Yesha Callahan

Ghosts of HoShit Past

*Disclaimer: hoshit is a slang term that can used in jest, doesn’t necessarily mean “ho”, well maybe for some of yall *shots fired* (lol)

Imagine this scenario:

You’re standing across the room in a crowded lounge in DC, Sade’s music is playing in the background, everyone is drinking and having a good time. You then catch the feeling that someone is staring at you, you turn around and your eyes meet, but the guy doesn’t say one word to you.

For the rest of the night, the “he’s looking at me feeling” is looming around.

You think to yourself, “Well damn, is he going to say something? It’s not like we parted ways on bad terms”.

Now, I’m sure whether you’re a man or woman, you may have been in a similar situation. You see someone that you’ve dealt with, out in a public setting, and you know they see you, but instead of saying “hello”, they just stare you down all night long.

It then becomes a game of, “will/won’t he or she say something”.  And that’s exactly what happened last night. Even my friend @ThePBG commented on him this morning, and said, “ur ghost of hoshit past looked a bit shaken n’ stirred last night…I was like, what’s the deal??”.  So not only did I notice it, but she noticed it as well.

What I didn’t understand, if you’re going to glare me down all night, why not just open up your mouth and say ‘hi’? Considering that the parting of ways was quite amicable, what’s the big deal?  Let me also say, that I didn’t feel that I should have said anything because I was fine noticing him for a second, and kept it moving. I wasn’t the one with the staring problem, so no, I wasn’t going to approach him.

Long story, short, if you happen to see someone from your past out & about, it doesn’t hurt to say hello. Besides, it’s rude and creepy to stare people down all night long. Take a picture, it’ll last longer. Thanks to @ThePBG for being my inspiration this morning (lol)

  1. February 4, 2010 - Reply

    I ran into an ex when I was out recently. I didn't feel any need to run up and say “what up” because she was with her boyfriend, but she did. It was a more than little awkward when she walked up to my friend and I gave us big hugs. And I could tell by her man's face that he felt the same way. That's her way though, so I understood. Not my style though.

    It definitely depends on the situation, but one should always be cordial. Especially if you ended on good terms. No need for the staring games. Depending on where you're from, you could go from staring at someone to staring at a glass flying at you. Hahaha.

  2. February 4, 2010 - Reply

    Dear Guys,
    It's really lame to be out in public and see a woman you used to “deal with” (that's the author's euphemism, NOT MINE) but act like your d*ck will fall off if you speak to her. Don't be such a scary-faced jerk, because I WILL clown you.

    Amicably yours,

  3. February 4, 2010 - Reply

    I'm so sorry that you have to experience nonsense like this from bamma ass kneegrows.

    A friendly greeting is all that's required. It doesn't take much. No spots need to get blown. No shade thrown.

    I've been out the game so long I forgot that people still do this dumb shit.

  4. February 4, 2010 - Reply

    You are so fortunate to be out of the game…b/c it's brutal at times!
    I'm friendly to everyone when I'm out..I don't know what his problem was..but I'm sure he's reading this (well, after he opens up the email with the

  5. February 4, 2010 - Reply

    Yes, I know what your euphemism
    I mean seriously, for you to notice it too…ridiculous.

    Yes people, The PBG will CLOWN you with a

  6. February 4, 2010 - Reply

    Aww your ex sounds nice! 🙂
    being cordial goes a long way..some ppl don't realize that.

  7. February 4, 2010 - Reply

    The game is all sorts of brutal! I can't even deal!

  8. February 4, 2010 - Reply

    I'm generally prone to seeing behavior like this as tied to age.

    I'm well into my 30's now and I recall 20's being a mess of silliness, and I wasn't even a casanova who was out there like that.

  9. February 4, 2010 - Reply

    I actually encounter this because no one I attended college with will leave this blasted city, me included. Friends come back and visit and I always seem to run into some random. Since I usually go out with my husband (the grapevine let it be know QUICK when I got married) it is usually a stare at you across the room. If we are at the bar at the same time I will extend the olive branch and speak but I have learned that men really aren't looking to “speak” if you are with your current significant other.

  10. February 4, 2010 - Reply

    Seriously, to be staring like that to me exhibits stalker tendencies.

    Watch ya back

  11. February 5, 2010 - Reply

    I'm just glad you defined the different forms on HoSh*t lol… I was throughly confused at first hahaha… I do agree with RiPPa though…

  12. February 5, 2010 - Reply

    I don't get it. If you're not going to at least give me the “wassup” head nod then fade into the background. That doesn't make a lot of sense.

  13. February 5, 2010 - Reply

    nah it's not like that..haven't seen him in
    he was probably just enthralled by my beauty lol

  14. February 5, 2010 - Reply

    Rippa's like an over-protective older brother lol

  15. February 5, 2010 - Reply

    nope doesn't at all…that's men for u.

  16. February 6, 2010 - Reply

    I HATE awkward interactions like this. Ive been started at before & its always uncomfortable. I have taken the liberty to walk up & say something. At times, that made things more awkward. “I know you been looking at me. You like this?” LOL!!!

  17. February 10, 2010 - Reply

    OMG that happened to me a few weeks ago! I saw this guy, we'll call him Adam (because that's his name and what's the chances he'll read this? Lol). We saw each other, but he was talking to a girl at the bar, so I didn't go over and say hello. I just continued talking to the group of girlfriends I'd came with. Adam was looking over and around the girl for the next few minutes staaaaaring me down. I ended up turning my back to them because that's awkward. Finally, he edged his way away from the bar (with the girl in tow) and proceeded to talk to her two inches away from my head! What was the point of that? Anyway, my friends were ready to go so we left.

    I'm glad to know weird stuff like that doesn't just happen to me. Lol

  18. February 15, 2010 - Reply

    Wow, how ignant. LOL What is the point? Do you think if you stare long enough you'll be zipped back into the past to redo it? *rolling eyes*

    Me? I probably would've simply walked toward him…and then just feet before reaching him…make a sharp left or right turn, or walk right past him. Torture is FUN. lmao

  19. February 17, 2010 - Reply

    I think he was probably going through in his head, why he isn't with you. He could have been at a low point in his self-esteem where he wasn't at a place in himself where he could approach you. Then on top of it, you looking as beautiful as ever, all he could do was stare.

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