Yesha Callahan

It’s Not Okay To Publicly Shame An Ex For Aborting Your Child, Even If That Woman Is Stacey Dash

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There are a lot of things one could criticize Stacey Dash for (her stance on Obama, her thoughts on the wage gap, the list goes on), but one area that should be off-limits are her reproductive choices — though the irony of a woman so tightly aligned with the right-wing who has repeatedly slammed Planned Parenthood for targeting black women reportedly having an abortion is not lost on me. Nevertheless, the decision by Nappy Roots‘ member Ryan Prophet to expose her decision on Christmas Day was wrong any way you slice it.

The rapper took to Instagram of course, because that’s where all scorned lovers go to air out their grievances, and posted this message exposing the fact that he and Stacey were allegedly expecting a child together several years ago, before she decided to abort the pregnancy.


Note the part where Prophet writes “I’m in my feelings,” that, ladies, is a telltale sign it’s time to get off of social media. Now had prophet shared this story in a more tactful manner as a means to expose Dash’s conservative hypocrisy, there may have been a place for it, but this upload, as well as the text exchange that followed, has bitter ex written all over it and the public has no business being drawn into this drama.

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Messy would be an understatement when it comes to Prophet’s details of the unraveling of his relationship with Dash, but far worse is the blame he assigns his ex for not being able to watch his “seed” open gifts on Christmas. Suffice it to say if Dash so easily found herself in another man’s arms while pregnant with Prophet’s child, that relationship was already on the outs. Perhaps the former actress didn’t want to bring a child into that type of situation and begin something new while carrying the child of an ex. Of course, these are all things that it would have been better to think about before procreating, but what doesn’t fix anything is calling someone a baby killer on social media and making them responsible for how your life turned out since the dissolution of your relationship.

If Prophet hasn’t found a new partner to settle down with — one who we imagine wold likely be a better fit given the Dash we’ve come to know today — and have a child, that’s on him. Abortion and reproductive rights are far too serious of issues in this country right now to be trivialized in such a self-serving, attention-seeking manner. Prophet needs to get out of his feelings and onto a therapist’s couch and leave his cellphone at home.

  1. December 29, 2015 - Reply

    that’s a tricky one. is it okay to shame a man who refused to support a child he didn’t want? if the answer is yes, then it’s perfectly fine to shame a woman who aborts a child the man did want. if having sex isn’t a consent for motherhood, neither should having sex be consent for fatherhood.

  2. December 29, 2015 - Reply

    He has text messages from 7 years ago? He hasn’t upgraded his phone since then? Hmmm. There’s a lot to get into here (assuming this story is true), but I’m not starting that convo right now.

    • December 29, 2015 - Reply


      I know! I don’t like Stacey very much as a person, but this fool is a trifling a** Negro.

  3. December 29, 2015 - Reply

    Maybe GROWN-UPS should stop airing their dirty laundry on social media! Aren’t these silly so and so’s in their 40’s? My goodness!

  4. December 29, 2015 - Reply

    This is why I don’t do social media. I can’t wait for social media to be a thing of the past!

    Social media has ruined normal human interactions. It is a negative tool…period!

  5. December 29, 2015 - Reply

    The words from the hip hop artist were petty and immature. The relationship occurred and ended many years ago. He using social media to talk about Stacey Dash (even though I don’t agree with her on many issues) in that fashion is very uncouth and he has to move on with his life.

  6. December 29, 2015 - Reply

    Airing personal matters in public is always in poor taste. That said, I disagree with telling a man to get over it when a child has been aborted without his consent and against his will. This “seed” as he calls it was a part of him and he placed an abundance of hope on the life ahead. As a father, he has a right to mourn the loss of his child for as long as it tugs at his heart. I don’t see this being much different than a woman who has suffered a miscarriage feeling depressed, especially around holidays and birth months while mourning what might have been. Who would tell her to move on, already? When the joy, the celebration and the hope of a new life is suddenly taken away, I can only imagine the pain that lingers — possibly forever. The difference is, in this case, a man holds someone responsible for his loss and has directed his anger toward that person. Even 7 years after the fact who are we to judge him for what he experienced and what he feels? While I disagree with the forum used to express himself, I won’t chalk his actions up to attention-seeking, but rather his way of seeking justice or revenge for something wholly out of his control.

  7. December 29, 2015 - Reply

    Abortion is still a medical procedure just like pregnancy can be considered a medical condition depending on the circumstance. He might want to tread lightly, disclosing medical history via social media could lead to a lawsuit. He better get himself a therapist to deal with this.

  8. December 29, 2015 - Reply

    After getting this great news, I didn’t read in his post where he immediately proposed marriage: love and fidelity, protection, and financial security. It may have been the best fukking day of her life too, if only he took a knee…

  9. December 30, 2015 - Reply

    So petty.

  10. December 31, 2015 - Reply

    If this was the best day of his life, why didn’t he propose marriage since she was “the woman of my dreams”? There are still some decent women who aspire to more than baby-mama-hood.

    Should he have revealed all of this on social media? Probably not, but I don’t think she is anymore of a hypocrite than he is. I’m guessing that he probably would have wanted an abortion too if she wasn’t the woman of his dreams. From the messages that he provided, she just didn’t seem to want him so why share a kid with him…

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