Yesha Callahan

Open Thread: Tamera Mowry Talks Losing Her Virginity, When Did You Lose Yours?

Open Thread: Tamera Mowry Admits To Losing Her Virginity At 29

In a recent interview with New York radio station, Hot 97, Tamera Mowry opened up about her sex life. Mowry stated that because of her religious background, she waited until she was 29 to lose her virginity.

“I don’t know how to explain this. I’m religious, so I waited until I was 29 to lose my virginity.”

Tamera lost her virginity when she was dating her now husband, Fox News correspondent Adam Housley, but she stated she had mixed feelings about the whole experience.

“I did it, then I felt guilty, then I became celibate until I got married.”

In a previous interview with The YBF, Mowry went into a little more detail about her decision to prolong sex and not to live together:

“We decided, it was both of our decision, not to live together for religious reasons,” she said. “I’m being very honest. We actually didn’t wait before we got married to be intimate…but we did wait 3 years. […] I wanted to do what felt right for me. I became re-virginized. It’s something that just felt right for me. It was just a personal choice. And even after being intimate, we decided as a couple to be celibate until the wedding.”

 

What do you think about Tamera’s decision? At what age did you lose your virginity?

 

 

  1. July 22, 2013 - Reply

    does her religious background say anything about TMI?

    • July 22, 2013 - Reply

      @jamesfrmphilly

      In movies, music, and TV they’re always talking about sex and how often they have it. Nothing wrong with someone talking about going against the grain with their dedication to God.

    • July 22, 2013 - Reply

      @jamesfrmphilly

      Lol. You’re right. It really is too much information. I don’t really want to know about any celebrity’s sex life/ virginity whatever, religious or not.

  2. July 22, 2013 - Reply

    I sort of feel like this is just none of my business and shouldn’t make headline news.

  3. July 22, 2013 - Reply

    It’s still TMI when it happens in movies, music, and TV.

  4. July 22, 2013 - Reply

    This sounds like something she really thought about and I respect her convictions because I really sympathize with however I don’t understand why this is something people talk about publicly. Celebrities ask for privacy then go and open their bedroom door and laundry hamper for anyone willing to pay.

  5. July 22, 2013 - Reply

    “Its too much information. I dont need to know that.”

    How come we dont share those sentimemts when other celebrities share their very active sexual lifestyles? Or are these reactions solely reserved for those who waited?

    • July 22, 2013 - Reply

      @Lisss

      Right! Ppl don’t have a thing to say about “TMI” when celebs broadcast thier very sexually active lives all over tv and the internet, but when someone shares about how they waited for thier husband all of a sudden its “TMI”. Here’s some seats, have several…..

    • July 22, 2013 - Reply

      @Lisss

      That’s not true. People had felt this way when Jada used to have interviews openly discussing how she and Will were very intimate with one another when having sex. That is why I felt she was a hypocrite when she brought up this notion that there is some difference between “true” love versus “romantic” love through her question whether a man’s love is through his penis. Therefore, I think the issues that people have goes further than the TMI category — but being sick and tired of the notion that somehow the decisions that celebrities have made in their lives are to serve as platforms for how non-celebrities should live their lives or reflect on their own decisions.

    • July 22, 2013 - Reply

      @Lisss

      I very openly share my sentiments when celebrities share their sex lives, active or dormant. It’s all too much and really none of our business. To me it’s pandering to the very least common denominator and it’s like “oh you don’t have anything else interesting to talk about? okay”.

    • July 22, 2013 - Reply

      @Lisss

      I’m not interested in hearing about anybody’s sex life, no matter how much “activity” is or isn’t going on. Personally, I think when people talk so much about their sex lives, particularly to espouse on how great and plentiful it is, they are seeking attention or compensating for something else that is lacking.

