Yesha Callahan

Complex Editor Accuses Black Ex-Boyfriend Of Domestic Abuse; He Says She’s A Racist Liar

Abuse allegations are already touchy when it comes to relationships but when you add race into the mix, accusations tend to take on a whole different meaning. Case in point, a debacle currently playing out between Lauren Nostro, a white woman who’s the Managing Editor for Complex, and her black ex-boyfriend, Ernest Baker, also a writer.

Two days ago, Nostro took to Twitter to expose her ex when she uploaded the image above and wrote: “I’m a little tired of hiding this so since everyone knows, here’s what your fave writer did.” In a second tweet she added, “I did a lot of wrong things in my relationship (cheating back) and losing my mind but sorry this is too much and p gross.”

Nostro then sent out a series of tweets attempting to explain her motive which appears to have been set off by Baker announcing “In the past year i’ve gotten a book deal, become a world-famous DJ, revolutionized journalism and impregnated wifey next year gonna be wild.”

https://twitter.com/laurennostro/status/672274719157182465

lauren nostro

Baker, of course, got wind of what was happening and responded to the accusation saying the whole situation is about race and privilege, not abuse.

https://twitter.com/ernestbaker/status/672482602520076288

https://twitter.com/laurennostro/status/672276185221570560

https://twitter.com/laurennostro/status/672276433365049354

https://twitter.com/laurennostro/status/672276433365049354

Baker

https://twitter.com/ernestbaker/status/672483229480431616

Baker didn’t go into to detail about what proof he has of his innocence but it sounds as though he may be saving that for his day in court. According to Page Six, law enforcement officials did confirm the couple was involved in a domestic violence incident on May 5 of this year at their Bed-Stuy apartment. “The couple, who were going through a breakup, argued over keys and unpaid bills. During the argument, Nostro allegedly broke Baker’s ATM card in half, prompting Baker to choke her before tossing her inside a closet. Nostro fell, hitting her chin on the floor, which caused a laceration requiring her to get almost 20 stitches at Woodhull Medical Center. She filed a police report regarding the incident on Sept. 20. Baker was arrested on Nov. 19 for misdemeanor assault, harassment, criminal obstruction of breathing and menacing. He was arraigned and freed without bail,” they report.

Ironically, the deal Baker referred to in the tweet that seemingly sparked Nostro’s exposure is for the forthcoming book, “How to Date White Women,” which was inspired by his June 2014 article, “The Reality of Dating White Women When You’re Black.” This incident proves Baker certainly has a plethora of material for the book, but only time will tell who’s telling the real truth about the incident.

Thus far, Nostro seems to be winning the alleged war, tweeting about the support she’s received from rappers, other men, and co-workers at Complex.

https://twitter.com/laurennostro/status/672538552723513344

https://twitter.com/laurennostro/status/672610859689091073

https://twitter.com/laurennostro/status/672636691681792000

Photo Credits: Instagram/Twitter

  1. December 4, 2015 - Reply

    Too bad so sad

    • December 4, 2015 - Reply

      @i mean

      LOL

  2. December 4, 2015 - Reply

    thats what u kinda have to expect when you date outside. not saying all. i dont feel sorry for him. they date white women, put us down in the process then when it goes awry want our sympathy …bye

    • December 4, 2015 - Reply

      @dogfish

      amen, when “they” cry rape, it’s always to be believed. He made his bed and now he needs to lie in it, i hope it’s comfy!!!

    • December 4, 2015 - Reply

      @dogfish

      word. all i could think was, whatever happens, that self-hating coon is probably getting what he deserves.

    • December 4, 2015 - Reply

      @dogfish

      Yes honey.Then they raise confused hateful biracial children who sometimes hate being black.I don’t really care about this clown.

  3. December 4, 2015 - Reply

    This dude is a complete idiot. I just read his gawker articled on why hey dates white women where he says he’s attracted to straight hair, pale skin, and blue eyes…. #heavysigh smh …. So now he’s mad b/c the white girl did what they do when they want revenge on the brother… boy sat down somewhere!

