For the past several weeks “The Denzel Principle: Why Black Women Can’t Find Good Black Men” has been sitting on my nightstand just collecting dust and waiting for me to get around to reading it. First off, I figured I could go into this book review with a clean slate for a few reasons:
A) I had no clue who Jimi Izrael was until a few weeks before I received the book
B) Why wouldn’t I enjoy reading another book by a man telling me what’s wrong with women, particularly black women?
C) A & B
After receiving the book I still ventured out to find more info on lowercase (j)imi lowercase (i)zrael. jimi izrael is basically a jack-of-all trades. For those unfamiliar with Mr. izrael, he’s a writer, journalist and educator. He moderates “The Barbersop” for NPR’s “Tell Me More with Michael Martin” and he also blogs for TheRoot.com. He’s taught at Case Western, Cuyahoga Community College and will teach at Cleveland State University later on this year.
So let me get down to the point of this post, which is his book, “The Denzel Principle: Why Black Women Can’t Find Good Black Men”. I truly found jimi izrael’s memoir a bit discouraging to read, particularly because I’m a Black woman (go figure) who isn’t necessarily limiting her options to just include Black men. jimi izrael thinks Black women are delusional. Our standards are too high. We expect too much. We don’t know how to make good choices. We’re to blame for global warming, pollution, the budget deficit, and the failed health care system. According to jimi, we’re all delusional in thinking we could find someone of Denzel’s “magnitude”. He thinks if black women wouldn’t have such high standards and expectations, coupled with making better life choices, they would be better off.
A point of his that really touched a nerve was in his chapter titled, “She Hate Me”, in which he discusses “his” issues with single women raising boys and asked:
“Why do single moms raise their sons to be beta males in an alpha world, and then wonder where all of “real men” are? Single moms raise great beta males. But we need alpha men to save our communities.”
Unlike other take the advice of a man that has had his fair share of relationship disaster stories and is probably partly to blame “dating” books, jimi izrael’s approach is more satirical. Sure, some of the chapters were extremely long winded & just all over the place, but it’s a memoir, and his opinion, so you can only take it with a grain of salt. Who am I to knock someone’s opinion, it doesn’t mean I have to adhere to it or take their advice.
High standards? Sure I have them. Will I lower them? Never. The End.