Yesha Callahan

Here’s the ‘Being Mary Jane’ Scene Every Woman NEEDS to Watch Before Getting With a New Man


There are only two episodes left in this season of BET’s hit drama Being Mary Jane, and Mara Brock Akil deserves a serious round of applause.

In addition to bringing in millions of viewers, BMJ has touched on so many relevant issues from mental health and suicide and dating “entitled Black men“, to being a complete badass in the workplace. While the second season was pretty great too, this go ’round, Akil and her writers have put their foot all up in this show!

And this week’s episode was no exception.

Tuesday, Mary Jane decided to break in her new white boo, but before they got it on she made him take a slew of tests. While some folks on Twitter accused MJ of being “extra,” we think the move was downright brilliant.

We’ve heard the warnings and slogans before about “no glove, no love,” and still so many Black women are becoming infected with sexually transmitted infections like HIV. In fact, Black women account for nearly a third of all new HIV infections among Black folks so we think more sisters should follow Mary Jane’s lead.

Take a look.

Whenever you start seeing a new boo, do you two get tested?

*BTW: Learn more about rapid HIV tests (or buy your own), here.

  1. December 3, 2015 - Reply

    YEEEESSSSS!!!!!!! This scene has been on my mind all week. I’m definitely making this part of my pre-coitus routine almost frame for frame going forward.

    • December 3, 2015 - Reply


      This is why I was so excited when they first announced they were developing at home HIV tests. It destigmatizes and demystifies the act of getting tested which will eventually make it as commonplace as checking a baby’s temperature. Progress!

  2. December 3, 2015 - Reply

    I loved the scene. Thank you, Mara Brock Akil, for saving a few lives and making us understand our value. I hope that item on the “menu” becomes a new trend in our community. –Nothing wrong with loving and respecting yourself enough to protect yourself.

  3. December 3, 2015 - Reply

    It is always important to be tested before sexual contact comes about. Protecting yourself saves lives literally. We want people to enjoy life, be protected, be safe, and be real.

  4. December 3, 2015 - Reply

    I thought it was a smart thing that the character did what she did before becoming intimate with white boo.

  5. December 3, 2015 - Reply

    Brilliant idea! However, we need to be careful about electronic devices too. These days, it’s too easy for your ‘situation’ to end up all over the internet.

  6. December 4, 2015 - Reply

    I thought the scene was wonderful but at the same time Mary Jane and a lot of the other characters engages in risky sexual behavior throughout the show. I mean before she invited said guy in her house she was getting fingered in the club with his tongue down her throat and she has been getting it in with “cutty buddy” so even though this scene is wonderful I think this message should be presented throughout the show not just an after thought.

    • December 4, 2015 - Reply


      “I mean before she invited said guy in her house she was getting fingered in the club with his tongue down her throat ”

      Well, damn!

    • December 4, 2015 - Reply


      True, I don’t watch this show but from what I gather she is rather active.
      Casual encounters are just not worth the risk and of course the more active you are the more at risk you become.
      Monogamy with a partner you can trust to be so, and couples testing for STD’s prior to any activity is the way to go, otherwise abstinence.
      There is TOO much going on out here to take chances with your well being.

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  7. December 4, 2015 - Reply

    As a man I appreciate this show for dealing with real issues facing women and still being a good show. I wish more people dialed in to this instead of Empire.

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