Yesha Callahan

Dear Future, This Is Not How You Deal With Custody Issues

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Atlanta rapper Future took a little time out of his day to send his high-profile ex-fiance a message: you’re a bitch.

In between promoting his music, Future let his Twitter fingers spray a little venom Ciara’s way, and their little one, Baby Future, seems stuck in the middle of it all.

https://twitter.com/1future/status/684085032558944258

https://twitter.com/1future/status/684085537339224065

https://twitter.com/1future/status/684086685567684608

While Ciara’s been pretty mum about her breakup from Future (save for “I Bet,” a song reportedly about Future), this isn’t the first time the DS2 rapper vented about his youngest child’s mother.

Back in September, Future lamented about the fact Ciara allowed her new beau, Russell Wilson, to hang around the pair’s son, and last summer he spilled a few intimate details about their sex life and the end of the relationship.

Still, Future’s latest tantrum about his former flame shouldn’t have happened in front of his two million Twitter followers, who promptly used his tweets to question Ciara’s motives, or outright call her names.

https://twitter.com/Montiee9k/status/684128718051123200

After Future’s words made the rounds, folks chimed in to defend Ciara, and remind folks how court-mandated child support works.

https://twitter.com/BJDuronslet/status/684091198865158145

https://twitter.com/daniecal/status/684092042172063744

https://twitter.com/daniecal/status/684091804342444033

https://twitter.com/HollyGoNightly1/status/684091504852348929

While there are certainly two sides to every story, we wish Future would take a cue from his ex and keep their co-parenting drama out the tweets.

  1. January 4, 2016 - Reply

    Those tweets in support of future were so gross, just goes to show you the kind of people who like future and their tool mentality.

  2. January 4, 2016 - Reply

    I wish women would have enough self-respect to stop having kids by males (it feels weird calling him a man) like future. Ciara should not have even dated him. Why tie yourself to a man like this for the rest of your life and have him as the example for your child?

    • January 4, 2016 - Reply

      @Ang

      I feel sorry for this child to have this fool for a father. Future needs to grow up and do better.

      • January 4, 2016 - Reply

        @Mary Burrell

        So do I. But, in situations like this I have to fault the mother also. Future has all the red flags that should tell women to run and do not procreate. This had “single mother and baby-daddy drama” written all over it.

    • January 4, 2016 - Reply

      @Ang

      She’s human. She made a mistake. Thank God she’s moved on! No need to beat her over the head for the rest of her life for a poor choice she made at one time—especially when it’s clear that she’s trying to turn her life around with her new guy who’s a much better role model for her child.

      • January 4, 2016 - Reply

        @Jae Bee

        I’m glad she’s moved on. Hopefully, other women take it as a precautionary lesson. There are too many black kids growing up without fathers or with dead beat dads because of women making poor choices in men. Hopefully, women who know the guys defending future on Twitter put them on the “do not date list” also. I just want women to do better. We deserve better.

  3. January 4, 2016 - Reply

    The Tweets from Future are wrong and supporters of Future have crossed the line by calling a mother numerous horrible names. Social media in this instance has been used for evil, especially when it involves a child. A male, who doesn’t respect a woman, certainly is a person who doesn’t respect himself. This story is a lesson on how respect, and altruism are important in society.

  4. January 4, 2016 - Reply

    No matter what, Future is still losing because with every disrespectful tweet he posts, it just makes Ciara look so much better. He’s only posting the side to the story that he thinks makes him look good, and it’s terrible that people just eat that up. Maybe he’s promoting a new mixtape or something to get back in the press again…

    • January 4, 2016 - Reply

      @theresa.

      And he’s doing it in public where it can be used against him in court. Real bright that one. Better to be quiet and have people think you a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt. Too bad no one told Future that.

      • January 5, 2016 - Reply

        @Reina Benoir

        This ^^^And he’s doing it in public where it can be used against him in court.

      • January 5, 2016 - Reply

        @Reina Benoir

        Ciara’s attorney can easily shut visitation down to supervised.

