Yesha Callahan

If You’re Having Black Girl Problems I Feel Bad For You Son I Got 99 Problems But a Black Man Ain’t One


“I stopped dating yall black women because_________________”, says random angry black men across the country.

Feel free to fill in the blank with whatever bullshit excuse you’ve heard. I’m sure, if you’re a black woman reading this post, you’ve heard a couple of them.

I could give a damn about a who person chooses to be in a relationship with, whether you’re Black, Hispanic, Asian or White. Hell, I’ve dated men all across ethnicity lines. BUT, what you’ll never hear me say is some bullshit like, “I stopped dating yall black men because____________________”.

I’m not going to negate my own race, to make up excuses as to why I’m dating another race. If I’m going to date a white man, it’s going to be because he’s someone who I find attractive and intellectually stimulating, which happens to apply to ANY man I date, regardless of his race.

I’ve heard from several black men that black women are overbearing, argumentative, have nasty attitudes, are crazy, don’t do for their men, are too aggressive, etc..etc..etc. So basically, you’re trying to tell me that White, Asian & Hispanic women aren’t? Maybe someone should have told Tiger Woods that before he married the Swedish nanny and got a nine iron upside his head.

I’m so sick of the ignorance that so many black men carry around with them. Don’t think that when you get caught out there cheating by your White girlfriend/wife, that she won’t ‘black out’ on you. Don’t think that your Asian girlfriend, will just stand by and let you walk all over her and be your little subservient wife.  Don’t think that a Latina, won’t bust the windows out your car or slash your tires. Some black men need to realize, anger is fucking universal.

So angry black men of America, take a lesson from Tiger, don’t sleep on the white chicks, or you to will end up with your Escalade wrapped around a fire hydrant.

  1. December 9, 2009 - Reply

    Well this is brilliant. I'm going to need you to blow up billboard size and travel it around the country. Please and Thanks!

  2. December 9, 2009 - Reply

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    <slow clap>

  3. December 9, 2009 - Reply

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  5. December 9, 2009 - Reply

    Beautifully said.

  6. December 9, 2009 - Reply

    I know Black women who say that they are totally through with Black men & are running to the white meat, so I think this argument can go either way.

    As for myself, in the words of AMG “Aint nothing like black pussy on my dick.” Keep Black love & hope of it alive.

  7. December 9, 2009 - Reply

    You are definitely right about that! Some black women say the same thing..but it's def. something I'd never say. I don't care how many times I've been 'wronged' by black men…I'll never put them down as a whole. As a mother of a young black boy, I would never have him feel or hear me say such disparaging things.

    But just as those black women, who choose to ONLY date white men, they to will learn eventually assholes are universal.

  8. December 9, 2009 - Reply

    Girl, if only I had the time! I think the only way to get attention is to fly a banner over a football

  9. December 9, 2009 - Reply

    Well fuck what you talkin 'bout… I stopped dating black women because I'm married to one. lol

  10. December 9, 2009 - Reply

    This like a topic that will always be debated back in forth. I, like you, agree with you. If you like someone, you should like them regardless of their race. If you are openly seeking a specific race to date, IMO, you are closing yourself from other groups that you could possibly have something deep with. It's stupid and dumb but I am willing to bet it will continue to be done so I just sigh and keep it moving.

    There's a fool born every minute.

  11. December 9, 2009 - Reply

    Let the church say AMEN!!! That was brilliant, simply put and to the damn point! I'll probably get written up after I circulate this in my office! Oh well, a girls gotta do, what a girls gotta do!

  12. December 10, 2009 - Reply

    Word… this post was so on point! Especially the part where you write *ahem* “Don’t think that when you get caught out there cheating by your White girlfriend/wife, that she won’t ‘black out’ on you”
    Because you better believed she will Black You OUt!! At my prep school whenever I saw one of our star basketball players dating a non-black girl it would irritate me because much like you said they would reason that black girls are too rowdy and make everything difficult… oh but when that black bball player and his white girlfriend get caught having sex on campus… she cries “rape” or black him out and he's the one expelled… then the bball player turns to us (his people) wanting us to get angry and rally behind him because of the injustice.. happened 3 times the 4 years I went there!! The 3rd time I didn't even flinch I muscle when I heard I was just like C'mon son.. really tho!

  13. December 10, 2009 - Reply

    I'm dying over here!

  14. December 10, 2009 - Reply

    one of these days you're going to start taking my commenting section seriously! LOL

  15. December 10, 2009 - Reply

    you'd think if enough people would beat the damn horse dead, these views would die already..but they don't…the more things change, the more they stay the same.

  16. December 10, 2009 - Reply

    just don't blame me if you get fired for internet abuse @

  17. December 10, 2009 - Reply

    i'm sure you have tons of prep school stories like that! get to writing! lol

  18. December 10, 2009 - Reply

    thanks 🙂

  19. December 10, 2009 - Reply

    Heh heh heh

  20. December 10, 2009 - Reply

    I don't date outside of my race and won't even look in the direction of a black man w/a white woman. It just isn't for me. I'm all for the brothas, will all their faults & flaws.

  21. December 11, 2009 - Reply

    It needs to be said!! I laughed 🙂

    Yes indeed. Anger is universal!

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  22. December 11, 2009 - Reply

    These black men that have their sh!tload of issues with black women just need therapy! It's one thing to date women of other races because that's what you like, but it's another thing to date them just because you don't want to date black women. Get over yourself dude, a black woman probably doesn't want your @ss anyway!

  23. December 12, 2009 - Reply

    I do get tired of people bashing folks (relationship or otherwise) based on race… Why don't folks realize that emotions, decency, anger, etc. transcend race and gender, it is so juvenile to think otherwise. sigh…

  24. January 3, 2010 - Reply

    I'm tired of all this nonsense too!

    I can get in! Whoo hoo! Let me skidaddle, I have posts to read :-)!

  25. January 4, 2010 - Reply

    I'm tired of all this nonsense too!

    I can get in! Whoo hoo! Let me skidaddle, I have posts to read :-)!

  26. January 13, 2010 - Reply

    No group can be standardized, this topic goes sooooo deep

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