  6. July 22, 2013 - Reply

    Does she know u cant be revirginized…once u hv had sexual congress its done. No amt of celibacy will make u unlearn or undo what u did….smh
    And really y is her husband not touting when he “lost” his virginity?
    Why share this at all….if u a virgin until 55 y explain this to us…it aint our business

  7. July 22, 2013 - Reply

    I think its awesome that she was able to stick to her own personal values and morals. American society is sex crazed, and to make sex something special that you share only with your spouse takes will power IMO. The fact that its considered news that she remained a virgin till 29 is something to think about. Our society admonishes teens for not waiting, but if you get too far into your 20s (or God forbid 30s) you get chastised for not having sex after the first few dates. People look at you with the screw face and wonder what’s wrong with you. Live and let live.

  8. July 22, 2013 - Reply

    I love Tamara and I’m glad she shared this. I lost mine at 21; after a year of courtship. We were both virgins and I don’t regret it once. Lots of women I know once they hit 20 feel the need to “just get rid of it” because everyone else is doing it. Someone close to me is planning to lose it this year as we speak and is not in a serious relationship; I’m not happy about this. So kudos to Tamara for talking about this.

  9. July 22, 2013 - Reply

    It really annoys me that women’s sex lives must always be up for public discussion. If it’s not a study of how many people we sleep with, it’s an article about the positions we use. Everyone stay the heck out of my vagina. Please and thank you.

  10. July 22, 2013 - Reply

    Love Tia & Tamera! They don’t make celebrities like them anymore…very hard to come by. Also, I watched the video…and who is this guy?! I hate ignorance!!! For some reason, I feel like Tamera can do better than this show, in my opinion.

  11. July 22, 2013 - Reply

    If you watch the interview she’s not the one that even brought it up. But even if she did then I applaud her for sharing her story. Young girls need to know that it’s okay to wait before marriage and more importantly that there are men out there that are willing to wait and respects a woman’s conviction to keep herself! I totally agree with the previous comment! If on the flip side she was talking about how active she was no one would be saying….TMI

  12. July 22, 2013 - Reply

    A part of me feels like it’s TMI, but I know that she speaks to a lot of women out there who want to wait or chose to wait until marriage before they have sex. I’m not a virgin, but I am religious and know that a battle with many women is finding a mate who shares the same convictions. I think it’s great that she shared her experience of having someone who waited with her.

    S/N: Anyone know what she means by “re-virginized”? Is that something spiritual?

  13. July 22, 2013 - Reply

    TMI folks TMI some things are best left to ones self, slippery slope next thing folks are all up in your biz something serious. I will say I am glad to see Tia and Tamera so well adjusted as former child stars, we know what this business does to kids. Their happy married moms and business women great to see, that its possible to not be a trainwreck as a kid in show biz if raised right.

  14. July 22, 2013 - Reply

    “If you watch the interview she’s not the one that even brought it up…”

    This is not really address to you, Tina, but your comment had inspired me to vent.
    What is wrong with having discussions about virginities? And why in the hell do some people become so offended, when another person declares that they are ‘waiting for marriage’?
    I’ve noticed (not on Clutch, but in real life) that some people feel slighted/offended, whenever another person states that they are virgins. I’ve been involved in several situations (unfortunately) where a woman (again… unfortunately) denigrate another woman because of her choice of not having sex.
    The worst experience that I’ve witnessed was watching… what I thought was an awesome woman who I believed was mature and open-minded, insult another friend of mine to the point where she made the woman cry deeply while we were seated in a restaurant.
    I told the story about this incident to a relative of mine (another woman) who gave me a misogynistic explanation for my ‘awesome lady-friend’ reaction. The short and clean version of my relative’s answer: my friend was insecure about her sexual history. Hearing the virginity declaration brings up the insecurity. For me, I believe in the ‘whatcha do in the privacy of your home is your business’ unless it is illegal and it involves a non-consenual party. So, if you are virgin, great. If you’re not a virgin, that is great too. I don’t take your choices as an affront to me.

