Yesha Callahan

Men Have No Idea How To React When They’re Being Catcalled

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Have you ever catcalled a man? It’s not every day that you see a woman harassing random dudes on the street, but Leah Green from The Guardian, armed with a hidden camera, decided to see what would happen when she catcalled men on the streets of London.

And the reactions are priceless.

From sheer bewilderment, to comments like “You can’t talk to us like that”, Green’s video shows that men truly don’t know what to do when they’re approached in the similar fashion that women are on the streets.

Green took scenarios that women have submitted to the from Everyday Sexism Project via its site and on Twitter,




It would definitely be interesting to see a similar video done in some of the city areas of the U.S. Hell, maybe this weekend I’ll try to catcall a few men myself, but some men in D.C may actually find it flattering.

  1. April 4, 2014 - Reply

    what’s the link to the video?

    • April 4, 2014 - Reply

      @Me

      thanks for posting it clutch!

  2. April 4, 2014 - Reply

    if “cat calling” is really offensive, then why is it okay to randomly cat call men for an experiment?

    i just don’t get what people are arguing about when a man on the street may find you attractive. if he says cruel words and his approach sucks, okay he is an a-hole.

    but going around trying to sexually harass others to prove that sexual harassment is bad… doesn’t work.

    • April 4, 2014 - Reply

      @naan

      It is a question of empathy. I remember reading about a common technique in many classrooms in this country for teaching children about discrimination during Black History lessons. The teacher will either do it by eye color(brown-eyed students vs blue/green eye students) or by tying different colored scarves around their waists for the day. The teacher would then, for the entirety of the day, let the brown-eyed or yellow-scarfed children go to lunch first, they would get an extra bathroom break or be allowed an extra 5 minutes on the playground at recess.

      Throughout the day, the “out-group” (the blue/green eyed students or those with green scarfs) were treated a bit more poorly, had multiple micro-aggressions thrown at them about “those green scarfed folks” and had an extra classroom assignment to do while the “in-group” got to draw, socialize or play during that time.

      At the end of the day, there have been multiple accounts of children becoming irritated as a result of the unfair treatment they experienced that day due to factors they could not control such as the scarf that was tied around them or their eye color. They developed, if just a LITTLE, a sense of how an “out-group” feels DAILY. Many students go home and talk to their parents about it and many state that the lesson DOES help them see, if only for a day, how it feels to be mistreated b/c of who you are.

      My feeling is that this is along the same lines. If these men, if only for a day, are able to see how some women feel when they are just trying to get to the grocery store, or pick up their children, or pay a bill….to have to worry about 10 different men talking about your breasts, butt and what they would do to each. Moreover, they then call you every name under the sun if you refuse their advances, no matter how politely. So it is not about those fighting against this “trying to do the same thing”, but more of “ This is how if feels when you treat us like this, it is not pleasant, so please stop”.

  3. April 4, 2014 - Reply

    idk. after seeing the video i feel like this woulda been better if they actually followed dudes that are guilty of this and then see what their reaction to it is. but this is just some creepy lady doing the same bad behavior to dudes that may or may not have ever done that to women.

    • April 5, 2014 - Reply

      @Me

      But wouldn’t she only be able to harass men who harassed her first?

  4. April 4, 2014 - Reply

    @naan In the words of a great Miami philosopher Trick Daddy….you know nan. She is putting men in the place of women so they can see how it feels. It’s annoying. It’s degrading. When you put people in your shoes to experience a negative experience, they may be less likely to do it again because they know how it feels. If it weren’t a risk of violence, I would do it to…especially the hand grabbing as you pass them in the street. “Ayo miss, can I talk to you? “

    • April 4, 2014 - Reply

      @Simone L

      The only problem with her approach is that not all men harass women. If she aproached men after witnessing them harassing women, it would make more sense.

      • April 5, 2014 - Reply

        @joe

        Not all men harass women, but enough of them do.

    • April 4, 2014 - Reply

      @Simone L

      may be, but i doubt any of those guys are gonna go home thinking about this. it’d be forgotten the moment they turn a corner. things that women complain about aren’t the same for men. how often do you see men complaining about their personal issues without shaming language being thrown at them: “whiner”, “man up”

  5. April 4, 2014 - Reply

    Not really sure the purpose of this “experiment” really proved or even showed me anything. The only reason men don’t know what to do when they get street harassed is because It rarely if ever happens to us. Woman only know how to react because it happens to them so often. So all in all I guess it’s a good laugh but as far as it changing anything, I doubt it

    • April 4, 2014 - Reply

      @Kenan

      Not only do i agree with you but i think, if conducted in other environments, this experiment would’ve proven the opposite of her intent. Around my way, she would’ve been taken up on many an offer and would’ve ended up beating dudes off with a stick.

  6. April 4, 2014 - Reply

    Lol if you go to the correct area I promise you some of the men will love it. Then ask you for your number.

  7. April 4, 2014 - Reply

    This gave me a laugh, especially the way she edited it. I thought most of the men were quite gracious.

    Most men don’t engage in behavior like this, but I could see viewing the video as a deterrent for those who do. Because she looked like a fool going up to random strangers asking them sexual things. Nobody likes looking like a fool.

  8. April 4, 2014 - Reply

    This doesn’t happen often, therefore there are men who are completely taken by surprise. If women were to become more aggressive in their sexual demands I’m willing to bet good money that most of us won’t complain. Look around your city and check how many strip clubs cater to women, and then check the stats on where the demand for most porn is. Exactly. I wonder if the fields of Sexology and Psychology have documented this difference between men and women, but from real life the trends are unmistakable. I know the advertising industry takes gender differences into account (e.g. how many beer commercials have scantily clad women in them?). If most women however go on the offensive and start asking random men to sleep with them (the 1960s notwithstanding) then who knows what would happen….

  9. April 4, 2014 - Reply

    “…and a lap dance?” This girl is hilarious!

    It would be fun to yell out a car window at a guy ‘hey sweetie do fries come with that shake’-lol. But I wouldn’t do this while walking, too dangerous.

  10. April 5, 2014 - Reply

    It’s a cool experiment but there is a really good chance that more than few men will actually try to get some from a woman who is willing to be that “forward.”

    Personally, the one time I was cat called was when I was walking by the women’s basketball team’s dorm when I was in college. The girls were hollering out of the window, messing with me. It was kind of weird I guess. For some reason, jock girls liked me back in the day.

    • April 5, 2014 - Reply

      @Anthony

      Yeah, like the guy who said he had to go to the bank first. It made me wonder if he said that because he thought she was a prostitute?

  11. April 7, 2014 - Reply

    I’m not sure of what “worked” would actually mean when doing this experiment. What it does show, which means it “worked” for me, is how utterly offensive, ridiculous, silly and downright stupid the catcalling that men do is to us women. Majority of men have said something similar or the same at least once in their lives. They need to know how absurd it is.

  12. April 7, 2014 - Reply

    If a random woman off the streets started catcalling me, my automatic thought is that she’s trying to set me up to be robbed or something. I’m pretty sure many guys would feel that way because men are not used to getting sexual attention from women.

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