Yesha Callahan

Women Reportedly Called B-tches, Harassed, & Booed During Steve Harvey TV Taping With 2,000 Men

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Steve Harvey hit Chicago last weekend to tape a two-hour TV special for his daytime talk show about “What Men Really Think.”

 

Apparently, what men really think is kinda terrible.

According to a ChiTown comedian named Tim Dunn, who attended the gathering, things got a little dicey when a couple hundred women joined the group of about 2,000 men.

Dunn detailed what transpired on his Facebook page:

– Over a hundred women were seated onstage, and when they got up to speak they were catcalled. This resulted in the warm-up comic asking the men to stop catcalling, as the vibe in the room had become “too rapey.”

– When women skyped in to ask Steve for advice, their image was displayed on large screens, which men would either catcall or groan at based on the women’s looks. And like, if you looked at the guys groaning, spending a night with any of these women would be the absolute best night of their lives.

– During a segment about how often men want sex, a young man got up and mentioned that he is sometimes too tired from work to have sex with his girlfriend. He was immediately booed and had homophobic epithets yelled at him.

– During the same segment, a woman got up and described a time when she didn’t want to have sex because she had just finished a tiring road trip. In that time, she was first catcalled, then booed, ending with a man yelling “you haven’t done your duty!” in response to her story.

– To end that segment, Steve said it should be the woman’s decision whether or not to have sex. Only the women onstage, the comedians in our row, and a few other men throughout the theater applauded that statement.

Well damn.

Dunn’s account seems to also jive with the story told by two other comedians on Sammy Tamimi’s podcast.

Jordan Sargent of Gawker reports:

All of these stories were echoed on a podcast composed of other local comedians in Chicago, hosted by one named Sammy Tamimi, who tipped me off to this story. On Tamimi’s podcast, Bryan Duff and Tyler Samples describe men in the audience essentially claiming some of the women on-stage—“I call the one in yellow!”—screaming things like “you bitch,” describing a woman who appeared via Skype as a “pump it and dump it,” and yelling “pussy” and homophobic slurs at the aforementioned man who said he was sometimes too tired to have sex.

To be clear, Duff and Samples aren’t exactly heroes here. During the podcast, Duff talks about going to the taping as a character called “Rape Culture” and—as he tells it, unintentionally—inciting the crowd by acting out misogyny while “in character.” In imitating the men in the crowd, they also slip into voices in which they are obviously referring to black men. (That said, photos from the taping make the crowd look relatively diverse.) They also argue that a male member of the on-stage panel was actually in the closet, and went on to parody his effeminate voice.

Nonetheless, both the Facebook and podcast accounts seem to argue that Steve Harvey, in his quest to show “what men really think,” got a little more truth than he might have wanted. Duff and Samples also noted that warm-up comic Rubin Ervin told the crowd it was getting too “rapey,” and say that they saw one woman on-stage try and tug the bottom of her skirt down in response to the catcalls.

Harvey became a “dating expert” after his book Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man hit the New York Times best sellers list.

The two-hour dating special is set to air September 8 and 9 on Harvey’s show, and we really hope it’s not as offensive as these reports let on. Guess we’ll just have to wait and see.

  1. August 20, 2015 - Reply

    All of that will be edited it out I’m sure while Steve opens with “I’ve rounded up a bunch of good brothers here” to tell you what we really think.. They may let a few mildly offensive ones slide in for controversy sake but guarantee all that catcalling and language will be edited out… Heck from the descriptions the comments alone would HAVE to edited out bc FCC don’t play .. No way they are letting words like pu$$y, fa((to, etc be aired on a prime channel in he afternoon … This ain’t HBO Sunday night

    • August 20, 2015 - Reply

      @K_

      Pretty much.

    • August 21, 2015 - Reply

      @K_

      Steve needs to do a followup show. The show needs to be called, “The parents of the men who didn’t act like gentlemen in our last show.” I have gotten into this debate many times in my adult life. Show me a man who doesn’t act like a gentlemen; more likely than not, his parents didn’t teach him how to act like a gentlemen. There are exceptions to this rule. America has a problem with how a lot of boys are being raised at home. These boys turn into the men a lot of you women unfortunately experienced in your life.

