Yesha Callahan

Internet Predators

I’m sure everyone has seen Chris Matthew’s Dateline series, To Catch A Predator. There’s always some dumb pedophile being caught with his pants down (literally) while they’ve been trying to solicit sex from minors via the internet. It never ceases to amaze me, that after the airing of these shows, there are men/women out there who insist on trolling the internet to lure young boys & girls.
Last night I was speaking with a friend who is no stranger to online dating. We were discussing how she’s noticed the same men on just about every dating site there could possibly be. The same men are on, Yahoo Personals, E-Harmony (those commercials crack me up), Black People Meet, BlackPlanet and even Adult Friend Finder.
These men are the new version of “INTERNET PREDATORS”.
Half of them aren’t even original with the information they place on these sites, what you’ll notice is that everything is just copied & pasted from one profile to another. They’ve definitely given up on the concept of originality.
The first question she told me she usually asks a guy, is if they’ve met anyone offline before. Now, you’d think one would tell the truth about that question. Right. Wrong. For the most part, the same men she’s seen on other sites, are the ones who always claim that they’ve never met anyone from an online dating site. I truly find that hard to believe. If you’re on several sites at one time, what’s the point in being on them if you’re not meeting women?
Even when I caught my own ex on Adult Friend Finder and even read the emails that he was sending women, when I asked him the who/what/when/where/why’s…he immediately denied any wrong doing. Even after I discovered his profile and set up a dummy profile to bust him, we were literally in two different rooms in his house corresponding with each other via the dummy profile, he set up a meeting/date time, he even showed up to meet this ‘dummy’ profile person; when I confronted him, he denied any wrong doing still.
Personally, I think some men are addicted to internet dating only because it takes little to no effort. A man will send a woman an email, she responds, you exchange phone numbers and possibly hook-up with in a matter of days…and if they’re copying & pasting the same email to more than one women, that’s just about every day of the week covered with women.
But of course, the lie they’ll always use is, “No, I’ve never met anyone from the internet”.


  1. May 21, 2008 - Reply

    Yeah, you would think people would be smarter when it comes to the NET but then again some people take the “NET” very seriously, they believe every and anything a person types, as if they actually know these people. I had someone tell me “They had a crush on me”…How are you gonna have a crush on someone you’ve never seen based soley upon words alone? I told him “Don’t worry, I crush all crushes in time”.

    (Good blog)

    PS: LOL at you setting up a dummy profile (did you actually show up at the meeting place) or did you just bust him out at home?? In the words of Shaggy “It wasn’t me” *snickering*

  2. May 21, 2008 - Reply

    Ooof! You hit the nail right on the head with this one! I’m trying the whole personals thing on the ‘net….

  3. May 22, 2008 - Reply

    iculurking: sometimes people are given wayyy too much credit in the ‘being smart’ area…

    Girl…I had someone else meet him there and hand him a note that said, “Game Over”.

    diosanegra1967: I’m sure you’ll notice the same exact thing once you start seeing familiar faces on those sites! Good Luck!

  4. May 31, 2008 - Reply

    I am tripping the ex was still going to lie after getting caught.

    It is really crazy to me that people do that.

    In terms of dating online, it seems that some guys do feel it is little or no effort. I have an ex who LIVES online and all his girlfriends come from online and live far, far away. I think he is just scared of real commitment, which is why he loves and chooses long distance relationships.

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