        • January 5, 2016 - Reply

          @BillipPhailey

          Will that be in the interest of the child? Such action will not foster a healthy father and son relationship.

          • January 6, 2016 - Reply

            @Chris C. Chinedu

            Is it in the interest in the child to be unsupervised with a man who calls her a bitch when he doesn’t get his way? Supervision isn’t going to hurt Future (and who cares if it did?)

            • January 7, 2016 - Reply

              @Reina Benoir

              Who cares if it did? I bet the son will care later in life. Not to condone his language, but his language does not diminish his parental rights. The adults can choose to escalate or defuse the tension in their relationship. Using this public name calling incident as an excuse to deprive both the son and the father crucial life bonding moments is wrong and not in the best interest of the son.

              • January 7, 2016 - Reply

                @Chris C. Chinedu

                Having a boy unsupervised in front of a man who doesn’t have enough self control not to call the child’s mother disgusting names in public is not in the best interest in the child. You think this asshole who calls the boy’s mother a bitch on twitter won’t degrade the child’s mother in front of him? Is that supposed to be good for the child too? No!

                No one is removing the man from the child’s life they’re saying, “I want to make sure that someone is in the vicinity making sure this so-called man who clearly uses abusive language about the child’s mother doesn’t also subject the child to the same. That IS in the child’s interest. So no I don’t care that this man-child can’t be around his child unsupervised. If he wants unsupervised visits with the child he should act like a proper grown man. The behavior on display is not one of someone with whom a child should be left unsupervised.

                This public name calling incident is not merely an excuse to “interfere in the bonding between father and son, it is exactly the type of thing judges don’t like to see when dealing with child custody matters. They consider it abusive to both the person being called names and the child. Whatever you think here I can tell you one thing Future is not victim at all regardless of your rather sad attempts to paint him as one.

                • January 7, 2016 - Reply

                  @Reina Benoir

                  Because he used a deragotary term towards his ex that why he should be supervised like he is a danger to his son? His public outburst did not harm his child in any way, the child is too young to understand whats going on on Twitter or other media outlets. But what will harm the son is what you are advocating. Here we have a black male with an out of wedlock young son (which is not ideal) but wants to be a part of his life. This should be encouraged. The father/son relationship dynamics will be negatively affected. Boys look up to their father for moral, emotional and physical strength ( basically a hero). This hero complex allows the father to mold the son into a productive member of the society, and that starts from a young age. The unwarranted supervised visitation you are advocating for will diminish the father’s standing in the son’s eyes and makes it difficult for the father to mold his character. Ideally both adults should treat each other with respect, we don’t have details of the other party’s actions, but you have come to the conclusion that Future is an asshole and a man-child. Trying to get back at the father when there is no evidence that he is a danger to his child will only hurt the child in the long run and the child is the only VICTIM.

                  • January 7, 2016 - Reply

                    @Chris C. Chinedu

                    Your concern for the child seems secondary to your concern for the child’s father. This seems to be more about some hotep bullshit on your part than any actual concern for the child’s development but let’s play.

                    You’re right we don’t know what the “other party” Ciara is doing in this situation. Do you know why? Because she, unlike Future, didn’t broadcast her business on twitter vis a vis their custody issues. Future did whilst calling her a bitch which is why I have labeled him an asshole and a man-child.

                    Future’s main concern seems to be that Ciara dared moved on without him rather than the welfare of the child. That does’t look like something a good father would want to project in public. It is what an asshole and a man-child projects though.

                    Furthermore, the supervision is not unwarranted nor is it interfering with the child’s ability to bond with his father. The supervision is to make sure nothing untoward happens with the child including the possibility of kidnapping and if someone is so pressed about the supervision that they’d choose to not see their child rather than deal with the supervision, then they were never all that concerned about the child in the first place. Based on this tirade nobody would reasonably argue that that is not a possibility to watch out for based on Future’s own words and any lawyer worth their retainer would have saved those screenshots for use as evidence.

