For the record, I hate the song “Hi Hater”. I find it to be one of the most annoying songs being played on the radio and I swear 93.9 WKYS plays it every two hours.
But with that said, it never ceases to amaze me how people try to cut other people down, especially in a working/professional environment. I’m the type of person who goes to work (well most people who know me say I’m barely there), I do my job and I basically keep to myself and mind my business. Typically the only people I interact with is my assistant and my boss, I keep other interactions with my coworkers to a cordial ‘hi’ and ‘goodbye’.
In my line of work, I work with projected forecasts and making and/or exceeding those forecasts through out the year. For the past few months, because of health and family issues, being in the office was not a priority for me. Most of the time I telecommuted and worked from home. Certain people in my office felt it was there business to wonder why I wasn’t around much, but that was between my boss & I.
Recently during a staff meeting, which I was absent from, my boss went over our forecast results. In shocking news to my coworkers, but not to me, he informed them that I was the only one to meet the forecast and even exceeded it. My assistant, who was attending the meeting in my absence, could only smile but there was no smiling on my other coworkers faces.
After that day, I thought I was working with icebergs instead of humans, because the cold shoulders became even more frigid. What they fail to realize is that it truly strokes my ego even more to receive so much ‘hateration’. My assistant, who is a lot older than me, brought in the “Hi Hater” song, and now often plays it in her office. Like I told people when I started there. I’m there to do two things, do my job and to do it extremely well.
Have you come across “haters” at the workplace? How did you handle them?
Below is a piece Maya Angelou wrote about “haters”.
A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends all their time, trying to make you look small so they can look tall.
They are very negative people to say the least. Nothing is ever good enough!
When you make your mark, you will always attract some haters…That’s why you have to be careful with whom you share your blessings and your dreams, because some folk can’t handle seeing you blessed…It’s dangerous to be like somebody else…
If God wanted you to be like somebody else, He would have given you what he gave them! Right? You never know what people have gone through to get what they have…
The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but they don’t know my story… If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, you can rest assured that the water bill is higher there too!
We’ve all got some haters among us! People envy you because you can:
Have a relationship with God!
Light up a room when you walk in!
Start your own business!
Tell a man / woman to hit the curb (if he / she isn’t about the right thing)!
Raise your children without both parents being in the home!
Haters can’t stand to see you happy; Haters will never want to see you succeed; Haters never want you to get the victory, most of our haters are people who are supposed to be on our side?
How do you handle your undercover haters?
You can handle these haters by:
1. Knowing who you are & who your true friends are *(VERY IMPORTANT!!)
2. Having a purpose to your life? Purpose does not mean having a job. You can have a job and still be unfulfilled.
A purpose is having a clear sense of what God has called you to be. Your purpose is not defined by what others think about you.
3. By remembering what you have is by divine prerogative and not human manipulation.
Fulfill your dreams! You only have one life to live…when it’s your time to leave this earth, you ‘want’ to be able to say, ‘I’ve lived my life and fulfilled ‘my’ dreams,… Now I’m ready to go HOME! When God gives you favor, you can tell your haters, ‘Don’t look at me…Look at Who is in charge of me…’
Pass this to all of your family & friends who you know are not hating on you including the person who sent it to you. If you don’t get it back, maybe you called somebody out! Don’t worry about it, it’s not your problem, it’s theirs! Just pray for them, that their life can be as fulfilled as yours!
Watch out for Haters………………..BUT most of all don’t become a HATER!?
‘A woman’s heart should be so hidden in Christ that a man should have to seek Him first to find her!