  2. August 20, 2015 - Reply

    1. Won’t be viewing, plus I never watch Steve Harvey because I don’t care for him.
    2. I’m not surprised about any of this.

  3. August 20, 2015 - Reply

    Steve stays on the colon train.

    • August 21, 2015 - Reply

      @LuvMyBrownSkin?

      I came back to your comment a couple times, and I’m dying to know. Are you saying “colon train” like he’s always on some isht or was that a typo & you meant coon train? Either way is funny & accurate, but it’s killing me trying to figure out.

      • August 21, 2015 - Reply

        @Me

        Check out c o o n train on YouTube.

        • August 21, 2015 - Reply

          @LuvMyBrownSkin?

          I heard of the video. It shows people’s names and the anti-black talking points of people who believe in post-racial mythologies.

        • August 21, 2015 - Reply

          @LuvMyBrownSkin?

          OMG. I did not know that was a real thing. I’m dying over here and it looks like there are multiple parts. I’m dead. Thank you for introducing this to me.

          • August 21, 2015 - Reply

            @Me

            Your welcome.

        • August 21, 2015 - Reply

          @LuvMyBrownSkin?

          I saw that coon train video before i think the irritated genie did that one.

  4. August 20, 2015 - Reply

    I hate these what men REALLY think shows. My grandma watched Black men revealed and she still talks about how much it upset her years later. She just couldn’t believe black men were saying all of these horrible things about Black women, she was hurt. She kept asking me Staci is it real? Is that really real? We need to not give these type of shows any attention.

    • August 21, 2015 - Reply

      @Staci Elle

      Staci, I remember that dreaded show! It was pathetic, trifling and pitiful.

      • August 21, 2015 - Reply

        @Noirluv45

        I didn’t even watch it because I already knew how it would be but she did and its hurts me she had to see how low BM had sunk. All
        i could do is comfort her by telling her that of course they picked the worst men they could find to be controversial.

        • August 21, 2015 - Reply

          @Staci Elle

          You know, I feel her pain because when I was growing up in the 70’s, the Black men (of course not all of them) had a certain respect and love for Black women. I never in my life heard such misogynoir like I do today. It’s sad to see how far down many of them have stooped. What you told your mother was the best explanation for the debacle she witness.

      • August 22, 2015 - Reply

        @Noirluv45

        Steve Harvey is such a buffoon

    • August 21, 2015 - Reply

      @Staci Elle

      My understanding is that the audience was predominantly made up of white males. The photo above seems to confirm this.

      • August 21, 2015 - Reply

        @joe

        Understood, I still wont watch it. The only men I care about I already know how they REALLY think about women, feel me?

        • August 21, 2015 - Reply

          @Staci Elle

          Regardless of the color of the people in audience, the males in the audience who disrespected women made fools out of themselves. I rather look at real documentaries and real shows uplifting out people. I understand where you’re coming from.

      • August 21, 2015 - Reply

        @joe

        Actually, many attendees reported that the producers of the show expressly chose to seat mostly white men on the floor level, while Black men were mostly seated on the balcony level. Let’s be clear: this was done on purpose to achieve a particular effect.

        • August 25, 2015 - Reply

          @Adebisi's Hat

          Side note: I love your username LOL.

          • August 25, 2015 - Reply

            @Bkmews

            LOL, thanks. As far as I’m concerned, that hat was the hero of the show.

  5. August 20, 2015 - Reply

    You already know that all of the offensive portions will be edited out. Unless you can obtain unedited video from the public forum, then you will be out of luck confirming this.

  6. August 21, 2015 - Reply

    Steve Harvey is a relationship expert, now, you all. Steve Harvey! What does that tell you? Just based on that “fact” alone will I not even entertain the notion of thinking about considering watching this tom-foolery. Steve Harvey should have stayed in the comedian lane….