  4. December 4, 2015 - Reply

    No sympathy at all, this dude actually wrote a book on black males chasing becky’s??? WOW. I truly feel like melanin was wasted on some.

  5. December 4, 2015 - Reply

    So…am I, as a black woman, supposed to feel bad for him orrrrrr what?

  6. December 4, 2015 - Reply

    Oh well. That Negro is clearly idle…writing a book called “How to date a White Woman”???? What sensible person does that? I just can’t…smh

  7. December 4, 2015 - Reply

    1. I’m not caping for a black man who chases white tail and realizes she might not really think he’s a special negro.

    2. I’m not caping for a white woman who chases black d!ck and realizes she ain’t special enough to not get beat on.

    I doubt either one of these two would cape for a bw in distress so I have no interest in their little tiff.

    • December 4, 2015 - Reply

      @Me

      You echoed my sentiments to the T! I don’t know if you read his spiel, but he talked about the victimization of innocent BLACK MEN. No mention of Black women, so right there, I was over and out!

    • December 4, 2015 - Reply

      @Me

      “2. I’m not caping for a white woman who chases black d!ck and realizes she ain’t special enough to not get beat on.”

      Fcking dead! I just spit out my drink!

    • December 5, 2015 - Reply

      @Me

      Realest comment ever.

    • December 5, 2015 - Reply

      @Me

      Agree 1000%

    • December 9, 2015 - Reply

      @Me

      BAM, my thoughts exactly. I’m trying to understand why this is even news? If he was out here beating a sister’s behind…would this be a news story? would anyone even care. Doubt it. but he gets accused of beating a white woman and magically…it’s a story. give me a break. go deal with your issues in court and hope the judge buys your story.

  8. December 4, 2015 - Reply

    Get your fresh tea! Hot Tea! Ice Tea! Chai…

    *Ok, i’m done being petty and childish* …maybe

    • December 4, 2015 - Reply

      @Mr. Z

      lls

      • December 7, 2015 - Reply

        @dogfish

        With a sprinkle of nutmeg pls.

    • December 7, 2015 - Reply

      @Mr. Z

      LOL! Large green tea with lemon and sugar please.

  9. December 4, 2015 - Reply

    Was she racist while you two were dating? This is the first you knew of her racist tendencies? You were okay with loving a racist? And now that the racist has turned on you we should feel…? Okay.

  10. December 4, 2015 - Reply

    I don’t care for either of them.

  11. December 4, 2015 - Reply

    So did anyone else peep how he says she made fun of Trayvon’s death and how he should have known better? That leads me to believe he stayed with her after that. Boy, bye!

    • December 4, 2015 - Reply

      @yoda

      Exactly which means he was aware of her racist tendencies while dating but it didn’t bother him , until now where he could potentially go to jail or be charged because of her.

      • December 4, 2015 - Reply

        @Beauty Is Diverse

        These dudes will do anything just to have a white girl but when they get that wake up call, then they wanna play victim. I cannot stand this. I know guys that happen to date white/other girls and it doesn’t really bother me. What bothers me is these men who put these women on a pedestal as if they’re better than black women when women like this chick will have your whole world effed up with one accusation!

  12. December 4, 2015 - Reply

    She didn’t think rappers would defend her – because they’re incapable of such compassion? I wonder what she meant by that.

    • December 4, 2015 - Reply

      @Pinks

      We know exactly what she meant, and it’s confirming her racism. Even though I have zero sympathy for this guy, he’s an assclown, I do believe him about her racism and false statements. But he still stayed with her so that reeks of self-hate.