    • July 22, 2013 - Reply

      @MimiLuvs

      I’m inclined to agree with you Mimi. I think shaming other people for choosing to abstain is really crap. Having said that, I wouldn’t necessarily encourage my future *adult* children to abstain until marriage. My spiritual, non-religious beliefs lead me to feel like loving sexuality between adults is a very healthy element of life to experience before marriage; specifically, sexual compatibility between two loving people is something which can be comfortably explored. I don’t like the way people who don’t respect intimacy exploit others for sex, and at the same time though conversely, I don’t like how taboos are placed on something which, in its natural state, can be a wonderful, meaningful part of human exploration. Sorry if I sound all hippy dippy, but sometimes I worry that by pushing sex towards taboo for the ‘unmarried’, we further marginalize it, thus enabling it to viewed as a dirty act, or something which when we become more spiritual inclined to class as a ‘sin’ or something feel we need to ‘recover’ from. If we have been exploited or have sought to exploit others, then I can understand wanting to recover from said sexuality, but if we made choices from places of love and natural inclination and consent, then it seems unhealthy to frame it as something that we need to recover or repent from. I think having a mother who encouraged me to find love with a person, and THEN explore my sexuality created a mindset in me which led to very positive experiences, and a healthy framework with respect to sexuality throughout life. Thoughts, anyone?

      • July 22, 2013 - Reply

        @TheNewGirl

        Thank you. I think you have said it all. Whether someone decides to maintain their virginity or engage in premarital sex or even sex without the prospect of marriage is and should be a personal choice to me.

      • July 24, 2013 - Reply

        @TheNewGirl

        @TheNewGirl Well said! It also makes me feel uncomfortable when sex is looked at in our society as taboo or a sin. What makes me the most upset is when virginity is held up as some kind of “prize” for your husband which takes all of a woman’s choices and worth out of the equation making only one body part valuable. (usually the expectation to remain a virgin falls heavily on the female sex).

        I hope for the future a more healthy outlook on sex because there seems to be no balance. Either you are pressured to be a virgin or pressured into the “hookup” culture.

    • July 22, 2013 - Reply

      @MimiLuvs

      yes Mimi, – THANK YOU!

      people have done that here before (getting venomous about virginity) but thankfully not anymore. talks on virginity are now regulated to “tmi” …don’t know if that’s progress…

    • July 22, 2013 - Reply

      @MimiLuvs

      I personally get tired of ppl declaring their virginity for variety of reasons lemme explain

      the only ppl i ever see declaring they r virgins are women, and in doing so kinda perpetuate the slut shaming. Its almost this superiority complex. just like who i sexed aint nobody’s business, who i havnt sex aint nobody’s business either

      just like we never introduce ourselves as heterosexual or homosexual ( real adults in real life) why should my sexual history be put out like that. Unless i’m about to sleep with u, it doesnt enhance our relationship. in fact it shouldn’t change our relationship at all.

      3rdly what is the big deal…if its ur personal conviction why u gotta either tell us or explain it to us. ppl should stop talking about sex like it was the be all and end all of relationships. its just 1 aspect and when and who u decide to have it with is UR BIZNESSS111

      • July 23, 2013 - Reply

        @miele

        Girl…….No. Just, No.

  15. July 22, 2013 - Reply

    Age 22, when I was a grown woman and felt ready. Suck it, peer pressure! Nuff said.

  16. July 22, 2013 - Reply

    Right! Because obviously those who DON’T wait are worth modeling after. Too many backwards people.

  17. July 22, 2013 - Reply

    They didn’t ask her husband. They asked her. Even if they did ask him, he doesn’t look like he would answer.

  18. July 22, 2013 - Reply

    24 and still a virgin :-/

    • July 22, 2013 - Reply

      @Apple

      Second that!!

  19. July 22, 2013 - Reply

    Ummmm, so she had sex before marriage at a later age than most people?? What’s the big deal?