    • August 21, 2015 - Reply

      @NubiPrincess

      Right?! How does a fool who’s been married FOUR times and admitted to cheating on his wives repeatedly have any credibility at all as a “relationship expert”? Have all those nonsense articles/blogs/tv shows about how nobody wants Black women really done such a number on so many of us that we’re willing to accept this man’s coonery and buffoonery without thinking critically? Is it so important to us to be with a man that we’re willing to put up with the dregs of humanity? Wake up, people!

      • August 21, 2015 - Reply

        @Adebisi's Hat

        Yes sadly many have drank the kool aid

  7. August 21, 2015 - Reply

    One thought came to my mind. Recently, I saw an episode of the Tamar Braxton show. It showed a male touching women in an inappropriate way (including some of the Braxton women). When he got called on it, he screamed, cursed at a woman, and was about to fight a woman until he left the location. That anti-woman mentality (as expressed by that male) is found among the misogynists during the taping of the Steve Harvey show. Steve Harvey is the person who said that he doesn’t care about slavery. Fundamentally, we have a very serious problem with misogyny, especially misogynoir in our community. No one should be disrespected because of their ideological views or their gender. Also, more men have to stand up and check males who act in such a buffoonish behavior. There is no justification for treating women or anyone else in this fashion at all. This evil behavior is promoted by misogynists (who don’t know what feminism is, but they obsess with calling feminism every word under the sun). Ignorant punks spewing misogynoir doesn’t surprise me. Black women are entitled to have their voices heard.

    • August 21, 2015 - Reply

      @truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

      Your comment about men needing to call other men on their buffoonish behavior reminds me of when my ex-roommate was telling me about how a friend of his from high school would date rape girls at parties when he got to college by slipping drugs into their drinks. Apparently the guy was very big on it and would do it repeatedly. He’d raped 15 girls last time they’d spoke.

      I don’t know if you recall that “Anti-Date Rape Nailpolish” article that came out a while ago? Well, the same article popped up on Facebook and when it did. I told my ex-roommate, “You should tag that guy that likes to slip things in girls’ drinks and say ‘Now how are you going to get laid?'”

      To my horror my ex-roommate was so apprehensive about calling out this rapist! Like, scarily apprehensive. I pressed him on it and he just answered, phone in hand, with a pathetic, “I don’t know…” I eventually got him to do it only AFTER threatening to do if he wouldn’t. But the fact that this “good guy” was hesitant to call out an out-and-out rapist… Well, let’s just say he’s an EX-roommate for a reason.

      • August 21, 2015 - Reply

        @PrimmestPlum

        Hello Sister.

        The story that you have shown definitely outlines how male privilege is real and how even some “good guys” are hesitant in calling out injustice. Yes, I do remember about the nail polish article. The epidemic of abuse and rape against females is a worldwide problem. More and more organizations are fighting back and there is a long way to go. Your words validate that point further that more men have to step up and not only talk about these issues, but be part of the solution as well. Rape is an evil crime and it is totally wrong. Its victims suffer a lifetime of pain and hurt. People of all backgrounds and all genders are victims of it and it is a total disgrace that many audience members at that location in Chicago didn’t have the decency to respect the dignity of women. Any person in that place who disrespected women or anyone else should be ashamed of themselves.

        Steve Harvey knows that his words appeal to some of the most retrograde, misogynistic thinking males in America (these misogynists ironically believe in the same views about gender as the white supremacists). We are certainly fighting a war against rape and a war against injustice. When anyone’s human autonomy is violated, all of our rights are violated. When one person suffers, then we all suffer. Thank you for showing that story, because it is very important to be aware that timidity in the face of injustice is a vice while courage, honor, dignity, and precious virtues.

        • August 21, 2015 - Reply

          @truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

          My view is its a reflection of our character even if we don’t participate ourselves. Its an indication of what we will accept or not accept or more specifically a reflection of what we find reprehensible or not reprehensible.

          Although not as reprehensible, this is how i feel about associating with known cheaters or people who do dirt. If we are still friends with them or associate with them, thats a reflection of our own values.

          • August 21, 2015 - Reply

            @gull2861

            ITA-My mother was good friends with a woman who she eventually found out did really repulsive things to attract men. She cut off ties with her immediately.