      • December 4, 2015 - Reply

        @bluelight74

        Oh yea, my comment was totally sarcastic lol

    • December 10, 2015 - Reply

      @Pinks

      She meant that male chauvinism and misogyny is prevalent to varying degrees in a lot of facets of mainstream rap culture. Not in your Talib Kwalis or Kendrick Lamars or Childish Gambinos per se but it’s clear as day to see. Even a light-skinded, “nice”, “soft”, guy like Drake presumes to tell women with whom he’s not involved where he thinks they “belong” in a patronizing macho way. Just because she may be a dumb White woman doesn’t mean that a broke clock can’t be right twice a day.

  13. December 4, 2015 - Reply

    This negro thinks he’s blasting her by saying that she calls blacks the n-word, but how long did it take for him to leave after she said it?

    • December 4, 2015 - Reply

      @uhoh-ohno

      The first time she even said that word he should have left because I know if I was the one being called that, I would bounce. But I have common sense and won’t do anything just to hold on to a white person.

      • December 4, 2015 - Reply

        @yoda

        You know when a black man is with a white woman, it’s like he’s achieved the ultimate, so whatever she dishes out (her throwing racial slurs, her superiority complex, etc.) you better believe he’s gonna weather the storm, just because she’s white. I guess he has allot of self-hate issues going on.

  14. December 4, 2015 - Reply

    Both of them can kick rocks they both are trash.

  15. December 4, 2015 - Reply

    This story has many layers. First, no black person should be called a racial slur and no woman should be physically abused at any circumstance. The most important thing is the truth. The self hating black male’s book about white women tells me right there about what he’s about. He’s not about uplifting black people or defending victims of police brutality. He is about self aggrandizement, narcissism, and selfish individualism. He must of thought that having a white woman on his arm means that he has special privileges when in actuality, he doesn’t. He said that his ex-girlfriend called him the N word and disrespected Trayvon Martin. So, why did he immediately end the relationship after that? It can only be that he lusts after white women (in a fetish) and that’s evident on the title of his book. Also, the woman being a racist isn’t surprising. Many white people may date or sleep with black people, but many of them are racist to the core. This males’ self hating comments deserve no respect. This male (not man) ought to check himself. That self hating race traitor can somewhere else with his mess.

    • December 6, 2015 - Reply

      @truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

      There are many layers indeed Truth. He was a writer for Gawker and she is writer for Complex, which is another publication altogether. Apparently though many of the writers at Jezebel are her friends/mutual friends of them as a couple. It’s interesting to me though, that although in an altercation she talks about she admits to putting her hands on him and throwing a glass at him, but instead of the writers seeing this for the most likely mutually abusive situation that it is, they throw him under the bus. Its interesting because up until a couple weeks ago when they cut some of the gawker subblogs, they allowed someone who has been called racist and who was antagonizing poc commenters when they called him out on it, to write for their blog. And the reason that he was fired was not because of his actions but because of gawkers restructuring. There were at least 3 other incidences where writers were called out for their sexism and/racism and didn’t get fired until after months of acting out they completely went off the rails. The other thing that’s interesting is that apparently this dude is so cuckoo for whitey that this other white blogger wrote about how he used tried to pick her up and tried to manipulate her by saying she was racist because she didn’t want to get physical with him. Through her writing you can tell that she is definitely one of those racists/white feminists who thinks that they’re not racist because they daye black men, but he was clearly trying to manipulate her. It’s crazy because instead of him taking his thinly veiled diatribe about how horrible black women are to a black publication and with a mostly black audience, he took it to a white publication and audience and now that’s who is also not supporting him and turned on him. Black people, more specifically black women don’t even need to hear his hatred so I’m glad he did, but it’s always so interesting to me how coons take their complaints to white publications but most of the time when their complaining about racism and/or want support from us will then interview or write for a black audience. This dude and many others including black women who date excusively non black while denigrating black men, those women cooning for trump, the don lemons and other cooning entertainers are severely damaged and like someone else here said needs their melanin taken back. I am always fiercely a defendant of those who are in abusive relationships because its such a terrible cycle, but from her own words she said she also engaged in manipulative mentally and physically abusive behaviors, so not defending him in any way but they both deserve charges. And he specifically needs help, but he sounds very much like a classic narcissist and will probably never acknowledge that.

