Yesha Callahan

If You Can’t Take An Opinion Stop Reading My Blog


Let me take you back to 1998.

In 1998, you were able to freely express your opinion and distaste about any subject. Whether it was music, politics or fashion, if you wanted to express your opinion freely, and it possibly went againt popular opinion, that was fine. It was called having an opinion, and freely expressing it.

Back then, if I didn’t like a subject Oprah talked about on her show, it was ok for me to say that I didn’t like it, and to say why I didn’t like it. If I didn’t like a popular artist being played on the radio, fine, I could say that and be done with it. No big deal. If I didn’t like a tv show that everyone was raving about, that was my opinion. Everything isn’t for everybody, right?

Here we are, inching towards the end of 2009, and for the past couple of years, if you DARE express distaste in anything, if you DARE express your opinion that seems to go against the grain, if you DARE state that you don’t actually like something, it’s not called having a fucking opinion any more, it’s called “HATING”.

Where the fuck is my DeLorean, take me back to 1998, where I can freely express my own opinion without having  the “You’re A Hatermongers” jump down my throat.  For the record, the definition of a monger is:

(noun) a person who is involved with something in a petty or contemptible way (usually used in combination): ex. a gossipmonger.

The “You’re A Hatermongers” are those people who just can’t take any opinion that is in distinct contrast to theirs, which I consider quite petty, because what kind of world would it be, if everyone shared the same opinion?

God forbid you don’t think Beyonce isn’t the second coming, or that Jay-Z isn’t the greatest of all time, or that Tyler Perry isn’t the greatest damn filmaker of all time, or that Oprah isn’t god, or that Kim Kardashian isn’t nothing but a white chick with a fat ass who likes black peen, or red Kool-Aid doesn’t taste as good as the purple Kool-Aid, the “You’re A Hater Mongers” are ready to jump down your throat and label you a hater.

Seriously, back in 1998, what were people being called then? Oh yeah, just people with opinions.

If I wanted to share my opinion as to why the 280 lb woman I saw the other day on the beach in a bikini, really shouldn’t have on a bikini, that’s my right to say so. I’m not hating on her ass (pun intended).

If I don’t think Tyler Perry is nothing but a man in drag, who makes horrible movies, then that’s my opinion, and shit, this is my blog and I’ll state that 10,000 times if I wanted to.

Damn you, Emitt Tyler Perry. I’m convinced you have negroes on your payroll around the world to write in your honor and comment every time someone talks bad about you or expresses their disdain with you. Which brings me to an email I received last week while I was on vacation, and I quote:

Dear Fungke Blak Chik:

Why are you so jealous of Tyler Perry?  Why are you hating on him? Is it because he has more money than you? Is it because he’s more famous than you? Tyler Perry’s movies are ground breaking and great for the black community. It’s a shame people like you are always hating on other successful people. Get a life.


Allow me one second as I laugh again at this email.

When I read this email, I couldn’t help but to laugh, but then I actually felt sorry for the person who wrote it. I felt sorry that they had so much time on their hands and cared so much about Tyler Perry that they felt the need to write me about him, because they feel that I’m jealous of him.

Clearly they must have mistaken me for someone who gave a damn.  Clearly they thought that I wouldn’t laugh at their drivel and possibly write about it. Clearly they think that their email would reform me and make me a Tyler Perry fan. Tsk. Tsk. Tsk. All it did was provide me with comedy relief for the day. So I thank, “Anonymous” for that. It’s really hard for anyone to make me laugh, and bring me to tears, but you accomplished that in a few short sentences.

Don’t even let me begin to talk about people who are always thinking someone is personally hating on them. Bitch please, ain’t nobody hating on you (had to throw that double negative ebonics in there). Recently I saw someone’s bio on twitter, “Making my haterz, my motivaterz”. First of all, obviously you’re not hooked on phonics. I didn’t know whether to laugh or feel sorry for them. If the only thing in life motivating you, are the supposed people ‘hating’ on you, I think you might be suffering from delusions of grandeur, and you may want to rethink your  purpose in life. I mean, what if there are truly people out there who couldn’t give a rats ass about you? Here you are walking around thinking people are ‘hating’ on you. What’s truly your motivation then? I just don’t get it.

Anyways, I digress.

