Yesha Callahan

Ray Rice Says He Regrets Not Helping His Wife Up After Punching Her In The Face


Former Baltimore Ravens running back Ray Rice is still attempting to get back in the good graces of the public eye after the domestic violence incident with his wife Janay early last year nearly cost him his football career.

Ever since the video of Ray punching his then-fiance in the face and knocking her out cold in an elevator following a 2014 Valentine’s Day dinner went public, both Ray and his wife Janay have been determined to convince the NFL, the fans, the media and just about anyone who will listen that Ray is a remorseful, rehabilitated, changed man. Janay faced much backlash from the female community for repeatedly coming to her husband’s defense despite the disturbing nature of the video clip that showed her take a violent blow to the face from her husband during an argument just before being left to lay in the elevator, but she’s yet again proving that the negative reaction from her female peers won’t deter her from insisting that the whole incident was “a mistake” and that her husband should be allowed to move forward with his football career. Speaking about the incident on a recent episode of ESPN’s “Outside The Lines” series, Janay said:

“[This] never happened before, and that’s not him. He’s been made out to be this monster and he’s not a wife beater. He’s someone who made a mistake, he’s human.

He’s done everything he’s supposed to do to redeem himself.”

Ray, who was released from the Ravens team and suspended indefinitely by the NFL before later being reinstated, has also been working overtime to rebuild his reputation in hopes of being picked up by a team ahead of the start of the NFL season in just a few weeks. In his most recent plea for forgiveness, Ray told ESPN’s Jemele Hill that he regretted not helping his wife up off the elevator floor after hitting her.

“I didn’t help my wife up. I did everything wrong. At that moment, I was out of my mind not to help her up. That’s what plays over and over in my mind. Just leaving her there, how could I have done that?”

He later amended his strange and seemingly aloof statement by adding that he shouldn’t have hit her in the first place. (Why that wasn’t the sentiment he expressed initially is just as much of a mystery to us as it is to you.)

“If I could do it different, I should have helped my wife up. I should have never put my hands on her, number one.”

While it’s no surprise that both Ray and Janay are back on their quest for public acceptance given that the fate of their financial future is solely dependent on Ray being picked up by another NFL team, they might as well accept that in the court of public opinion, Ray will be seen as guilty for many years to come. Although they seem to somehow think that Janay speaking out in defense of her husband will help his case for getting back into the NFL, the reality is that it’s hurting more than it’s helping.

As has been proven many times in these situations that involve high-profile public figures, the road to redemption for domestic violence offenders is a long and hard one that simply can’t be side-stepped.

  1. August 5, 2015 - Reply

    They are really working to get him back to playing football but it just feels like they keep going about it in the wrong way. I don’t think it will help to keep doing interviews. Who is handling their PR.

    Plus I always thought that the way he treated her after he hit her was more telling than the hit and that hit was inexcusable.

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  3. August 5, 2015 - Reply

    It was last year, I remember the Hallowe’en costumes. *Shudder*

  4. August 5, 2015 - Reply

    This is a serious issue. Domestic violence is not to be played with and Ray Rice’s actions have no justification. The video footage of the abuse is disturbing and no person should suffer domestic violence at any circumstance. Ray Rice and his wife decided to be together. A lot of people will agree with that reality and a lot of people don’t. Yet, they have decided to continue with their marriage. Also, Ray Rice knows that he must be careful. He can never repeat that evil action ever again and he’s reminded of the viciousness of domestic violence every day of his life. I hope that Ray Rice will be a much better person than the past, but there can be no minimization of what domestic violence is. It’s evil and it’s a crime. I wish the best for Ray Rice’s wife, who is going through so much. The epidemic of domestic violence is not just found in America. It’s a global problem too. One valuable lesson about this issue is that we have to deal with this problem of domestic violence (and fight against it). The No More commercials exposing the evil of domestic violence reflects the point that there are no excuses for it. More people are speaking out and we want a society where people are treated as people (with dignity and with respect).

    #No More Excuses.

  5. August 5, 2015 - Reply

    No one should be hitting anyone but enough with articles like these. How about articles that tells people how to get an advantage this world and become successful.

    • August 6, 2015 - Reply

      @Mr. S

      “Let’s sweep domestic violence under the rug b/c it makes a black athlete look bad.”

      • August 6, 2015 - Reply


        When this happened it has received more than enough media time.

  6. August 5, 2015 - Reply

    Since we are at it if they can post this than why hasn’t clutch ever posted a single thing about abortion and how that is wrong. I’ll tell you why. Its because clutch is run by progressives and liberals who believe unborn babies should be murdered

    • August 5, 2015 - Reply

      @Mr. S

      Better yet, why not post an article about children who are hungry because the ‘religious’ fanatics in Washington have decided that poor people are lazy and have a bad attitude, therefore, do not deserve public assistance, and why they’re on mission to see to it that funding for public education is cut, or gutted altogether. Here’s another idea: what is the obsession with what goes on in the wombs of women and between their legs? Jesus must be hiring, because I didn’t know they had the authority to judge.

      • August 6, 2015 - Reply


        Yes we should have a better system to feed hungry kids but most democrats liberals and progressives are more concerned about the lgbt to really care about what really matters. If we can have big time support groups for those nasty gays then children deserve the same type of advocacy groups gays have.

      • August 6, 2015 - Reply


        Also women should watch who they sleep with because they should make sure the man is wearing a condum at the least. Sex is made to create life. It was never intended for recreational use. These embryos are little human beings that you can’t just throw away because you wanted to be reckless. They need love care and attention.

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