      • December 6, 2015 - Reply

        @Mico

        Excellent Points Sister.

        Also, Good Afternoon

        This story is disturbing. It represents the damage found among many in the human family. Both of them manipulated and abused each other in many deceitful ways. The female writer obviously wanted to promote the myth that since she is a white feminist, she has the right to talk about black people anyway that he wished. Also, the black writer felt that since he dated a white woman, he can spew lies about black women (which isn’t the case at all). There is a certain segment of our community who are sellouts, who denigrate black people (especially black women and the black poor) and lust for white acceptance. Don Lemon has been exposed including other people who want to promote the status quo instead of the eradication of the system of racism/white supremacy. Gawker and Complex try to appeal to the youth demographic. He sending an anti-black women diatribe to a white publication shows how cowardly and brainwashed that he is. He made a conscious decision to support the other side (that side being the racist, misogynistic side) and she made a conscious decision to mistreat others. Therefore, Karma comes into play when both of them are being called out on their nefarious behavior. The sellout go to the white publications since they want to be in league with white reactionaries and they abhor their natural point blackness. Certainly any black person (regardless of who they date) that denigrates black people in slanderous terms is a traitor and are damaged as you have mentioned. The black people supporting Donald Trump is disappointing to me. We will always oppose domestic abuse of any form. Likewise, we will always oppose racist rhetoric as well.

        • December 6, 2015 - Reply

          @truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

          Good afternoon to you as well. And like you said it is such a shame that so many of our people hate themselves and others that look like them. You raise many great points on what true love is based on. If all peoples no matter what their demographics are understood this, there would be much less hurt and pain in the world.

          • December 6, 2015 - Reply

            @Mico

            You’re correct Sister.

            We have a serious problem with many of our people who want nothing to do with their heritage and they hate their own identity. Hating one’s identity leads into many psychological and emotional problems as history attests. We know how evil pain is. Likewise, we are made on this Earth to bring some more love that the world desperate needs. Sacrifice is important along with compassion, so we realize how valuable human dignity, respect, and altruism are in world society. We love our black people as we are black and beautiful.

      • December 7, 2015 - Reply

        @Mico

        So they deserve each other.

        • December 7, 2015 - Reply

          @paintgurl40

          Yeah they do lol.

        • December 8, 2015 - Reply

          @paintgurl40

          Ditto Sister.

    • December 7, 2015 - Reply

      @truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

      “He said that his ex-girlfriend called him the N word and disrespected Trayvon Martin. So, why did he immediately end the relationship after that?”…..He was probably laughing right along with her. There’s no telling what HE said about black people and Trayvon Martin. He’s only talking about what she said.

      • December 7, 2015 - Reply

        @paintgurl40

        I believe you. Self hatred comes in many manifestations. He might have said disrespectful comments about black people that are extremely despicable to put it lightly. Also, his book is blatantly anti-black.

  16. December 4, 2015 - Reply

    Honestly, I am trying to care but just don’t…shrugs. Why does this need to be played out on social media? Social media isn’t a court room and if something shady is going down such as domestic violence, abuse or defamation then they need to call the proper authorities instead of going back and forth on social media trying to “win” people. I will say this though, I find it funny how she is the devil 2.0 after the fact but he didn’t have a problem with all of these red flags when he was with her same as her. This is truly the case of water seeking its own level so I am not going to lose my brain cells arguing for or against this situation let other people pick up the cape for them.

  17. December 4, 2015 - Reply

    Was she racist when he was all up in it? I was told a long time ago, a stiff d__k has no conscience. Guess it’s true.

    • December 4, 2015 - Reply

      @Joy Kaine

      My mom used to say that. LOL!!!

    • December 8, 2015 - Reply

      @Joy Kaine

      Laughing so hard, I fell off the chair!

  18. December 4, 2015 - Reply

    Sorry all out of *ucks to give today.

