Yesha Callahan

Taraji P. Henson Talks Dating on The Wendy Williams: ‘Men Don’t Court Anymore’

300ClipoftheDay7073“Guys don’t court anymore,” the ‘Empire’ star said Thursday on The Wendy Williams Show.

“Take me out to dinner! Say you’re gonna pick me up at a certain time! Dating should be an event, you know? You like the guy, so you want to get pretty for him, so you spend all day, and the spark [ignites]. Whatever happened to that?” “[Some of them] think that they can take you to Chipotle or griddle pancakes and then jump in the sack,” Henson added to her explanation of why she’s not dating.

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  1. January 9, 2015 - Reply

    I like chipotle

    • January 10, 2015 - Reply

      @Mary Burrell

      Me too, Mary. I wouldn’t be bothered if a man invited me out to talk and get to know each other over burritos. I don’t see what the issue is.

      • January 11, 2015 - Reply

        @Drea | TheDreaDaily.com

        you are right there should nothing wrong with it from time to time if that’s what you two enjoy.

  2. January 9, 2015 - Reply

    I had a guy take me to chipotle once and he was earning a good salary. Needless to say, I married a different guy.

    • March 19, 2015 - Reply

      @Tira Masu

      Haha you’re so stupid, you did him a favor. I bet your husband is a doormat.

  3. January 9, 2015 - Reply

    She makes a point. I think a lot of people have simply dropped the whole idea of dating, because a lot of people don’t think they need to try anymore. Just showing up and presumably paying for the meal/drinks is enough. Why bother? You could just as well stay home with an entertaining book or doing something else you might actually enjoy.

  4. January 9, 2015 - Reply

    I am glad that I am not the only person who uses the term “courting”.
    Just hearing the word reminds me of the tales that my great-grandma and my grandaunts used to tell me about their courtships with their husbands: how their husbands could only sit on their porches and living rooms, about how their parents were too far from where the young couples sat and other stories.

  5. January 9, 2015 - Reply

    Chivalry and courtship is dead. Guys rather hook up than date. It’s up to us women to set the standard for the men we choose to date. They’ll only do to us what we allow them.

    • January 11, 2015 - Reply

      @Mahogany

      “Chivalry and courtship is dead” but it is not dead by no means however a women can’t carry herself one way and expect a man to treat her another way that’s confusing to a men, and you are so right “it’s up to you women to set the standard for men you choose to date” and when y’all do that men almost always try to meet that standard think about it!

  6. January 10, 2015 - Reply

    People like Taraji P. Henson need to disavow from the former days of courtship and simply adjust to the times. Otherwise, you’ll always find yourself complaining about what’s wrong with men nowadays. We’re far too invested in a singular ideal of what (hetero) dating, relationships, and marriage ought to look like. This has to change. Besides, the way I see it, ain’t nothing wrong with eating and getting to know one another over burritos. What’s the crime in that?

    • January 10, 2015 - Reply

      @Drea | TheDreaDaily.com

      The times are different yes, but things are changing in a bad way. A lot of men, not all, aren’t putting effort in getting to know a woman and the reason for that is because we let them treat us like that.
      If I am and act like a lady I expect you to be gentleman. For example, texting has its advantages but a phone conversation feels more personal. No one is asking you to put on a show, but at least show that you care. Is that too much to ask? IJS

      • January 11, 2015 - Reply

        @Mahogany

        100 percent right. Don’t care of the times have changed, somethings are just about respect.

      • January 11, 2015 - Reply

        @Mahogany

        “No one is asking you to put on a show, but at least show that you care. Is that too much to ask?” No” however if he care for you and value you he will do his best to try and meet you standard but the problem is sister now days carry themselves in a way that is in conflict with a high standard.

        • January 12, 2015 - Reply

          @TheBurningBush

          but the problem is sister now days carry themselves in a way that is in conflict with a high standard.

          You love stereotyping African-American (AA) women but hate it when someone stereotype AA men. When you look into the abyss the abyss also looks into you.

          • January 12, 2015 - Reply

            @Objection

            ok guilty!!!! but the hold key here is we are trying to get “understanding” so try and understand what I tried to say and that is “if a women “realistly” carry and conduct herself at a high standard and set the standard higher “reasonably” any man who care for her and is interested in her will try his best to meet her standard” because he want her and that’s the power within women that most of the time y’all fail to embrace.

            • January 12, 2015 - Reply

              @TheBurningBush

              I will say this. We hold the key in making MEN treat us the way we want to be treated or need to be treated.If a man believes that he can get by doing the bare minimal in getting your attention, without truly putting in that work in getting to know you well, he will do just that, the bare minimal because he believes he does not have to work for the attention or work to get what he wants.If we are sending those signals as women, in their mind, anything goes.

              Back in the day, men had to put in that work if they wanted you. And this is still the case for certain people today.On the issue of courting,all males interested had to be vetted by the families, fathers of these women . I feel, getting away from that does not hold most of these males accountable for their acts so getting the ultimate prize means nothing now. I think on both sides,men and women have gotten away from the over idea that people have to put in work. It should not be easy to give “things”away and expect a total understanding how someone is suppose to respect you.They don’t know because they are not being told.

              • January 12, 2015 - Reply

                @CourtneyrrR

                my point, Thank you wise, fair, smart and well balance sister!!!!!!

                • January 13, 2015 - Reply

                  @TheBurningBush

                  I understood what you were saying. I just believe that ultimately, it’s up to women..The men are going to follow regardless.

                  • January 13, 2015 - Reply

                    @CourtneyrrR

                    Amen, you got it, that’s is the way it’s has always been, and the way nature plan it.

  7. January 10, 2015 - Reply

    I think that courting seemingly has died because a lot of people (men and women) date with no end game. They are not intent on a long term commitment, so they approach dating very nonchalantly.

  8. January 11, 2015 - Reply

    If I meet a strange man who’s interested in me, I’d prefer to grab a pizza or hang out at a coffee shop. Getting all dolled up and dining at a fine establishment as a first or second date feels too stuffy for me. It’s too formal, too soon,lolz.
    If the potential is there for things to develop into something more, then I think the romance would/should organically fill itself in. Being on the receiving end of roses and chocolates from a guy I *just* met is a bit overwhelming for me. Lol.
    (Please don’t reply angrily to my post. I’m just politely stating my opinion).

    • January 11, 2015 - Reply

      @androu

      I agree with you. All my first dates are something informal. But I think some folks don’t want to let a relationship develop and have sex only to be over the person a few weeks later.

  9. January 11, 2015 - Reply

    At the end of the day, you have to allow any human the freedom to date on their terms. Taraji P. Henson has the right to fulfill her own aspirations in life as she fit. We live in a new generation, but we still have every right to follow the tenets of integrity, mutual respect for people, dignity, and standing up for justice. I wish the best for Tariji P. Henson. She represents DMV to the fullest. I will let that be known too.

  10. January 11, 2015 - Reply

    with all of her talents Taraji sound juvenile, she need to grow up, mature and change the company she keeps.

  11. January 14, 2015 - Reply

    Dinner, and long telephone conversations are good when you’re in a actual relationship.

    For the first date, meeting for coffee is more appropriate. Anything less formal is better than restaurant.

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