                    As to the child’s father’s feelings I don’t give a damn about them. again if he were so concerned about not being forced into supervised visits he wouldn’t have acted the damn fool, complaining about supporting the child he claims to care so much about whilst denigrating the child’s mother in public. That kind of abusive language is certainly enough for a judge to give any parent the side eye if they step into their courtroom trying to make excuses for this kind of behavior.

                    There is nothing in your reasoning that would keep a judge from ordering visits be supervised (and rightly so.)

        • January 6, 2016 - Reply

          @BillipPhailey

          That might be happening now. I’d be screenshotting all this mess if I were her.

    • January 4, 2016 - Reply

      @theresa.

      Exactly. I will never understand the hatred that some men have for the mothers of their children when they put them on formal child support and/or seek court sanctioned visitation rights. There are some women who do use their children to be vindictive, but doing those 2 things are just basic care of your child. Even if a father was already taking care of their child financially and emotionally, all that does is make it formal and put everything in writing. And if he feels his child isn’t being taken care of properly go to court and petition for full or sole custody.

      • January 4, 2016 - Reply

        @Mico

        Exactly! But you will never see him go that far to fight for his child. Just bitch and moan on social media with no action.

  5. January 4, 2016 - Reply

    Shaking My Head

  6. January 4, 2016 - Reply

    Are all his other children girls? Is that why he’s so damn pressed about this one child and you never hear anything about the others?

    And 15K a month isn’t fuckery it’s for upkeep of your child you asshole!

    Is Ciara the first woman with enough sense to take his ass to court he’s been with?

    • January 4, 2016 - Reply

      @Reina Benoir

      The others are dependent on him financially. I believe he bought a house for at least one of the other mothers. Ciara doesn’t need his money so he has no control over her. I think that lack of control is what really bothers him.

      • January 5, 2016 - Reply

        @Ang

        I believe that is why he is upset that Ciara does not need his money and no longer interested in him romantically. He seems very bitter.

  7. January 4, 2016 - Reply

    Silent doesn’t mean what he thinks it means because this boy doesn’t stop.

  8. January 4, 2016 - Reply

    Typical example of when a f*ckboy is hurt. He is just mad that Ciara is no longer in his pocket, at his beck and call, and has moved on from him with her life and not trying to be trapped in the drama of baby daddy, sister wives, etc. If he truly has issue with the custody arrangements and not seeing his son like he claims then he needs to contact the courts, not Twitter. But something says if he does, the judge would see he is full of crap…side eye so the next best thing is to trash her over social media. And calling Ciara out of her name, his son’s mother and a woman he wanted to marry at one point, is NEVER a good look and says more about him in this situation than her.

    Ladies PROTECT YOUR WOMB in 2016!

    • January 4, 2016 - Reply

      @binks

      There is something that is very disturbing about a man publicly humiliating the mother of his child.

      • January 5, 2016 - Reply

        @Ang

        And the sorry ninja who support and agree is disgusting as well.

    • January 5, 2016 - Reply

      @binks

      there is nothing more fragile than a fuckboy’s ego after his ex realizes she should move on….

    • January 5, 2016 - Reply

      @binks

      I love your post!!! This is what makes Future look bad.He is posting his frustrations on social media. Ciara can use these tweets against him in court if she wants to.

  9. January 5, 2016 - Reply

    Keep tweeting, Future, so that everyone sees how ignorant and toxic you are. I weep for his son. Women, beware.

  10. January 5, 2016 - Reply

    Wow way to play into her hands. None of us really know the situation and it is wrong to take either of their sides in my opinion. As much as Ciara may have a good enough reason to stop him from seeing his child, I know plenty of women who can be vindictive because they have the power and they just can. They are are happy they get money but if that means the dad wants to see his son, it can cause issues. He took his frustration to the wrong place and he may be genuine in wanting to see his son. I know a few fathers who have lost their rights to be just fathers over some trivial shit and then women want to talk about equality. There is a lot a women who can get away with a lot a man cannot just because how women have been seen in western society. At the end of the day these two need to put their differences aside and that means tuning out their egos so the son grows up seeing both his parents. I wills say this again as I know I may be attacked for my commentary, I do not condone Future’s behaviour or how he decided to deal with the situation at hand, however none of us knows the whole story. There is always three sides to a story, his, hers and the truth. I hope they can come to an agreement and it ends well fir their child, bruised egos will sooner or later heal.