    • December 4, 2015 - Reply

      @MusikCityK

      i nearly died !!!and thats not good i need to get right w Jesus first lolol

  19. December 4, 2015 - Reply

    he tweeted ‘are you sure you want to support a woman who calls black people “nigger” when she’s angry? I tweeted Are you sure you want to DATE a woman who calls black people “nigger” when she’s angry. he needs to have several seats…in the back!

  20. December 4, 2015 - Reply

    “tweeting about the support she’s received from rappers, other men, and co-workers atComplex.”

    lmao…not surprised… and this is none of my business. I’m not going to gloat or act concerned. I wish him luck in his journey dating white and non black women. At least noone has to guess what his preference is!

  21. December 4, 2015 - Reply

    me—> sipping tea like kermit.

  22. December 5, 2015 - Reply

    They deserve each other.

  23. December 5, 2015 - Reply

    a) these beta men are idiots
    b) don’t come crying back to BW now dissing white women
    c) again, these beta men are idiots.

    • December 5, 2015 - Reply

      @Interested

      He wont. He’s proudly boasting of the new white ‘wifey’ who’s pregnant now.

  24. December 5, 2015 - Reply

    Black men have the highest rates of domestic violence in America so… I believe her.

    Hope he gets what is coming to him.

    • December 5, 2015 - Reply

      @Lisa292

      Source?

      • December 5, 2015 - Reply

        @Me

        Can’t post links but you can Google it; you’ll find statistics from the American Bar Association and an article from Time magazine. Black women are also the biggest victims of femicide in America. Murder by a black man is the #1 killer of black females 15-24. For other racial groups it’s car accidents.

        • December 5, 2015 - Reply

          @Lisa292

          I’ve read the ABA report on DV and it doesn’t give any stats on assailants. It only presents info about the victim’s races. BW may be victimized more as a percentage, but I don’t see anything that states BM attack more than other races. I haven’t seen the murder stat you quoted though. If you can let me know the article title, I’d be interested to read up on that.

          • December 6, 2015 - Reply

            @Me

            93% of homicides are intraracial. Over 90% of all crime is intraracial owing to the fact of racial segregation and demographics. Most victims of EVERY race are attacked most often by someone of their own race. The July 2003 edition of the American Journal of Public Health published a massive study citing 18 experts and concluded that femicide is the leading cause of death for black American women 15 to 45 years old. In addition, white women married to black men in America have a femicide rate that is a 12.4 times higher than white women married to white men.

            • December 6, 2015 - Reply

              @Lisa292

              Thanks. I’ll look into this study.

  25. December 5, 2015 - Reply

    #TeamNoOne

    I don’t have the time nor the inclination to help out an ashy motherfucker nor do I have the time or inclination to worry about the well being of some racist White Feminist (TM)

    Both of them needs to be on a rocket to the sun.

    • December 6, 2015 - Reply

      @Reina Benoir

      Lol @ a rocket to the sun,

  26. December 5, 2015 - Reply

    She can still get it though.

    • December 8, 2015 - Reply

      @Zorino

      Take yourself and your bad taste and low standards elsewhere.

      • December 8, 2015 - Reply

        @Staci Elle

        Exactly.

        As for me, I respect chocolate.

        • December 8, 2015 - Reply

          @truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

          Agreed!

  27. December 6, 2015 - Reply

    I’ve started to lump these type of black guys in with the white population. So my response is, who cares, this is a white folks issue. Next….

    • December 8, 2015 - Reply

      @CeeCee

      you know i think i will start doing the same

  28. December 6, 2015 - Reply

    DON’T CARE!!! He supported his career by dismissing, belittling and degrading Black women in support for his White Queens. So don’t do that and then want the Sistahood to rally behind you when you BLATANTLY said Black women were unattractive and not as PERFECT as white women. Get those white women, that you were gassing up, to do it for you. I DON’T CARE!! I hope they RUIN him & his whole LIFE! Now before ppl call me “Bitter” let me hip you to something. When a Black man chooses a white woman that says ONE thing. But when he chooses a white woman AND takes a dump on sista that says something even greater. I don’t care about his existence. G’bye!