That’s my OPINION and I’m sticking to it. Feel free to flood my inbox with ‘hate’ mail (LOL)!

  1. August 10, 2009 - Reply


    I'll admit, I LOVE Tyler Perry. I think he's a funny dude and I'm proud of him..but DAMN!!! There is a difference between a Fan and a STAN. Those who are so quick to throw the “Hater” label are those who are STANS. Just say some bad shit about Beyonce on Twitter and it's CURTAINS (and I think the Heffa can sang her ass off).

    But fuck em'. Keep doin' you and don't worry about em'.

  2. August 10, 2009 - Reply

    Tyler Perry movies are exaggerated with a man running around in a moo moo…not entertaining or funny at all. Obama is a socialist and he is going to ruin us with free health care. Do you think people on medicaid, medicare and the military enjoy the gov't running their health coverage? Beyonce is a high paid over sexed stripper, Jay Z looks like a camel and is not even that talented, this negro sucked his way to the top. Rihanna is a non talented hoe, that slob just enough knobs to get where she is today. Kanye West is a homo. Oprah is a slob that is obsessed with over eating and thinks her shit don't stink. Kim Kardashian is a high priced high fashion hoe. Now call me a hater.

  3. August 10, 2009 - Reply

    Aww sis looks like you've hit the big time with the hateration mail. LOL. I really think people shouldn't get so huffy about someone else's opinion. I mean, if we all agreed with one another, it would be a very boring world. Keep doing what you do and pay the naysayers no mind. Hate is the new LOVE :o)

  4. August 10, 2009 - Reply

    Lmao you're so right. && I don't get the hype over Tyler Perry either. I mean his movies are good but they are not GREAT. i was very dissapointed with “Madea Goes to Jail”. && anyone who is honest will admit that he is more interested in making money then producing quality films. i took a film class && my teacher was explaining how he makes so much money. most movies take months and even years to make and tyler perry shoots his in like 18 days i believe (i think the number was less) and he uses very limited locations (notice the driving scenes w/ the fake backgrounds). if you notice most of his movies will be spent in one place. also its pretty much the same predictable line of events every time. He's good but he can do better.

  5. August 10, 2009 - Reply

    Tyler Perry's plots and dialogue are so predictable and as far as his Madea series of movies go, they are total joke . It reminds me alot like the Ernest movies franchise where Ernest was involved in unorthodoxed situations and adventures. If Tyler Perry wants better movies made, he has to come up with better dialogue, touch on themes rarely discussed in the black community, and etc.

    Hell, the main reason why hate Perry's movies because like all other black movie directors and producers, they limit themselves to the same old genres of comedy and drama and their movies themes are always based on stereotypes and issues in our community. How about some more black sci-fi, horror, and action flicks that take a break from these cliched black cultual themes used in their movies? !!! Exaggerated stereotypes are what his movies are.

  6. August 10, 2009 - Reply

    I love my FBC. LMAO

    Man, I am so tired of that. I said something the other day about how fat chicks need to keep their rolls on lock (being in the “club” and all I thought that gave me a free pass), but clearly I was “hating on their confidence”…no, I'm hating to have to look at all that jelly and jam and cottage cheese. LMAO

    *ahem* I digress…basically, you hit the nail on the head. Opinion is opinion. No amount of guilt-tripping me into feeling like a hater is going to censor my thoughts. And you're right…if haters motivate you…instead of the desire to succeed? Then your purpose is baseless and chances are you won't get far on those fumes.

  7. August 10, 2009 - Reply

    “hating on their confidence”

    Well, add me to the damn list, then…and I'm a BBW LOVER.

  8. August 10, 2009 - Reply

    *hi-fivin you* 😉

  9. August 10, 2009 - Reply

    I've never understood this…I thought that as an American I (now) have the right to say whatever I want (except wishing ill to the President and riot-inciting speech, like FIRE in a crowded room). When I lose that right?

  10. August 10, 2009 - Reply

    See you can admit you LOVE Tyler, and I'm fine with I said to each his own, now..will I call you a STAN or FAN..Nope..Not at all.

  11. August 10, 2009 - Reply

    exaggerated is an understatement.
    LMAO @ “kanye west is a homo”
    OMG OPRAH!?!?