            • August 21, 2015 - Reply

              @Vintage

              Association brings about assimilation. Good for your mother, Vintage!

            • August 21, 2015 - Reply

              @Vintage

              Sad how some women’ self esteem is just in the toilet. What a tragic lady.

      • August 21, 2015 - Reply

        @PrimmestPlum

        You know the saying, “The standard you walk by is the standard you accept”. As far as I’m concerned, your former roommate is equally complicit in the rape of those women.

        • August 21, 2015 - Reply

          @Adebisi's Hat

          I completely agree with you. I was absolutely dumbstruck when he was not just hesitating–but legitimately contemplating over it like it was the most morally conflicting decision in the world. And it’s not like he vague on the details either. Where one could say “Oh if she didn’t do this or that..” From what he told me, the details were very explicit and there was no way around it. It was rape.

      • August 21, 2015 - Reply

        @PrimmestPlum

        A rape apologist that’s scary

        • August 21, 2015 - Reply

          @Mary Burrell

          Very scary. I never looked at him the same way again after that.

          • August 22, 2015 - Reply

            @PrimmestPlum

            Too bad some of these brothers can’t grow a pair and confront those trifling miscreants who practice misogynoire

    • August 21, 2015 - Reply

      @truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

      “Also, more men have to stand up and check males who act in such a buffoonish behavior.”

      That’s the saddest part about everything. Only a few men in the audience seemed to have any kind of sense, and still it doesn’t sound like any of them were doing much to stop the madness.

      • August 21, 2015 - Reply

        @Me

        That is truly sad indeed. Our ancestors were heroic, strong people. Some men worship so much male privilege that they refuse to do what is right in a cowardly fashion. I think that Harvey knew that such a meeting would end up in such a dysfunctional fashion. Steve Harvey could have easily stopped the madness and give a passionate speech in condemning the behavior of many audience members and condemn misogyny in general with his voice. Yet, he didn’t. We know why he didn’t. We live in a society where harsh rhetoric is found in America. That is one weakness of American and Western society. Some ignorant people fail to realize that when women are liberated, all in the human family are liberated. The madness must stop and reason, logic, and justice ought to reign in the world.

        • August 21, 2015 - Reply

          @truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

          Of course Steve knew the crowd would be this type. Everything I’m reading about the whole production seems like the room was filled with 2,000 Steve Harveys. Steve wants to act all proper & knowledgeable now, but misogyny is his history. To this day he still talks about women as if they are men’s servants and puts even the lowest men on a pedestal for women to chase after. His definition of a good man is just any man with a job that goes home to the same bed every night. The only reason he even concerns himself with women is because he knows there are so many gullible women desperate for some secret trick to catch a husband that they’ll spend their last dime on his “advice”.

          • August 21, 2015 - Reply

            @Me

            Steve seems to forget that some of the most evil men in history are those with a job and puts a front of acting like a “good guy.” Harvey believes that men must be entitled to a woman by birthright. A lot of the people in the crowd definitely agree with his misogynistic agenda. For him to say that he doesn’t care about slavery shows that he is just plain wrong. His advice on relationships reminds me of the old Victorian rules found in the UK over a century ago. We know that Harvey would never say that women’s bodies belong to no one but to themselves and relationships should be voluntarily created not made into contentious competitions. Love and I mean true Love should never be based on a competition, but on mutual bond and a mutual respect for human beings.

          • August 21, 2015 - Reply

            @Me

            Him and his janky country bama self. I never bought into that relationship garbage he was pushing. I sure wasn’t going to buy that stupid book or see those stupid movies.

      • August 21, 2015 - Reply

        @Me

        Exactly, which is why I asked why didn’t Harvey shut those fools down?

        • August 21, 2015 - Reply

          @Mary Burrell

          Ratings and laughter.

        • August 21, 2015 - Reply

          @Mary Burrell

          Some of his fans feel vindicated since they’re given the platform and he gives them a soft validation, others feel placated because he just barely admonishes those people. It’s corn pone nonsense.