  29. December 6, 2015 - Reply

    they both need help, neither are to be followed and he gets what he deserves.

  30. December 7, 2015 - Reply

    I can say from first hand experience that caucasoid women will lie, are somewhat boring, and are generally stuck up. That said, I’m not really attracted to a majority of negroid women either – many of whom are incredibly stupid, and with bad attitudes to match. Both groups of women aren’t so appealing these days, but for completely different reasons.

    • December 7, 2015 - Reply

      @Limit CSXi™

      boring is in dian and Chinese wome they have no personalities are not independent at all and who wants to me mingled with their families!

    • December 8, 2015 - Reply

      @Limit CSXi™

      I’m not attracted to the majority of negroid men. Many of the them (not all), have bad credit, are lazy, gay or DL, too many baby mamas, in jail, just got out of jail and no college degree. Definitely not appealing.

      • December 8, 2015 - Reply

        @Sassygirl

        boom! LOL!

    • December 8, 2015 - Reply

      @Limit CSXi™

      U mad cause some Black woman gave you you that bootleg Toni Braxton cut or nah?

      • December 9, 2015 - Reply

        @Staci Elle

        Yes, I’m “mad” because I gave myself a haircut resembling someone named Tony Braxton. On the flip side of my apparent, uncontrollable rage, you’ve just carried your weight in confirming at least one of my points.

        • December 9, 2015 - Reply

          @Limit CSXi™

          You gave yourself that monstrosity? 😀 good to know, besides that your comment makes 0 sense.

        • December 10, 2015 - Reply

          @Limit CSXi™

          “you’ve just carried your weight in confirming at least one of my points.”

          She didn’t confirm anything you came here looking for trouble with your bigoted generalizations.

          • December 11, 2015 - Reply

            @sh0ndi

            Yes, because you know what I came here for.

  31. December 8, 2015 - Reply

    HA HA HA YOU SILLY LITTLE NEGRO, Tisk tisk you thought the grass was greener perhaps? lol All the things he is saying about this women he knew while with her, so BOY BYE.

  32. December 8, 2015 - Reply

    He better call his mommy if he’s looking for a BW who cares about this coon ass. Or better yet one of the Becky’s he loves so much.

  33. December 9, 2015 - Reply

    I read his whole Gawker article and he’s a joke. he basically owned up to being “fascinated” by white women and putting them up on a pedestal. so…you got your wish, you got your “magical white woman”. now… when she’s trying to put your ass under the jail and crying victim…you want to appeal for sympathy? BOY BYE. I’m sure he would love nothing more than to have sisters supporting him and shedding tears on his behalf…not interested. If you did it…sorry, you’re going to jail. the system does not take kindly to black men beating up white women. if you didn’t do it…welp…maybe your magical white woman wasn’t so magical after all.

  34. December 9, 2015 - Reply

    The fact that you wanted to have a life with a black man means you ARE a dumb white bitch. Rule #1: Never touch a dick that’s darker than you.

  35. December 18, 2015 - Reply

    I believe Baker based solely on my interracial relationships and their relatives, but I in no way endorse violence except in the case of self-defense. When you become an “exception to the rule” in any white circle, white people get really comfortable with their words as though you are one of them. They start off slow so as to test the water and overtime the N-bomb and other racial comments are dropped and usually but not always from a place of anger or frustration. I get that people are racist and prejudice but I’d rather people be open about it all the time so that I know who and who not to deal with. Quiet, disguised, or convenient racism is too complicated to deal with, and cowardly. My best friend, who is white, flat out told me when we first met that he doesn’t like black people for X, Y, and Z. At first I was offended for the obvious reason and also this practice of racial exceptionalism, but I realized overtime that he is the most genuine and honorable person of any color -even my own-that I’ve ever known. We trust our individual lives to one another in spite of a collective divide that exists between our races.

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