  20. July 22, 2013 - Reply

    @miele

    I understand and I agree with your reasoning.
    However, in the incident that I mentioned, my friend had mentioned her virginity because we asked. Well, the members of my company had asked her. I already knew about her sexual history and her reasoning behind her stance.
    My other friends asked her because she was silent during our conversation, which was about sex. After she told them, she was asked more questions and she answered them honestly. And then, she was verbally attacked by my ‘open-minded’ friend.

    • July 22, 2013 - Reply

      @MimiLuvs

      Yeah. Its a shame that the virgin friend had to b shamed for her sexual history…and sometimes ppl who identify as “learned” are as ignorant n judgemental.

  21. July 22, 2013 - Reply

    *clenches teeth* You can NOT be “revirginized”. Once your hymen is broken it’s broken. Once the male anatomy enters you that’s pretty much it. These days our entire society is tmi, so who cares that she decided to share this story. I’m glad she did, so younger girls can know that not everyone loses their virginity at 17 or 18 and that you can make a conscious decision not to lose it. With all the music, movies, romance self help books etc. you start to see one view of sex. It amazes me how some people still don’t get that sex is extremely subjective.

    That whole revirginized, born again virgin, w.e. the hell they call it concept needs to die though.

    • July 24, 2013 - Reply

      @solfresh

      OMG the “revirginized” comment is not that serious (this isn’t just directed at you. A lot of ppl had the same reaction but I’m just venting here. sorry). Tamara is a smart woman, I’m sure she (like most intelligent women) know that scientifically speaking you can’t get your virginity back. It was just her way of saying that she wasn’t going to have sex anymore and was going back to mindset she had when she was a virgin. A lot of ppl who say they are celibate don’t see it as long ter (ie, until marriage,) but rather until they are in their next serious relationship).

      I do agree with you that our entire culture is tmi and that it is nice for kids to hear that it’s okay to go against the grain and wait to have sex if that’s what you choose to do. We hear countless celebrities talk about having sex during interviews and in their music so there is nothing wrong with her sharing another perspective.

  22. July 22, 2013 - Reply

    I prefer that celebrities don’t share their sex lives at all. Whether it’s that they waited until marriage, slept with a bunch of people, or somewhere in between. I’m sure she was prompted to tell this info but I feel this is the type of convo you have with your girlfriends.

    I already feel like society is already too invested in celebrities lives. Furthermore, sometimes it feels like women celebrities who wait to have sex latently expect to be congratulated or something. But it’s her personal story…do you, Tamera.

  23. July 23, 2013 - Reply

    She and her husband decided what was best for them. That’s the best thing anyone can do in a relationship. I think it’s fine for her to share that (not great, not terrible). We have no problem with people sharing how much and how often they have sex, especially rappers or other entertainers. We talk about sex all the time, even on this site from time to time. Why is it TMI when she shared that she didn’t?

  24. July 23, 2013 - Reply

    I am a lady in my mid-twenties who is still a virgin trying my best to hold onto it through God’s strength…definitely not of my own. I just feel way too guilty every single time I am almost about to do it that I’ve just decided God knows best and I will just wait. It complicates things less for me.

  25. July 24, 2013 - Reply

    I recently lost my virginity and felt guilty as Tamara described. I had been a virgin for religious reasons. And truthfully looking back on that night it wasn’t worth the guilt I felt until I confessed & repented. Now I’ve decided it’s best I’m celibate & I’ll wait until I’m married to engage in sexual activities. As for those that believe her sharing her sex life is TMI?? I’m a bit confused when other celebrities in her position give in detail what they do or are turned on by… Meanwhile, she just started how she lost her virginity, felt guilty, and chose to wait till marriage by becoming revirginized. I just believe there’s a stigma that ppl need to stop. First, some ppl commend a person for being a virgin next minute they taunt the person for their decision to abstain. Ultimately, that probably comes from the persons guilt therefore they feel the need to taunt a person who decides to abstain from sexual activity.

    • July 24, 2013 - Reply

      @Lenp

      Is being “revirginized” something different from celibacy? This article is the first that I’ve heard that term used.

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