          • August 22, 2015 - Reply

            @Jo 'Mama' Besser

            Just like a true country bama. Sad.

  8. August 21, 2015 - Reply

    At the risk of victim blaming , who are these women associating themselves with Steve Harvey and asking him for Advice?????
    This whole any black men with a pulse is a prize and that everybody including a serial cheater is qualified to lecture BW needs to stop Like seriously …Steve Harvey Nope

    • August 21, 2015 - Reply

      @blogdiz

      I had the same thought and felt kinda bad about it. No one deserves to be disrespected like this but come on now-Steve Harvey? Years ago on his radio show he told a Black woman that her man would leave her because she decided to wear her hair natural, then he cackled and hung up the phone and went to a commercial. And as someone else mentioned here, any Black male who brags about how he doesn’t care about slavery is not a man, period. I didn’t even understand why some Black women trooped out to the Million Man March; yes it was a totally different crowd and environment but i was like damn why ya’ll breathing down their necks like that-stop holding their hands and let them try and figure stuff out on their own for once. Also agreed that whole any BM with a pulse is worthy of assessing a woman’s existence and desirability is so played out.

      • August 22, 2015 - Reply

        @Vintage

        He’s a hypocrite.

  9. August 21, 2015 - Reply

    Nah, I REALLY hope they put all of this into the special, so America can see how disgusting men really are. It’s not our imaginations. And if it doesn’t go into the special, I hope some other network does a behind the scenes expose on it.

    • August 21, 2015 - Reply

      @Me

      And hold Steve Harvey and the rest of those cretins feet to the fire the hypocrisy he preaches.

  10. August 21, 2015 - Reply

    Although I am not certain, I wouldn’t be surprised if someone made these women sign a non-disclosure agreement behind the scenes. I do not watch his talk show and I try not to watch Family Feud although members of my family watch it. However, my views of Steve is that he is virtually a misogynistic male version of Wendy Williams. If anyone has ever caught glimpse of any of his radio show segments, he is foul-mouth, uncouth, and blatant in terms of his amount of co oning. Therefore, any misogyny that comes across on his show is only a smidgen of the behavior that he has exhibited on his radio show. I don’t know any self-respecting woman who would show up on his show after hearing some of his radio show. A clear example was his response to a woman asking about PCOS. His response was deplorable and ignorant.

    • August 21, 2015 - Reply

      @Tajmarie

      Agree with everything you wrote. A couple years ago I used to have a radio alarm clock, and when they took away the other R&B station in my city, all I had left was the Steve Harvey morning show, until they finally brought another R&B station in. It was the worst 2 years of my life. Between that pseudo sermon for the gullible and his tacky unfunny comedy bits, it was all cringe worthy. The part that always amazed me is that he seems to have two intelligent sounding women on his show cosigning everything he says, and I just can’t figure out how they wake up every morning. I know I couldn’t last long on his payroll.

      • August 21, 2015 - Reply

        @Me

        Interesting point of view, Me. I’ve never listened to his radio show, but my sister does on her way to work. She says he’s very preachy.

        • August 21, 2015 - Reply

          @Noirluv45

          On his radio show, he curses like a sailor and talks about God too. smh. He also has a summer camp for youth. Harvey is certainly wrong on many issues. Some people believe in the propaganda, but there are people who love the truth instead.

          • August 21, 2015 - Reply

            @truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

            Truth, that’s one of the reasons why many people don’t take Christian’s seriously. Many of us are straddling the fence. I’m not saying that Christians are perfect, but good grief. SMH. I’ve heard a lot about his summer camp and all, but what kind of example is she showing these young Black boys. SMH x 2.

            • August 21, 2015 - Reply

              @Noirluv45

              I feel you Sister. It’s not right for him to have a summer camp and various projects and then go on his radio show to curse people out and never call out the members of that location (in Chicago) for issuing vulgar, misogynistic language against women. No human (Christian or otherwise) will be 100 percent perfect, but any real person can easily reject vulgarity and anyone can reject cat calling innocent women. Society has a sickness with various evils and injustices. Young black boys and young black girls need better than this.

