatantly has said or done things out of pocket…could actually fix their mouths to be shocked and feel victimized. Who do you think YOU are to go without blame, unaccountable, irresponsible and free of consequence? Who are ANY of us to act less than what we want from others…then be surprised when we get exactly what we dish? Just WHO?
Accountability…it is the difference between knowing you’re wrong, admitting it and trying to make amends. Or, knowing you’re wrong (on some level), refusing to accept responsibility and apologize. Allowing for your own twisted sense of self and what you feel is right in your head to become distorted…leaving you a perfect angel. Since there is no perfect person (doing, being, acting in the right 100% of the time)…it goes without saying that one would have to admit wrong at some point in their lives…be accountable…and apply the lesson forward.
…but, that’s ONLY if you’re willing to look inside and deal with yourself instead of deflecting and blaming everyone else for your life.