Yesha Callahan

Hi Hater!

For the record, I hate the song “Hi Hater”. I find it to be one of the most annoying songs being played on the radio and I swear 93.9 WKYS plays it every two hours.

But with that said, it never ceases to amaze me how people try to cut other people down, especially in a working/professional environment. I’m the type of person who goes to work (well most people who know me say I’m barely there), I do my job and I basically keep to myself and mind my business. Typically the only people I interact with is my assistant and my boss, I keep other interactions with my coworkers to a cordial ‘hi’ and ‘goodbye’.

In my line of work, I work with projected forecasts and making and/or exceeding those forecasts through out the year. For the past few months, because of health and family issues, being in the office was not a priority for me. Most of the time I telecommuted and worked from home. Certain people in my office felt it was there business to wonder why I wasn’t around much, but that was between my boss & I.

Recently during a staff meeting, which I was absent from, my boss went over our forecast results. In shocking news to my coworkers, but not to me, he informed them that I was the only one to meet the forecast and even exceeded it. My assistant, who was attending the meeting in my absence, could only smile but there was no smiling on my other coworkers faces.

Hi Haters.

After that day, I thought I was working with icebergs instead of humans, because the cold shoulders became even more frigid. What they fail to realize is that it truly strokes my ego even more to receive so much ‘hateration’. My assistant, who is a lot older than me, brought in the “Hi Hater” song, and now often plays it in her office. Like I told people when I started there. I’m there to do two things, do my job and to do it extremely well.

 

Have you come across “haters” at the workplace? How did you handle them?

 
Below is a piece Maya Angelou wrote about “haters”.
 

Hater

Maya Angelou

A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends all their time, trying to make you look small so they can look tall.

They are very negative people to say the least. Nothing is ever good enough!

When you make your mark, you will always attract some haters…That’s why you have to be careful with whom you share your blessings and your dreams, because some folk can’t handle seeing you blessed…It’s dangerous to be like somebody else…

If God wanted you to be like somebody else, He would have given you what he gave them! Right? You never know what people have gone through to get what they have…

The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but they don’t know my story… If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, you can rest assured that the water bill is higher there too!

We’ve all got some haters among us! People envy you because you can:

Have a relationship with God!
Light up a room when you walk in!
Start your own business!
Tell a man / woman to hit the curb (if he / she isn’t about the right thing)!
Raise your children without both parents being in the home!

Haters can’t stand to see you happy; Haters will never want to see you succeed; Haters never want you to get the victory, most of our haters are people who are supposed to be on our side?

How do you handle your undercover haters?

You can handle these haters by:

1. Knowing who you are & who your true friends are *(VERY IMPORTANT!!)

2. Having a purpose to your life? Purpose does not mean having a job. You can have a job and still be unfulfilled.

A purpose is having a clear sense of what God has called you to be. Your purpose is not defined by what others think about you.

3. By remembering what you have is by divine prerogative and not human manipulation.

Fulfill your dreams! You only have one life to live…when it’s your time to leave this earth, you ‘want’ to be able to say, ‘I’ve lived my life and fulfilled ‘my’ dreams,… Now I’m ready to go HOME! When God gives you favor, you can tell your haters, ‘Don’t look at me…Look at Who is in charge of me…’

Pass this to all of your family & friends who you know are not hating on you including the person who sent it to you. If you don’t get it back, maybe you called somebody out! Don’t worry about it, it’s not your problem, it’s theirs! Just pray for them, that their life can be as fulfilled as yours!

Watch out for Haters………………..BUT most of all don’t become a HATER!?

‘A woman’s heart should be so hidden in Christ that a man should have to seek Him first to find her!

 

 

  1. August 21, 2008 - Reply

    I remember what Katt WIlliams said about haters (I’m paraphrasing)…. “I like haters! They let me know that I’m doing things right. If you have 10 haters, you should work on having 15 by the end of the week!”
    I love having goals…

    • August 21, 2008 - Reply

      @Sabrina

      Yeah, after next week when my boss anounces his restructuring of our dept. I’m sure I’ll have a few more..LOL!

  2. August 21, 2008 - Reply

    u know folk say i hate on my blog for what i write about
    chk this
    http://rawdawgb.blogspot.com/2008/06/phd.html

    • August 21, 2008 - Reply

      @rawdawgbuffalo

      I remember that one 😉

  3. August 21, 2008 - Reply

    What! Amen and Halleluyerrrr.
    I love this piece. I did have haters on my job but, they’ve since been *cough* let go. Maybe if they focused on their job more, they would still be here. I may still hae haters here because like you, I give a Good Morning and a Good Night…and go about my business, which is work. I choose to have conversations with a few people because I’ve shared an experience with them.
    I will def spread the Maya Angelou piece around. Though I detest the word (and song) “hater” because of it’s mis- and overuse…like the word “ghetto”….you can’t help but find it appropriate sometimes.

    • August 21, 2008 - Reply

      @Ani

      See, I always love it when the ‘haters’ get ‘let go’..LOL! I always make sure to leave a nice little note for them.
      I was never a fan of the term either…and can’t stand the song even more!

  4. August 21, 2008 - Reply

    Yep, haters are rampant in the workplace. At my old job it was two white women, one more so than the other. Didn’ even work in the same city with me. For some reason I was always getting hated on by white women who liked to bully others, I thik because I wasn’t having that rude bully stuff going on near me. They would say crazy things to me at meetings try to devalue my opinion etc. I would check them in a professional manner then they would cry to my new boss (my old boss was never listening to any of that foolishness). I would be like you can’t have it both ways. How you gonna want be the baddest bytch, but when that doesn’t work run and go tell it on the mountain. Puhleez! Crying and whining I can not STAND crying and whining.
    You forgot to add you also came to work to look FABULOUS while doing both 1 and 2. *lol* I don’t get people who think office attendance somehow tied to work production. You can work from anywhere.
    Thank you for Maya Angelou piece that was beautiful and true and you know I already copied that and mailed it to the fam.
    -OG

    • August 21, 2008 - Reply

      @OG

      OHHH, fabulousity is a necessity!! I get a horrible side-eye from one coworker in particular..but all I can do is laugh!
      For some reason alot of women can’t seem to work together in the work place..I know my boss feels like he’s a referree sometimes. Now I see why he stays in his office with the door closed..lol

  5. August 21, 2008 - Reply

    I feel ya! Growing up, I could never spot a hater but they were always lurking…waiting for me to fail. I use to listen to their senseless advice and stay awake a night wondering what the hell was wrong with me. But now, now with a little maturity I can spot a hater 15 miles away. My haters have made me stronger and I’m I thankful for their haterism. So to my haters….Thank You…Love You…and Keep up the good work, cause you just define my greatness.

  6. September 14, 2008 - Reply

    I needed to read this. It was motivating… haters? Who? 🙂 Keep knockin em out sis.

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