Yesha Callahan

These Little Girls Were Happy To Receive Black Dolls

Last week, a mother posted a video of her two white daughters crying after receiving two black dolls for Christmas. Whether the gifts were sent sincerely, or as a gag gift, the world will never know. But what was more harrowing than the girls crying, was the fact that the mother in the video did nothing besides laugh and egg them on.
The video caught the attention of a Wisconsin mother, Kate Nachman, whose daughters also received black dolls as Christmas gifts.

As you can see in the photo below, one of her daughters played with her gift on Christmas day:


Nachman was disappointed in the viral video and wanted to make her own, along with providing a statement about how it made her feel:

Two White Girls Happy to Get Black American Girls for Christmas

There is a video going around with two little white girls getting Black baby dolls for Christmas and then crying about it while their mom laughs in the background. This is NOT that video, and I’m not reposting it because it’s a great (racist) example of how NOT to parent your kids. Meanwhile, in Wisconsin, these two little white girls got Black American girl dolls for Christmas, and were positively thrilled, so I thought I’d make a little replacement video right quick. Since December 25th these two have been carried around non-stop, changed in and out of outfits constantly, and lovingly put to bed every night. So as a white mom with white kids, why not buy dolls that look like them? Well, they do have white dolls. We also have Hispanic and Asian dolls. But I think it’s important for my kids to have dolls who don’t look like them because for one, it teaches them that all skin colors are beautiful. Two, it demolishes the expectation that in order to love someone, care about someone, be a friend or play with someone, the other person has to look like you. It may seem trivial or silly, but it’s not. Our kids learn about race from us, their parents, first. And white parents have an obligation to teach our kids about race from a young age, so they won’t grow up to perpetuate the cycles of institutional racism and injustice that are eating away at our country from the inside. Little things like this matter, because you are creating an environment in your home that is inclusive to everyone, and invites discussion. There are also many age appropriate children’s books about race issues, from slavery to the Civil Rights Movement, to the Japanese internment camps during World War II, and desegregating public schools. Read them with your kids and answer their questions. And never tell them “that was a long time ago” or “all races are the same!” Because it wasn’t and they’re not. Instead, teach them how to see injustice and do the right thing.

Posted by Katie Nachman on Sunday, January 3, 2016

In an interview with The Root, Nachman also had this to say:

The main purpose I had in mind when making that video was to show how much parental attitudes reflect on children. It was really directed to white parents, both to educate and also put it out there that the other video is completely unacceptable. With the accompanying post, I hope that white parents begin to realize that it’s not enough to tell your kids that everyone is equal. That color does matter, and it matters a lot to a lot of people. That being a “nice person” does not preclude you from having biases, or perpetrating racism.

What I want is for white people to stop being so “nice,” and to start being actively anti-racist. One of the problems with educating people about white privilege is that white people get really upset and defensive about it, and they feel guilty and try to deny it instead of thinking of ways they can actively use that privilege for good. So for white families, just know that you do have privilege; no, you can’t get rid of it; no, you can’t deny it. What you can do is use it when needed, to educate other white people, or to stand up for injustice when you see it. And it is everywhere, so if you’re not seeing it, that’s a problem. Talk to your kids about race early on, be excruciatingly honest and set the example for them. You are their first teachers, and the ones they look up to the most.

Hopefully the mother in the previous video comes across Nachman’s and learns a thing or two or three.

  1. January 7, 2016 - Reply

    The video where the woman took pleasure in making her children cry by giving them black dolls just told me she was scum as a mother and a person because no good parent want to see his/her children cry let alone tease them for possibly millions to see. I think it is great that this woman’s children were happy to get black dolls and that she makes a conscious choice to buy different race dolls for her white children. I did notice that the dolls above are black American Girl dolls with hair which cost $120 (unless used) each versus the no hair, family dollar quality dolls the other mother taunted her children with. Nothing against family dollar. The one mom knew buying black dolls was already a no-go for her daughters but to have no hair was the hell no.

  2. January 7, 2016 - Reply

    Kids who see colors are that way because they were taught so. But again, we don’t need validation from white people.

  3. January 7, 2016 - Reply

    Good for her (no sarcasm)

    White people, please have more conversations like this amongst yourselves, especially this part:

    “So for white families, just know that you do have privilege; no, you can’t get rid of it; no, you can’t deny it. What you can do is use it when needed, to educate other white people, or to stand up for injustice when you see it. And it is everywhere, so if you’re not seeing it, that’s a problem.”

    Otherwise, it’s just preaching to the choir.

  4. January 7, 2016 - Reply

    I don’t care they like black dolls, its a fricking doll but it’s nice to know they are not to hung up on the colour, we don’t need to know these two little girls are not offended.Why do I feel she just went out and brought them those dolls for the sake of being seen as good mum, she could of chucked them by now or given them away. White people sure know how to create attention for the sake of them “not being racist”. I don’t have to be validated by whiteys to know my melanin is magic. On a side note those dolls look creepy asf, maybe put them in a cupboard at night or something.

  5. January 7, 2016 - Reply

    The evil of racism exists early on in life. That is why parents have a great responsibility to not only teach children about the beauty of diverse colors (as Black is always Beautiful), but to tell children early on to use anti-racist activism as a way for them to combat injustices. Doing that is a great thing. The mother wrote a note about institutional racism and how more white families have to be honest with their white privilege and use anti-racist activism. At the end of the day, we want the system of racism/white supremacy to end, so a system of justice can be in its place. We want revolutionary changes where systems of oppression are overthrown and ended forever. Our ancestors overthrown the Maafa (by force), our ancestors also overthrown the Confederacy, etc. We want to end evils and promote goodness and social justice. Kate Nachman’s advice and actions are a whole lot better than the previous video of another white woman mocking her children and acting racist. It is not our responsibility to make white people love us. It is our responsibility to love ourselves, to treat each other right, and to realize the majestic beauty of our Blackness fully. We are tired of being treated like criminals. We are tired of being treated as a stereotype. We are human beings and we desire total liberation. We will fight for it too.

  6. January 8, 2016 - Reply

    Now get Black dolls with kinky texture hair 😉

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