              • August 21, 2015 - Reply

                @truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

                Exactly!

                • August 21, 2015 - Reply

                  @Noirluv45

                  I just can’t respect nor support Steve Harvey

      • August 21, 2015 - Reply

        @Me

        Well, one would have to look to Robin Quivers as an example.However, one could also say that about Tom Joyner. The truth is that Steve Harvey would never be where he is if a number of Black Women were not supporting him with their dollars. I remember the frenzy that occur when he had put out his first book, “Think Like a Man, But act Like a Woman”. I picked it up in a store out of curiosity and flipped through a couple of chapters. It was some of the most stupid advice I had ever read and many reader reviews validated my opinion. So, I think some women are just happy to be sidekicks and have a “go along-to get along” attitude. Others are probably just happy to look over micro-aggressions and believe that they apply to “other” women and not personally to them. However, like Mary J sung in her song “Some men think that all a girl needs is to be sold a dream”. So, apparently all of the Women who are supporting Steve (including his cohosts), are sold on the notion that he cares and respect them when the only person he probably respects is himself.

        • August 21, 2015 - Reply

          @Tajmarie

          Exactly. Without a significant number of Black women (and other women of color) supporting this vile creature, he wouldn’t be anywhere near achieving the levels of success he now enjoys. We really need to stop supporting people whose actions and rhetoric are literally dangerous to our communities.

        • August 21, 2015 - Reply

          @Tajmarie

          Ugh. Don’t get me started on those books. The first one I refused to purchase, so I sat in the library one afternoon & read it. Waste of my afternoon. Then the second one, I would’ve done the same thing, but it was the book of the month for my book club & I ended up having to buy it because I couldn’t find it locally in the library. Waste of my money.

      • August 23, 2015 - Reply

        @Me

        He had Jacquie Reid for awhile but after she stopped kissing his butt, he fired her and Tom Joyner picked her up.

    • August 21, 2015 - Reply

      @Tajmarie

      My sister listens to his show and she says he’s always talking about God and how He’s blessed him. SMH.

      • August 21, 2015 - Reply

        @Noirluv45

        Yeah, that makes me sick when i am on the shuttle going to work the driver has that mess turned up full blast. I have to put my Pandora radio music on and have my earbuds to drown that garbage out.

  11. August 21, 2015 - Reply

    This sounds like some of that Tommy Sotomayor Sargent Willie Pete black woman haterstuffv onn YouTube. When they started acting ignorant why didn’t Steve Harvey shut that mess down? I don’t like him. Glad I didn’t see this crapfest

    • August 21, 2015 - Reply

      @Mary Burrell

      Sotomayor and Sargent Willie Pete are lower than low.

  12. August 21, 2015 - Reply

    who is surprised by this? Steve Harvey is a fraud and doesn’t deserve an emmy…he is a man who came up by offering unwanted advice to women from a man’s perspective, didn’t he trash his ex wife after he became big??? watch who you salute ladies, this is what happens.

  13. August 21, 2015 - Reply

    As I said last week, no one an I mean no should be shocked . . . . this is what these fine gentlemen (#SarcasmIncarnate) think of us.

    Instead of ride and die, pack and leave!

    Shame on you Steve Harvey, but I feel even more sadness fro the women who will indulge this nonsense!

    #I’mDone
    #DBR
    #Don’tBLess

  14. August 23, 2015 - Reply

    That is disgusting but not surprising. The best advice the women should have taken when they participated in this mess was to not worry about what men think and just do and be them regardless if they are in a relationship or not. I don’t know how Steve Harvey got his “dating/relationship guru” but it needs to be revoke. As for these men behavior, it is not shocking there are a lot of boys pretending to be men but want to the perks of being a man and being with a woman but don’t know the forest from the trees.

    • August 23, 2015 - Reply

      @binks

      Exactly.

  15. August 24, 2015 - Reply

    Please keep in mind that not every Black man is a Brother. Those are the types you have to step over and ignore. There are still Brothers out there who aren’t suffering from Stockholm syndrome, if you know what I mean.

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