    • January 5, 2016 - Reply

      @mywordsaremypower

      There’s a lot of truth in your statement; however, he made a private matter public, and he resorted to calling his son’s mother an animal. And I don’t feel it is coincidental that he chose to vent after Russell Wilson’s record setting achievements Sunday. He needs to realize that it’s going to be heartbreaking when his son grows up and sees the vile statements made by his father about his mother.

      Also, when he resorted to invective in reference to his child’s mother, it was disrespectful to Ciara and all black women. It’s why Don Imus felt justified and comfortable calling those young women “nappy-headed hoes” and why John Mayer thought it was appropriate to make dismissive statements about black women. People outside our community proceed this way because they feel some of our men perceive us negatively, which in turn, supports their false statements. The beauty is that more black men are showing all men how black women should be valued and cherished. For example, we see this when Russell celebrates his mother, his grandmother, his sister, and Ciara. Let’s pray that all parties are able to privately settle this matter for the sake of an innocent child–and his equally innocent siblings–while realizing that there are ramifications being made that affect us all.

    • January 7, 2016 - Reply

      @mywordsaremypower

      I did say I didn’t condone his behaviour but to act like people don’t do things anger is laughable at best. If his son’s sees his statements that is, and if it does then Future will have to deal with it when the time comes and explain to him the reasoning behind things. Let us not think Ciara has not or still will say things about his Father in front of him. Future did the stupid thing and make it go public she has kept quiet publicly does not mean she is not cussing him out behind closed doors.

      I dont’t think you read anything I said properly, I said I do not condone his behaviour and he has chosen the wrong way to go about it. I understand how problematic it is for black women. Even if he never opened his mouth he is not the only male that thinks this way towards black women, so I would not just put him on the hook for those statements because I have seen it all over music and it makes no sense to pin it on on person. All I said was there sides to the story we don’t know and Future has already by social media standards made himself the villain with his words towards Ciara and they may be disgusting but you cant’t pretend she is 100% rainbows and unicorns. Ciara may just be a lot smarter and cunning and not everyone is what they seem in the public eye. I was just looking at this from both sides and how it is none of ours business no matter how public it is made to talk about the situation we clearly do not have any facts about. I guarantee you if it came out from a couple of months from now that Ciara was not at a ll gracious as she is being now, I can guarantee you people would switch sides and be calling her out of her name. I have seen first hand situations like this played out publicly and people who were watching the events unfold where only hearing one sided arguments. That is why I said people should not be taking sides as every case of this situation is different. I know plenty of people whose parents cannot be in the same room as each other but they made good parents and they are appreciative of what the other one does even if hey cannot stand to look at each other.

      Unfortunately men’s mindset on how black women are supposed to be treated has not changed overnight and it will be a very very very long time until we see any change in how they respect us. I in my lifetime just have to be careful which male counterparts I will grace with my intelligence. Black women just have to be wary of how black men are and we cannot expect years and years of this misogynist behaviour to just stop in over night, these things annoyingly take time. For now all we can do is keep educating the ignorance and hopefully it might start hitting younger generations. As much as men can be issue there are women who feed into this narrative as well. We just have to smarter and I know why should we have to but it is the only way we as black women of today are going to survive.

      • January 8, 2016 - Reply

        @mywordsaremypower

        Trust me, I read what you said. Those were simply my personal thoughts on the matter. Have a great weekend.

  11. January 5, 2016 - Reply

    Ciara and Russell being happy and her not having to depend on Future for anything except him being a man and doing what he supposed to be doing parenting his son. See Ciara and Russell happy together galls him and he is acting out like some petulant child is comical and kind of sad. He’s actually quite tragic as I’ve stated in an previous post. He is a terrible example for the young child.

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