I’ve never been one for the usual pomp & circumstance that comes with celebrating a birthday. For my 30th birthday I was practically talked into have a party at a lounge in DC, and needless to say, I’ve learned never to do that again. I would have settled for a nice evening at home with a bottle of wine. The stress of coordinating with friends in and out of state was quite ridiculous. And only then, to have a few ‘so-called’ friends who live practically around the corner not to show up, but those 3-4 states away made it into town for the festivities. As I look back on my 31st birthday, all I can say is “I could of had a V-8”. It was the most excrutiating 4 days of my entire life. It was spent with a former S.O (significant other), who came to visit me from NYC. Up until the day of his arrival, I was literally praying that he would call and cancel, but of course, that didn’t happen. I guess it was a good thing that he came to visit, because it made me realize how much we didn’t have in common and how much of my time I had already wasted.
This past year has included a few ups and downs, but I always believe things happen for a reason. Stagnant friendships and horrible relationships came to an end either forcefully or people eventually ‘faded’ out of the picture. But with every dark cloud there’s always a silver lining. I continued to grow and develop healthy friendships with some truly special individuals. Like the old saying goes, “You win some, you loose some”. This birthday was made special early on by two of my friends, Carla & Pele. They went above and beyond their call of duty as true friends in my life and I definitely apprciate them! Turning 32 today, isn’t something that I’m depressed over, honestly, it’s just another day for me. I spent these past couple of days adjusting to my new place and unpacking, so unlike my 30th and 31st birthdays, this one will be spent with a bottle of wine.
One tradition I do follow for my birthday is a resolution list of sorts. I never believed in making New Year Resolutions, but I do follow the “new year” in a sense of another year of my life that has passed and another year that has begun. For some reason these ‘resolutions’ seem a little more poignant, than the ones that are made on January 1st and usually broken by January 2nd. Although a few of my resolutions are a bit personal, I will share some of them:
Continue to lead and not follow
Strive to live a meatless lifestyle
No matter how much physical pain I may continue to endure on a daily basis, never let it become an obstacle, but learn to push through it.
Learn the art of patience when it comes to coworkers and family members who know what buttons to push that may provoke thoughts of my hands around their necks.
So yet another year has passed, more lessons have been learned. So I can’t wait to pop open that bottle of wine later on tonight!
I’m sure on Tuesday I’ll wake up with a hangover from hell, but it’ll all be worth it.