  12. August 10, 2009 - Reply

    I never get huffy about someone's opinion..I fully believe in 'we can agree to disagree' and move the subjects right along.

  13. August 10, 2009 - Reply

    i'd like to meet the person who started all of this 'hater' business.
    Diddy? Nas? Who had that song ” you can hate me now”? I blame both of them lol

  14. August 10, 2009 - Reply

    Sabrina, dont' go starting any riots! You'll end up in jail. There's no twitter in

  15. August 10, 2009 - Reply

    Damn! Then I guess I'll keep my mouth shut…………..FIRE!!!!!

  16. August 10, 2009 - Reply

    Yep, blame Nas and P Siddity. LOL

  17. August 11, 2009 - Reply

    *high fiving the both of you in my Spanx*

    Hey, I just like to be tucked in err now and then…

  18. August 11, 2009 - Reply

    I hate the word “hater.” Does that make me a hater hater? If so… guilty! I've always wanted to know the origin of the hater movement, and I've come down to this scenario:

    Some flamboyantly dressed kid (ahead of his time methinks) comes to the schoolyard with his vans, skinny jeans and neon hoodie. Other kids proceed to make fun of him. Kid is flustered because he really thought he was fly, and can only stutter out, “Shut up, you… you… HATERS!!!”

    And that's how the movement was born.
    *vogues out this bish*

  19. August 11, 2009 - Reply

    I don't think that makes you a hater, just a person with common sense…
    I am in tears reading your chronicles of the term 'hater'…I'm imagining Kanye playing the lead role of the boy in skinny jeans &

  20. August 11, 2009 - Reply

    Methinks you have a point… you couldn't have told Young Kanyizzle he wasn't fly. First, he would've told his mama. Next, he would've wrote a song about you. Then, he would've captured everyone with an infectious beat and chorus, and you wouldn't have had any friends. Children are so cruel.

  21. August 11, 2009 - Reply

    Ooooooh girl, I can't stand the hater accusers… The only thing I consider hating is when you are just saying something untrue just to hurt someone's feelings, malicious speech… otherwise I'm with you it is simply an opinion…

  22. August 11, 2009 - Reply

    The problem lies in people confusing “hate” with “criticism”. The term “hate” should go the way of “swag”.

    With that said I like to shout out the first hater. The kid from “The Emperor's New Clothes” who pointed out that the emperor was naked.

  23. August 11, 2009 - Reply

    LOL @ Beez…I hear THAT. I come from the school that you have to have some “foundation” on to smooth them lumps and unwanted bumps. I'd be hemmed up during church hours. LOL

  24. August 12, 2009 - Reply

    Hahahahaha! Get it girl! We can always agree to disagree and respect it… you have your opinions and I have mines, but that in no way means that we cannot respect it or deem the other a “hater”

    You get two snaps for this one!!!

  25. August 12, 2009 - Reply

    Tell it girl, tell it. What bothers me most is that the word 'hater' is just plain lazy. Instead of analyzing your opinion and arguing with you, telling you why youre wrong point by point, the morons just say 'hater!' as if finger wagging is a substitute for debate. Its kind of sad really.

  26. August 13, 2009 - Reply

    LOL @ the lazy 'hater' user. The point of blogging is for someone to get their own point of view out there, and discuss it with others.

    So u need a “No Igorant People Allowed” sign and ur good.

  27. August 14, 2009 - Reply

    You need a Hug! Ok, here it is! HUGGGGGGGGGGGGG! MUWAAAAH!
    I threw that in just cause I could!
    Spouting our opinion is the only reason to have a blog! Very few make money with it! Plus it give me an excuse to talk about what I want to and say I have a blog!
    Stop by. I miss you!

  28. August 15, 2009 - Reply

    And the BBWs love you too!


  29. August 15, 2009 - Reply

    I cant believe Anon actually said Perrys movies were “ground breaking”! HA!


  30. August 15, 2009 - Reply

    Good effin post! I haven't gotten any haterific emails, but I'm definitely with you on this one. You can't even disagree with people nowadays without being a hater. But yeah, stop hatin

  31. August 15, 2009 - Reply

    Good effin post! I haven't gotten any haterific emails, but I'm definitely with you on this one. You can't even disagree with people nowadays without being a hater. But yeah, stop hatin

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