Yesha Callahan

A Little Girl Couldn’t Attend a Classmate’s Birthday Party Because She’s Black

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10-year-old Harmony Jones was looking forward to having her classmates attend her birthday party. But Harmony’s family was shocked when they received a letter from one classmate and the reason why she couldn’t attend. Harmony attends Highland Oaks Elementary in Memphis, Tenn. and her father Christopher thought the school was one that embraced cultural differences.

“This is my daughter’s first time going to that particular school,” said Christopher Jones, Sr. “They strike up a friendship. So what would seem to be an innocent friendship, never thought anything like this would happen.”


“It was a picture of a letter, handwritten letter from a child,” Jones said. “Said something along the lines of, you know I can’t come to your party cause my father won’t let me cause I’m black. You would think in the 21st Century people would be judged strictly on their character or their personality, not on the color of their skin.”

Jones said Harmony was sad when she received the letter, but eventually she got over it. Asked if he had anything to say to the father of the child, he stated, “I would have to display the love that I’m trying to teach my daughter,” Jones said. “I would have a talk with him. I would. If we could iron out our differences, great! If not, God bless, the man.”

FOX13 News, WHBQ FOX 13

  1. March 18, 2015 - Reply

    That’s heartbreaking to me.

  2. March 18, 2015 - Reply

    They could have kept that letter to themselves and simply said that the child could not make it. But nope that wasn’t well enough. They had to put the little black girl down and assert their misguided and false superiority by making sure she knew it was because she was black. A sure sign of a person grasping at anything they can to feel better about their miserable life. The need to put others down unnecessarily.

    • March 18, 2015 - Reply


      Yep, is mental and psychological warfare….I promise, these folks come at us early in life. It’s a gradual attempt to wear down your spirit and your resolve.

      • March 23, 2015 - Reply


        I completely agree when I was in the 5th grade a white boy told me he couldn’t tell me I was pretty because I was a Black girl… I got over it but it is still something I remember to this day vividly. I’m glad the little girl got over it but it will be something she never forgets… It’s hella messed up that we have to deal with this… are still dealing with this 🙁

        That comment was made to me during a self esteem class!

  3. March 18, 2015 - Reply

    “I would have to display the love that I’m trying to teach my daughter,” Jones said. “I would have a talk with him. I would. If we could iron out our differences, great! If not, God bless, the man.”

    I am simply a man out of my time because I can’t understand that mentality. I would have no desire or interest in talking to or dealing with the other parents or father at all.

    I have a saying that I live by when it comes to my girls, daughters and wife. Everybody or anybody will go under the bus when it comes to them. I will without
    hesitation drop your as* under that bus if you have negative will or intentions
    toward them.

    Fearce protection and support for my girls more important than attempting to show love to someone who dislikes you and thinks less of you.

    • March 18, 2015 - Reply


      I agree with you, Brad. He should not try to hash this out. Anyone bold enough to tell their daughter that and to allow her to write that note is also bold enough to lie on the birthday girl’s father. The birthday girl’s father needs to leave this alone before they lie and say that he confronted the other girl’s father. The other family apparently wants to ingrain in their young daughter that she is superior based on the color of her skin, and that being around Black people will taint the perfection that she is.

      I say steer clear of the other family, and watch your daughter.

    • March 19, 2015 - Reply


      To be honest, I’m all for people keeping it real. However this was rude and over the top. It reminds me of that story last year that a woman told a child that he was too fat to get Halloween candy. You don’t like my black kid? That’s fine. Stay your ass over there and my daughter will stay over here. I would also tell my daughter not to talk to that girl anymore. I’m not gonna beg white people to like or accept me and neither should she.

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  4. March 18, 2015 - Reply

    This story is a perfect example of the “olive branch” scenario from the Common post on yesterday. The family invited the girl to the birthday party, and then she gets this note. It seems as if the little girl knows that something is wrong, so she felt compelled to write a letter.

    The birthday girl’s father is going to try to extend the olive branch, but I think he should leave this alone. He may want to watch his daughter more closely, also. This is some deep seated foolishness, and the other family sounds like a group of trouble makers.

  5. March 18, 2015 - Reply

    I came up when school,integration was new, and open racism was more common than it is today. The way to handle this is to tell the child that it is a simple fact that millions of people will hate you simply because you are black. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you, and you do not need friendships with racists. Learning to hold your head up when confronted with racism is crucial in this world.

  6. March 18, 2015 - Reply

    I looked at his Facebook as I would if it were my child wanting to go with another’s family to a birthday party. And I wouldn’t let my kids go either. Anyone with posts claiming to be a n!**@ my kid can hang out with all the black people in the world. But I don’t want my kids thinking that’s ok. That’s a hard side of black culture they need to understand is not ok. An it perpetuates the stereotypes of our race as a whole. I’d have sent a letter with the real term. Posts of people shot and killed sounds like a great birthday party to send my kid to. No thanks I don’t want you hanging around people who will fall victim to a negative environment sorry kid. It shouldn’t be put on the child but the perception of the parents is how most people deem whether or not to let there children go there. I judged his character like he asked and deemed his character to be of ill nature On the individual level

  7. March 19, 2015 - Reply

    The last paragraph isn’t exactly what is said in the video. The paragraph here says: “Asked if he had anything to say to the father of the child”, but in the video the news crew asked him “but what if there was a change of heart and you come face-to-face with the child’s father?” Then he proceeds to say “I would have a talk with him. I would. If we could iron out our differences, great! If not, God bless, the man.” The man never said he had any words for the racist father, it clear this is what he would have done if the racist father came to his house. Just wanted to point that out.

  8. March 19, 2015 - Reply

    This story is very heartbreaking. Harmony Jones is loved by her father and her family. The racist father has no respect from me. The racist is such a coward that he uses his own child to right such a note. That is such a despicable, offensive thing to do. The racist man has shown mental poison to his own relatives and that is very serious injustice. Christopher Jones Sr. and Harmony Jones have great love. Some people misinterpret what love is. Some people view love as blind acceptance of evil and blind toleration of injustice. That is not love. That is submitting to evil. What is love? Love is the expression of goodwill in the midst of bigotry. Love is
    standing up for what is right despite the odds and despite adversity. Love is also about having the courage to defend the dignity of black child when they are being disrespected by a coward white racist adult. That’s love. There can be no peace without justice and there can be no justice without peace. We want a better world and to get it we have to confront and defeat evil straight up without equivocation. Harmony Jones and her family need solidarity and great respect.

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